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  • #2198717
    baisyaakovgirl15
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    I am a frum bais yaakov girl living in Brooklyn looking for a place where i can hangout, spend time with friends and have fun in a kosher, girl-only environment. i feel that all the “hangouts” are not for frum bais yaakov girls but i really could benefit from having a place to go and chill while being in a frum environment. Are there any such places?

    #2198742
    yungermanS
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    Go with your friends to a Jewish kosher Gym exercise room where they have separate men and ladies hours and go there with your friends during ladies hours and enjoy yourself there

    #2198745
    n0mesorah
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    Your girlfriend’s living room. Girls shmooze nightly for select hours. Boys occasionally shmooze all night. The rest of the time, they could only hang around. The mixed hangouts allow the girls to be around at all hours. And the boys to hang every night. Nothing better happens in a specific place.

    #2198844
    ujm
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    Hangout and frum are contradictions to each other. Especially for girls.

    #2198930
    lopman23
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    You are 15 years old and in 5 short years more or less, like it or not you are going to face the reality of the real dog eat dog world so instead of focusing on satisfying your nerve endings by “hanging out” or doing other stuff that teenagers like to do that ultimately results in causing people to pass bad judgement about yourself try to keep “keep it together” for the next few short years and it will result in a lifetime of bliss.

    #2198926
    Marxist
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    @ujm

    Wow, you’re out of touch with what’s going on in the frum community today.

    #2198909
    commonsaychel
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    Yes its a place called troll

    #2198983
    yiddeshekup101
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    Look into Ohr Naava (https://www. ohrnaava.com/). It may be a viable option

    #2198994
    135847
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    “Hang-out” is a very wildly unreasonable, illogical, inappropriate, and absurd in the holiness of a jew, an ‘erliche yud’ has never had this word in their dictionary! not to be found anywhere in the Torah, Sorry, Drop-outs / hang-outers. and as King Solomon says: Kol Kevudo Bat Melech Penumo. but technicality there are other ways of saying that; as an ex. wanna be part of some kind of a program or organization and make new friends with erliche girls and erliche women which are very enjoying and satisfying on top of erlichkiet and yiras shumayim, there are so many organizations out here in Boro Park or Williamsburg and Flatbush for ‘every kind’ of Ehrlich Yiddish girl, who needs to air-out a bit,
    we should list a few of them, but every school principle has knowledge of such,

    #2199007
    takahmamash
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    @lopman 23
    The world doesn’t revolve around what other people think of you. Maybe if people worried less about what other people think, there would be a great deal less mental stress in the world.

    #2199022
    Kuvult
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    The JCC in Baltimore runs Sat. night programs for Frum teenage girls. Perhaps if that’s not going on where you live then someone could start a program.

    #2199075
    bplady
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    I agree to Ohr Naava. They have many activities for girls.
    Another idea is to get together in someone’s basement. Many people have very nice fixed up basements. You can all bring food, have music and have a great time in a safe environment.
    If you want to meet for lunch, 1982 Coffee restaurant at 5403 !3th ave. is popular with young people.

    #2199073
    baisyaakovgirl15
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    135847-
    ‘ “Hang-out” is a very wildly unreasonable, illogical, inappropriate, and absurd in the holiness of a jew ‘

    the definition of hangout-
    a favorite place for spending time

    I’m sorry if you have a different definition of “hanging out” but this is what i meant when i asked the question.

    #2199072
    bplady
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    I agree to the idea of Ohr Navaa . They have alot of activities for girls.
    Another idea would be to get together in someone’s basement. Many people have very nice fixed up basements. You can all bring food, have music. You can have a good time in a safe environment.

    #2199069
    SQUARE_ROOT
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    yungermanS:

    Where in Brooklyn is a “Jewish kosher Gym exercise room”?

    Seriously, I want to know.

    ujm and 135847:

    Your super-strict attitudes are one of the many factors that drive Jews away from the world of Orthodox Judaism and make them go off-the-derech (in my humble opinion).

    #2199090
    AviraDeArah
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    Square; there are a lot of kosher gyms in Brooklyn. Yelev veyalda and the boro park Y are two popular places

    #2199111
    Gadolhadorah
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    Perhaps some creative entrepreneur (with good legal advice regarding local gender discrimination laws) will recognize a community need and open a venue for young women to “hang out” along with a commercial shtick (as long as its not a certain Thursday night special).

