help!!!!!

There are drugs you can take which should stop this problem.

As far as the bar mitzva: don’t have them sleep over. Tell your parents you don’t want them over. It is your right.

Stop drinking L O N G before bed. Go to the bathroom a few times before you go to sleep and have your mom wake you once or twice at night, under the guise of needing to speak with you privately. No one will know. Practice waking yourself up several times a night (use an alarm clock) for as many weeks as you have to practice to get your body used to waking for the bathroom. In a pinch, change to pj’s when everyone else does, and be the last to fall asleep, so that you can put on protective undergarments (pull up, they have them in larger sizes) when you’re the only one awake and no one will be the wiser.

A sleep over also does not have to be the only way to plan a bar mitzva. I had a sleep over/kiddush for my bas mitzvah, but no one else I knew did, or even does for their simchas.

what someone writes on their profile may not be accuarate and what someone post may not be either….

We had success with Dr. Sagie’s method. He comes here once or twice a year and has an initial session then conducts the therapy by phone. There is a significant requirement for parents to be involved nightly, at least at the beginning. To us it worked, and there was no strangeness about it, just quite chachmadik in my opinion. He believes the problem is not emotional or mental at all in most cases but has to do with a tendency to deep sleep and is probably genetic. Google him. Good Luck and refuah shleima and mazel tov!!

I think you may have multiple personalities

personality-Hey!! ur occupation is Kollel no? how cud u be in kollel if you’re not even Bar-mitzvad yet…?? 😉

mommamia22-Not drinking before going to bed “Does not help”. I tried it when I had a bed wetter at my house for a week. The child begged for a drink, but I refused, buying him a drink for recess instead. The last night he slept over, I no longer cared if he gets up wet (I ended up washing linen every day anyway) I gave him to drink before going to sleep. He woke up DRY. I don’t know what the reason is to all this, but telling a child not to drink way before bedtime is not fair. (I know you were only trying to help.)