Going back to work

My heart goes out to you. You feel exactly as I did and exactly as I would wish any mother to feel toward their child. I can’t offer you much comfort but I can tell you that your child is so fortunate to have you. When you read posts where other mothers complain that summer is hard because they are stuck having to entertain their kids, it makes me wish I had more posts like yours to read. Hatzlacha on your transition.

It’s hard. BTDT. I worked with 1 child, and then 2.

First of all, do you have a babysitter? Once you find the right one, you’ll feel a lot better. Make sure that you’re 100% comfortable with her. If you have doubts, you won’t be calm.

You will get used to it as time goes on, but you will be so excited at the end of every day to finally see him! I used to really miss my babies when I left them over!

Is there any way you can cut your hours so you won’t be away from him all day?

MorahRach, you are a amazing mom and your kids are so lucky to have you.

You should get pictures taken of your kids and keep them with you or on your desk at work.

morahrach, wow how different 2 people can be! i am so jealous that you love your child more then your own sanity. you seem like such an amazing person and an amazing mother. as you know I BH recently had my first baby,(since that post on baby stuff, we had a girl erev purim) anyways i totally understand you and how difficult it is to start work again. i am the exact opposite. i was looking for a job for an entire year. i wanted to work so bad. not just for money but just to get me out of the house. as a dental hygienist its really hard to find work, especially if its your first job since graduating. i was getting so depressed just being home everyday with nothing to do. my husband hasnt had any luck with work either so we were both home all day and becuase of that our relationship was seriously deteriorating. 3 months after i had the baby i finally started having a little more energy and was looking for work again. BH something finally came my way cuz my baby screams all day. shes 4 months and cries A LOT! i cant handle being at home with her all day. maybe cuz your baby is older its easier for you. my husband who has way more patients then me has now been a stay at home dad and has grown quite attached to the little one. i love seeing him interact with her because I rarely see fathers do that. and i get to leave the house and keep my sanity and I am thrilled. so like i said we have the exact opposite situation. but i have such kinas sofrim that you are the way you are with your baby. you were just born to me a jewish mother. and he is one lucky little man to have a mom like you! good luck with everything. bezras Hashem everything will “work” out fine! :).

by the way as a side note. i dont know what kind of work you do. but if you really want to stay home with your son i have a friend that also wanted to work but didnt want to leave her son so she opened a small play group in her home and babysat a few kids and made money! she figured i’m watching my own kid anyway, what difference is it if i watch a few more and it worked out great for her! is that something you would consider?

MorahRach i understand u totally but i can completely agree with Mercury too.

Bh i can stay at home for the moment and look after my kids, and i’m so happy that i’m able to and that i’m there to watch them grow and watch them take all their firsts, but at the same time my babies cry so much i wish i’d have a job just for a couple of hours just to keep my sanity.

I’d love to be able to play and cuddle them all day but its not so easy when they’re screaming. It also gets difficult just to do basic household things when ur babies cry all day which is why in a way its easier to get out and work and then at least u feel like your doing something useful by earning some money.

Just curious morahrach – how does ur baby behave – has he always been an easy baby or more on the difficult side?