January 27, 2013 6:39 pm at 6:39 pm #607977
What is the right way to react when you get lost on a date?
Girls, what do you think of people who get lost on a date?January 27, 2013 6:45 pm at 6:45 pm #924384☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
Act calmly, and turn on the GPS.January 27, 2013 6:48 pm at 6:48 pm #924385
Actually, every time a boy has gotten lost on a date with me, he was already using a GPS, but a road was blocked.January 27, 2013 6:48 pm at 6:48 pm #924386avhabenParticipant
Guys test girls reaction by pretending to get lost. Girls, you need not only be on your best behavior when he gets “lost”, but if you reject a date because he got lost then you failed the test. He wants to be “rejected” if that’s how you feel. He doesn’t want to marry a picky girl who flips out when someone gets lost.January 27, 2013 6:57 pm at 6:57 pm #924387
Avhaben, do you think testing someone like that on a date is ethical? I think it sounds horrible, personally.
It’s not his fault he got lost, the question is, how does he want the girl to react?January 27, 2013 6:57 pm at 6:57 pm #924388
I think that getting lost is a real test for both the guyt and the girl. The girl can see what the boys reaction is I.e if e goes crazy or just calmy turns around and same to the guy I.e if the girl gets annoyed or edgy. This is a test to see how the person will react in a stressful or pressured time. It’s a normal thing to get lost remember that!January 27, 2013 7:20 pm at 7:20 pm #924389avhabenParticipant
torah613: Of course it is ethical. That is what a date is all about! You can find out more about your dating partner in one “getting lost” incident than five other dates combined.January 27, 2013 7:37 pm at 7:37 pm #924390WIYMember
“It’s not his fault he got lost, the question is, how does he want the girl to react?”
Brilliant question. I think he wants you to roll your eyes and say something sarcastic because that would make him feel even better.January 27, 2013 11:07 pm at 11:07 pm #924391
WIY: I’ll have to try that next time.
The problem with your suggestion is that he won’t see my eye rolling since he’s looking at his GPS.January 27, 2013 11:17 pm at 11:17 pm #924392
Let’s hope no one get’s lost on a date… Only losers do…January 27, 2013 11:24 pm at 11:24 pm #924393
Shiratobala- not true!!!! Idk if your married but if not wat u x gna marry someone if they get lost?
This type of reaction is what the boy won’t like!!!!!!! This will guarantee a negative..January 27, 2013 11:38 pm at 11:38 pm #924394
this is true! The boy would stop going out with you…January 27, 2013 11:44 pm at 11:44 pm #924395funnyboneParticipant
I was once lost in downtown Manhattan; trying to find my way to the tunnel through the streets. The girl started getting nervous and wanted to know if we might end up in Harlem!!January 28, 2013 12:07 am at 12:07 am #924396
Funnybone what was the end of the story?
Shiratobala I’m happy you understand me sorry if icame out to strogJanuary 28, 2013 1:31 am at 1:31 am #924397
Superme – Harlem is nowhere near lower Manhattan.January 28, 2013 1:55 am at 1:55 am #924398SaysMeMember
shiraTobala- try getting lostJanuary 28, 2013 2:03 am at 2:03 am #924399
Lol I know…I’m playing along…January 28, 2013 3:05 am at 3:05 am #924400
why should i get lost? lol!January 28, 2013 3:09 am at 3:09 am #924401
With who?January 28, 2013 3:19 am at 3:19 am #924403yytzParticipant
Just wondering — is it a violation of the laws of yichud to drive alone with a date?January 28, 2013 3:37 am at 3:37 am #924404
Is it a violation of the laws of yichud to drive alone with your next door neighbor?January 28, 2013 4:45 am at 4:45 am #924406yytzParticipant
I guess it depends on who you hold by. From a summary I found:
“An important question arises whether driving in a car is considered Yichud. Rav Moshe (Teshuvot Igrot Moshe 4:65:3) rules that one should do his best to avoid driving a car alone with another woman even during the day on well-traveled roads. He reasons that although one is not secluded when driving, he can readily find a relatively private place alongside the road. Thus, since one has such easy access to sin when driving a car, Rav Moshe rues that driving alone with a woman in a car should be avoided except in case of great need. Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach appears to adopt the same approach in his Teshuvot Minchat Shlomo 1:91:21.
However, this makes dating in most circumstances quite difficult if not impossible. In fact, many Poskim disagree with Rav Moshe and rule that traveling alone in a car with another woman does not constitute Yichud unless one is driving in a very remote area or at a time when there are very few cars on the road. These authorities include Rav Mordechai Eliyahu (the former Sephardic chief rabbi of Israel who is a highly regarded Posek in many circles in Israel, cited in Techumin 10:311), Rav Aharon Lichtenstein (in a Shiur delivered to students of Yeshivat Har Etzion), and Rav Mordechai Willig (in a Shiur delivered at Yeshiva University).January 28, 2013 5:00 am at 5:00 am #924407
Ask your LOR for specific situations bit just learnt the hilchos…next door neighbor is definitely yochid if in a private settig make sure youdriving down roads where at least every 5 min someone is passing same with on a date along as your nt in a private place where noone expected or you brhfeelcomfortavle alone knowing that nooneis going to show up osforbidden!! We learnt that yichud is for our protection /us !!!!
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