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Lately hair extensions have become quite popular. Girls who had thin and limp hair are now adding extensions to get a full head of hair. What does everyone think? Is it a form of deception or is it merely doing one’s hishtadlus in dating? How far should we go?
Why don’t they just wear a wig?
There’s nothing wrong with it. It’s no different than makeup. You should probably tell the guy about them at some point.
If its no different than makeup, why must you tell the guy about it? You don’t have to tell him about your makeup.
Ohr Chodesh: Because makeup is obvious to the guy that she’s wearing. This might not be.
Why shouldn’t a woman look attractive for her date? No point in telling. As long as she looks good and the guy likes her, nothing more to say. Should she say where she bought all her makeup and how she applies it?
95% of girls wear them at their weddings. It’s not like she has c’v no leg and is wearing a prosthetic. They are very common.
What on earth is this thing, anyways?
i dont think theres a point in telling! first of all its to mke her look more attractive and secondly after her wedding she will hopefully be covering her hair most of the time 🙂
not only how is it different from makeup…..but how is it different from when a girl irons or curls her hair o.O oy vey!!!! how is he ever supposed to know what shes like!!!!! *gasp*
Does she have to tell if she gets plastic surgery to help her dating prospects?
Many brides wear fake eye lashes at their weddings, what’s the diff?
Well i actually noticed one of my (single) friends wearing a wig recently. I didnt say anything because i wasnt 100% sure because it was a really good wig, so i asked another friend and she said she noticed the same thing. I’m not really sure why she’s started wearing a wig because i know she hasnt lost her hair or anything but i just found it really strange…..
I would actually ask a rabbi on this first. The reason is because your date will eventually find out what you look like without makeup. But say you have really thin hair and after marriage the guy finds out that you actually look pretty different. Perhaps not as attractive as you lead him to believe. So really that could invalidate the marriage.
Better ask yourself if you really think its worth fooling the guy over something like this. Many guys won’t care they just want to see YOU as you are – and with good reason. Attraction is important, if you lose that the day after marriage because you had all this fake stuff on you then i can see some troubling times ahead.
Why is it dishonest? Couldn’t the girl simply let her hair grow longer if her husband wanted longer hair?
There are girls who think it’s pretty to make their hair look like wigs!! It’s not and it’s really unattractive!!!
So, if a girl wears garments to make her look thinner (spanx, etc), does she then have to tell him she’s actually 1″ wider? Oh, please!
Hair extensions aren’t tznius.
How would you feel if a guy wore a toupee to mask his baldness?
Baldness vs longer hair are two very different things. Hair can grow longer.
I think a girl with hair extensions would be a perfect shidduch for a bald bochor with a toupee.
L’aniyas datti, the topic altogether belongs in the Ezras Noshim, not the Yeshiva cofee room. Shame, shame!
…must agree with choppy
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How about she focuses on the important issues?
Like earning enough money so he can sit and drink coffee all day in front of a sefer while looking down on people who work for a living.
Im a guy and I’ll say again, its completely dishonest. And frankly, when i was dating i would tell the girl pls don’t bother spending the time to put on make up, i want to see you how you are. I think make up belongs on only one type of person, a clown. (And my wife is very happy with my logic because she doesn’t have to spend a ridiculous amount of time and money on the stupid stuff.)
If its important the the guy should feel comfortable to ask if they are going toward an engagement.. If either the girl feels uncomfortable sharing this info or if the guy feels uncomfortable asking this info… Skip it.. And go on with life.
Shtender Bender, the Ezras Nashim isn’t much better. All the men daven and learn there.
A friend of mine was in Reb Yisochor Meir’s office, he heard him say, yes, yes, yes, and then he banged the phone down.
He asked him what happened, he said, someone called him up about a bochur for a shidduch, they asked him is he a masmid, can he learn, does he have good middos, then they asked him if the bochur was handsome
!! So this rav thinks that you shouldnt care about looks?
you can’t compare hair extensions to to a toupee for a totally bald guy.the purpose of hair extensions is to either 1)make hair fuller, and 2) make hair longer. its not to cover up what the girls really look like. i mean, i guess for some it could be, but can’t say its why most girls do it. a toupee for a bald guy bdavka is to make himself look like he is not bald.
also, if a girl is gonna get married and put on a shaitel that’s just as long and curled/blown as the hair extensions she’s wearing, who cares? she’s not deceiving you. first of all she probably wears the extensions not only on dates, but on shabbos, and to friends weddings… and some even every day.and also that’s obviously what she wants to look like all the time, so where’s the deceit?
and, pplz, even in the Torah the women would make themselves look beautiful. who are we to say that its deceitful and only for clowns? if the ppl in the time of the torah were wearing makeup to look beautiful, then its good enough for me!
Okay, I’m sure you’ll agree that a toupee for a partially bald guy is the same as a girl wearing hair extensions. They would make a perfect shidduch for each other. 1) it makes his hair fuller, and 2) it make his hair longer. It’s not to cover up what the guy really looks like.
Also, if a guy is gonna get married and wear a toupee that’s the same toupee he’s wearing on his dates, who cares? He’s not deceiving you. First of all he wears the toupee not only on dates, but on Shabbos, and to friends weddings… and every day. And also that’s obviously what he wants to look like all the time, so where’s the deceit?
i don’t want a guy with long hair, thank you… a nice yeshivish cut is just great.
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