What isn’t spoken also is that sometimes husbands don’t offer enough parenting support, and sometimes use “work” as an excuse not to be in their children’s lives.
I think culturally, even American culture, lets men carry on with their lives as normal after having children.
I am in awe of families where the father is so involved because it seems easier and more acceptable sometimes to not be involved in paternal parenting.
As for Jewish women specifically, there’s so much pressure to look perfect, keep a spotless house, cook from scratch, and be 100% attentive selfless ema.
I used to visit this one family on Shabbos quite frequently… such good memories… the house wasn’t perfect, and no one expected perfection… the kids were happy 🙂
