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    yeshivabochur123
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    There’s a girl that I want to marry in Baltimore. I hope she likes me but I think I scared her off a little bit. How can I make everything OK again?

    #860435

    soliek
    Member

    stalk her in a very very creepy way

    #860436

    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    What’s her name?

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    hershi
    Member

    How does she know you?

    What did you do that may have scared her?

    #860438

    gabie
    Member

    Why do you want to marry her? Looks?

    #860439

    oomis
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    Back off a little, then write her (NOT E-MAIL, NOT TEXT MESSAGE) her a friendly note. Tell her that you want to get to know her better, and that you sense she feels you are rushing things too much, so you want to ease up a little, if that’s the case. Ask her how she feels about that, or if you are mistaken. Either way, she will tell you how she wants to proceed, if in fact she wants to proceed in the relationship. JMO.

    #860440

    more
    Member

    Maybe i can help…be more specific, please, like How did you scare her off? please note as a side pointer, Baltimore is a rather small place.. like PBA hinted with his question, don’t be too specific.. there may be factors on here that will scare her further.. chas v’shalom…

    #860441

    more_2
    Member

    Be more specific, would love to help.. Maybe you can speak to a mutual friend .. And have them smooth things through… You want to give over the impression that you are a wonderful guy and that Misunderstandings can happen. how’s the best way to get this acros? I can’t advise unless like I said you are alot more specific… Hatzlocha !!! O hope all goes well!!!

    #860442

    yeshivabochur123
    Participant

    its not looks or infatuation. its her eclectic personality that I really like. I will try writing to her iyh. Thanks for all the advice guys.

    #860443

    HaLeiVi
    Participant

    That’s so cool, to propose on the CR!

    #860444

    Bar Shattya
    Member

    I am the girl. I think if you take me to the harbor for the 15th time, I will be scared off.

    #860445

    Health
    Participant

    YB123 -There are a lot of girls I want to marry -one in Balto. -some in NY, some in Lakewood. But alas, noone believes in shotgun weddings! E/o expects that the girl actually has a choice.

    Be careful with stalking or harrassing -it’s more likely to end up married to some hairy man in prison than to the girl! :0

    #860446

    more_2
    Member

    I would suggest if you do choose to write to her, that it shouldn’t be via text. Nor. Email but rather snail mail on a nice piece of stationary. Thus way it is alot more personal. I wish you the best of hatzlocha in this… If I can be of any more help, please let me know! This letter will show a good dose of maturity on your part. I’d Also say it’s a good way to impress a girl..;)

    #860447

    yeshivabochur123
    Participant

    just got the news its officially over and strangely enough i feel quite releived.

    #860448

    Go to a dating coach

    #860449

    HLM
    Member

    Not out to give advice or anything nut one thing I learnt is you have to be yourself and comfortable around her/him and not to pretent to be something you’re not.

    #860450

    more_2
    Member

    You mean to say you were actually officially engaged to her? What makes you feel this way? Are you really feeling this way or you are brushing this feeling to the surface to hide your pain? People are allowed to show hurt and anger, if you keep it all in now you can explode later… I find it strange that you feel relieved after what you wrote previously…

    #860451

    more_2
    Member

    Oomis, what is jmo stnd for??

    #860452

    more_2
    Member

    Bump. Yeshiva bachur123, how is evth going???

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