March 18, 2013 5:17 pm at 5:17 pm #608661SeahorseMember
How do we achieve it?March 18, 2013 5:33 pm at 5:33 pm #938073gr8 masmidMember
Limmud HaTorah Lishma – read Nefesh Hachaim Sha’ar Daled to find out how, and discuss with a Mashgiach.
Hatzlacha!March 18, 2013 5:40 pm at 5:40 pm #938074kingdavidParticipant
1) Emunah. Believe that hashem runs the show and everything he does is good for us.
2) Know that when we have happiness, we have hashem with us and when we are depressed hashem leaves us
THE CITY OF HAPPINESS IS IN THE STATE OF MINDMarch 18, 2013 5:50 pm at 5:50 pm #938075Luna LovegoodParticipant
Read/learn Koheles. It will teach how to achieve true happinessMarch 18, 2013 5:58 pm at 5:58 pm #938076sw33tMember
laugh.March 18, 2013 6:10 pm at 6:10 pm #938077havarkaMember
first thing in rav dessler
enjoy!March 18, 2013 6:13 pm at 6:13 pm #938078noitallmrParticipant
Definitely not by checking out the fresh jokes thread- that’s the key to depression…March 18, 2013 6:21 pm at 6:21 pm #938079PBTMember
By doing what Hashem said in His Torah as interpreted and passed down to us by the sages from Har Sinai to the present, and by not dismissing ANY of those requirements when they don’t happen to fit some personal or political agenda.March 18, 2013 6:22 pm at 6:22 pm #938080sharpMember
Means something else to everyone. You might be talking about calmness, peace of mind, tranquility, relaxed, stress-free… People often confuse these with happiness.March 18, 2013 6:25 pm at 6:25 pm #938081haifagirlParticipant
Trust in Hashem and happiness follows.March 18, 2013 6:34 pm at 6:34 pm #938082mitzvahgirl613Participant
being around people you love and doing things you love to do…? maybe? thats what makes me happy!March 18, 2013 6:52 pm at 6:52 pm #938084Think firstMember
By appreciating what you haveMarch 18, 2013 7:33 pm at 7:33 pm #938085SeahorseMember
Thanks everyone. There are some great answers here. Keep ’em coming!March 18, 2013 8:15 pm at 8:15 pm #938086WIYMember
Happiness is a choice. You have to make up your mind that you will be happy and work at it. There are many things that we do that can make us unhappy and those are the things that we need to stop doing.
It could be poor diet and not doing enough exercise which make us feel unhealthy and lethargic as well as make us look fat and bad skin that is causing the unhappiness.
It could be negative thinking. Many people today are pessimistic and cynical as well as (self) critical and this type of thinking really destroys happiness.
It could actually be a medical problem that is causing the unhappiness like bipolar or some other mental condition.
Another thing causing it can be a feeling of not accomplishing. Get busy and do positive stuff if you want to feel happy.
So to sum it up I would say, adopt a better attitude, cut out the negativity, take care of yourself and be busy doing things that are positive. A person needs to accomplish to feel good about themselves. It doesn’t have to be huge accomplishments but whatever is an accomplishment for you based on your abilities. Additionally, contribute to the world and help others at every opportunity. Giving is proven to make you happy. Its weird how that works but it works. The giver usually feels much better than the receiver. I can speak from personal experience that whenever I do a chessed, even something small like giving directions or whatever, I always feel happy afterwards.
Another important thing for happiness is to spend time with positive upbeat people. Negative cranky people for company will make you very unhappy. But always remember, you are responsible for your own happiness. You can’t buy it in Macy’s or toys r us and its not in a cigarette, or whisky bottle either. Happiness comes from a feeling of living a good life.March 18, 2013 8:47 pm at 8:47 pm #938087gr8 masmidMember
Pikudei Hashem yesharim – MESAMCHEI lev.
See also the Mesilas Yesharim who warns a lot about people getting confused between pleasure and happiness – and ice cream gives pleasure, limmud haTorah gives happiness. It’s getting these two confused that leads a person to depression, which in turn leads to greater pursuit of Olam Hazeh, which leads to depression….
And a private jet or $5000 camera is a large ice cream. Don’t get confused.
And finally, ALWAYS consult Da’as Torah with such critical, delicate matters, where the smallest confusion over a seemingly minor subtlety can wreck a life, R”L.
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