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    LAmother
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    Hi! try to keep this brief but so overwhelmed. have found some good stuff in old coffee rooms (and Rabbi Google) but seems outdated. BH DD became a kallah erev YK. 1st time doing this…BT too, so need some advice. for low budget but nice affair, not cutting too many corners. couple want to start in EY the more we spend on wedding the less available for EY. Would only move it from LA where kallah is to NY where chasan is if i could save at least 7k. she is afraid of a takana wedding that would have “ew” flowers etc (I dotn need real centerpieces just real flowers for chupah and her) . any advice on:
    1) a place that does good deal like whole thing under 16k for 250-300 people (we dont want lakewood, will do Passaic or NY or monsey ) but NICE place, nice outside, good dance-floor. this would enable me to spend 2-3k extra on music this is her favorite part (APART FROM THE GUY)
    2) WHAT AWESOME SINGERS could I get and how do i find prices online. plz dont just post names, post prices and contact info!
    3) WHATS THE DEAL WITH CHASAN WATCHES how much do people spend when on low budget (but again not wanting to cut corners_ shadchan said its 1500- 1800 do u guys agree (that’s a month in Israel!)
    4) flowers photographer etc if its included in the “deal” how good are they If i cant get the whole package w own musician and keyboardist and somewhat decent photographer for 18k to 20 k we should stay in LA
    5) THANKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thanks again!!!!!!

    #1595425

    slominer
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    A takana wedding in New York can save you quite a bundle compared to LA. And the flowers are beautiful.

    #1595853

    WolfishMusings
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    I suppose a suggestion such as “sit down with the other side and see what each of you can afford and work it out from there” would be considered heresy…

    The Wolf

    #1595873

    DaasYochid ☕
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    You don’t need to spend $1500 on a watch.

    There are a bunch of websites which sell watches at wholesale prices, and you can get a very respectable watch for $500-$800.

    #1595969

    WolfishMusings
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    Or don’t get a watch at all. I didn’t get a watch in the yichud room and, according to most poskim, my marriage is still valid despite that.

    The Wolf

    #1595970

    Takes2-2tango
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    Get a hold of the chosson kallah guide. It may also be available on line.Claim This Profile
    The Chosson/Kallah Guide LLC
    Phone: (732) 364-7191

    #1595983

    Joseph
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    DY: Do you have an example of a Choson watch available for $500?

    #1595986

    DaasYochid ☕
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    Raymond Weil Tradition

    #1595987

    DaasYochid ☕
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    Or don’t get a watch at all. I didn’t get a watch in the yichud room and, according to most poskim, my marriage is still valid despite that.

    If all that was being asked was about a valid marriage, they wouldn’t need a singer, flowers, or a wedding hall either.

    #1595993

    DaasYochid ☕
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    Agav, the watch is typically given soon after the engagement, not in the yichud room.

    #1595995

    hml
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    Why does 1 night have to cost so much? We married off all our kids but we held prices down & did WHAT WE COULD. Each wedding was beautiful and no debt. We rented table decorations, had a 1-man band, no bar or wine on the table, chose the menu to give biggest bang for our buck, simple but tasty shmorg with passings, a very nice dessert table. Yes, we bought the chossen/kallah nice gifts but we went wholesale & budgeted.

    And who wears watches these days? Even my husband doesn’t! He uses his phone & we have -gasp-! A CLOCK in the house. BTW, factor in cost of air fares & accommodations in NY.

    #1596025

    LAmother
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    THANKS YA ALL. SO ITS GETTING BETTER…got a couple halls with the date held, will finalise and give depoist by end of chol hamoed, watch will be more chilled. still looking to see if there is a lovely hall with takanas there are so many names floating around gets confusing where do u know is lovely and may not be booked in 2 months from now also i wd want to have exception to the takanas of private musician (I know some allow this) also still need reasonable but excellent band plzzz send suggestions

    #1596009

    Toi
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    They can come eat by me on Shabbos in Yerushalayim if it’ll save them some money for the first little bit.

    DY- C’mon, a tradition collection RW is see as pretty cheap, let’s be honest (even though I happened to have chosen one). Standard is a cheaper B&M or longines.

    #1596069

    DaasYochid ☕
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    Okay, you can get a Baume and Mercier Classima Executives Men’s Watch for about $700.

    I did give a range…

    #1596103

    slominer
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    LAMother: Which takana halls have you looked into or heard about?

    #1596311

    Toi
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    Really? Darn, would’ve gotten one.

    #1596322

    apushatayid
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    What about the cost of travel from the west to east coast? How many people are traveling? Where are they slerping, eating? That might offset some of your savings.

    #1596338

    yid18
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    When you have the hall let us know the neighborhood, maybe we can help with places to stay.

    #1596373

    WolfishMusings
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    If all that was being asked was about a valid marriage, they wouldn’t need a singer, flowers, or a wedding hall either.

    You obviously missed (or ignored) the point.

    The Wolf

    #1596532

    Real
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    I married off kids in takana halls in Brooklyn and Monsey. It was great. you don’t feel that you are second class,
    the halls are beautiful, they cater to you beautifully. About music, in New York there is so much competition that there are players and singers that work together for a good price, and also just player that does a good job singing. I think that you should save your money for TACHLIS stuff. I respect you for thinking of sending the couple to Eretz Yisroel, but figure that it will cost a minimum of three thousand to thirty five hundred a month to live there, and that is besides the tickets flying there and later back and forth. Mazel Tov and Hatlocha. GET REAL

    #1596727

    LAmother
    Participant

    thank you (to all of u)
    I will cut corners where i can but EY is a dream of hers and ours and is worth the extra hard work i will do to make it happen. we will just do it till we cant do it anymore.

    have a gr8 singer but need keyboardist. anyone good for 1k?

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