October 25, 2012 11:20 pm at 11:20 pm #605503
Any ideas?October 26, 2012 2:24 am at 2:24 am #901239bubkaParticipant
A gift certificate for a divorce lawyer.October 26, 2012 4:49 am at 4:49 am #901240yitzchokmParticipant
Why would you give a gift, which sorta says you give a “blessing” to this defilement of Gd?October 26, 2012 8:35 am at 8:35 am #901241WhiteberryMember
Buy something related to the role of preceptor.October 26, 2012 11:59 am at 11:59 am #901242gavra_at_workParticipant
Joe: Although everyone will agree that what is being done is incorrect, your suggestion will only hurt your cause. Ezehu Chacham HaRoeh Es Hanolad.
I would suggest a Kosher Mezzuza, and you go “help” them put it up properly so that the party can get a Mitzva. As we know, Mitzva Goreres Mitzva, so that could start the path.October 26, 2012 12:04 pm at 12:04 pm #901243yaakov doeParticipant
Doesn’t giving a gift show approval of intermarriage?October 26, 2012 12:31 pm at 12:31 pm #901244golferParticipant
yitzchok & yaakov, i think you misunderstood. The OP is not giving a wedding gift. Just a gift.
I like the mezuzah idea, but I wonder if there’s a problem with putting a mezuzah in a position where it’s likely to be disposed of disrespectfully?October 26, 2012 12:55 pm at 12:55 pm #901245A Woman Outside BrooklynParticipant
My Rav poskened that I could not give a wedding gift in this situation.October 26, 2012 1:10 pm at 1:10 pm #901246zahavasdadParticipant
Who is the Jewish Partner, If the woman is jewish and there are Kids. I think the answer is very different than if the man is jewish and there are kidsOctober 26, 2012 1:54 pm at 1:54 pm #901247bubkaParticipant
We don’t treat a man or woman differently if he/she intermarries. Either way, they should be sat shiva for.October 26, 2012 3:02 pm at 3:02 pm #901248popa_bar_abbaParticipant
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Or am I the one who misunderstood??
Wedding gift- probably bad idea. Ask.
I’m not the resident CR poseik so I decline to suggest an answer.October 26, 2012 4:47 pm at 4:47 pm #901250locaMember
Omg! (Is this a troll or r we just bein dense?)
Peeps! She is a person. First and foremost. An act of kindness shouldnt be coming with ideas on how to “help” her. It should be to build a relationship. And out of love for her- ur family. Without Judgement! If I wasnt religious and was reading this because I was curious about the inside lives of the Yeshivish World Id be so unimpressed right now.October 26, 2012 6:50 pm at 6:50 pm #901251oomisParticipant
I did not gift a gift in this situation, and the bride was my husband’s niece. We also did not go to the wedding, and there were some repercussions for a while, until my sister-in-law’s husband passed away.October 28, 2012 1:49 am at 1:49 am #901252yentingyentaParticipant
SHE IS NOT ASKING ABOUT A WEDDING GIFT! she is asking about a thank you gift to her preceptor, the person who guided her on the floor for a bit.
hudi,we used to give coffee and donuts + a card to the floor and instructor. never had a preceptor (yet, IY”H soon). Did she/he ever say “i’d really like X”?October 28, 2012 1:53 am at 1:53 am #901253
She was married before she became my preceptor. This is a thank you gift for being my preceptor. (I’m in nursing school). I mentioned that intermarried part, so you get an idea of her situation.October 28, 2012 1:54 am at 1:54 am #901254
Golfer – correct.October 28, 2012 11:53 am at 11:53 am #901255Shoe store assistantMember
What about a jewish cookbook. Traditional foods have gone a long way in bringing people back.October 28, 2012 5:08 pm at 5:08 pm #901256Torah613TorahParticipant
Mezuzahs, so they can keep an easy mitzva.October 29, 2012 2:27 pm at 2:27 pm #901257dhl144Member
Gavra_at_work very well said…sounds great! misva gorreres misva! I love thatOctober 30, 2012 3:05 am at 3:05 am #901258
Gavra- that is a nice idea. Do you think it may be too “in her face” that it’s something religious?
I was thinking of getting a charm with her Hebrew name.
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