    #2199119
    ujm
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    Avira, are there any other than the two you cited?

    #2199162
    Thoughtful Response
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    Directed to the OP:

    Don’t let the well-intentioned, but ill informed, bother you. “Hanging out” is normal for any teenager, and the fact that you asked specifically for a kosher way to fulfill your desire for camaraderie is laudable.

    There are many places where girls can go and “chill” and it doesn’t need to be to another shiur or ”chessed project”. Go bowling or ice skating or sit on a porch with a slurpee. Find a good kosher coffee house or art gallery (that your parents approve of… art can be great when not inappropriate).

    The unwillingness to accommodate isn’t from das Torah, it’s from people who are too afraid to ask an open shaila. I’ve spoken to many great gedolim including several just last week while in Eretz Yisroel; a big yetzer hora of this dor is to asur everything to the point of causing resentment and anxiety.

    Go chill, hangout, relax… in a kosher, yosher way. Make sure you have solid Moros to guide you. Hatzlocho!

    #2199168
    Kuvult
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    I believe gathering girls together to recite Tehillim & hear divrei chizuk with girls publicly adopting new tsnius Chumros would draw a large crowd.

    #2199270
    jdb
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    Check out Ohr Naava. Ask your school to set up some after school and motsei shabbos activities. Nothing wrong with girls getting together to kumzits, play a game, have some pizza, fun, sports etc, in a supervised environment. This is what my Mesivta did for us when they wanted us out of the pizza stores on motsei shabbos. This was 25 years ago, but the scene was always the scene. And it worked.

    #2199305
    commonsaychel
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    i have 3 places
    1. Troll
    2. Troll Troll
    3. Troll Troll Troll

    #2199356
    baisyaakovgirl15
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    @thoughtful response – thank you

    @kuvult
    – i dont believe so

    #2199457
    joe mama
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    joe mama

    #2199502
    Gadolhadorah
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    Kuvult: Almost as exciting as going to Home Depot and watching paint dry or attending a seminar on advanced trolling by R’ Yosef.

    #2199537
    @fakenews
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    It seems that some people may struggle with the difference between definition and connotation.
    In your personal life, “ hang out” may mean something that to you or perhaps even to everyone is not permissible (depending on your interpretation) but that is the connotation to you.
    Whereas the definition I believe is significantly more innocuous

    #2199552
    ujm
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    fakenews: Perhaps to you “doing drugs” might mean taking tylenol for a headache. To many others it probably connotes narcotics abuse.

    #2199620
    simcha613
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    UJM- “Hangout and frum are contradictions to each other. Especially for girls.”

    I would think especially for boys. Boys have a chiyuv Talmud Torah. There is no such thing as free time.

    But girls, especially if they’re single, should have far more free time than any Ben Torah should. Hanging out with friends in a kosher setting seems enjoyable and appropriate.

    #2199622
    @fakenews
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    Ujm:
    And perhaps to me “taking my meds“ means taking Ritalin well to you it may mean taking a double dose of MDMA combined with mushrooms and heroin.

    The context of the question informs us, as to the perceived, meaning of the words “hang out“ in the mind of the questioner.
    She seeks a healthy environment to spend quality time with her female friends, and perhaps to meet a few of their female friends while not specifically on the home turf of any of them, and preferably where there is some sort of attraction other than just the company (pizza, pottery, etc.).

    #2199623
    @fakenews
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    To the OP:
    The one place I can recommend you do not hang out is here in the coffee room.
    It can occasionally be toxic.

    #2199808
    SKD2128
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    To the OP
    Good for you that you for looking to spend time in a kosher environment. I was a teenage girl too and I completely understand that you need an outlet. Pay no attention to the “tzaddim” desperate to prove how pious they are. It is completely normal and healthy for a teenage girl to want to chill and hangout with friends. I would honestly worry about a teenager who doesn’t want that. The fact that you are looking for a kosher, all girls environment to hangout in is something you should be commemorated on. Enjoy yourself, relax, have fun.
    To all those who feel the need to shame this girl for the crime of being a normal teenager, I would like to send my sympathy to any daughters you may have.

    #2207618
    Shopping613 🌠
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    Wow this place has changed so much.

    Gosh I miss the good old days.

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