He’s Hot, She’s Cold; Windows Open or Closed?

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  • #1417519

    slominer
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    If the husband is always hot; he needs to sleep with the windows open even in mid-February. Meanwhile, the wife is always cold; she needs the windows shuttered even in mid-August — with the air conditioner off! And both are simply at great physical discomfort if they defer to the their spouse and accept the other way.

    What can they do?

    Sure, there’s a Halacha that during the winter if anyone wants the windows closed they get their way; while in the summer if anyone wants the windows open they get their way. But in this case doing that for the entire season will cause one spouse or the other to almost be unable to sleep and remain greatly discomforted every day.

    #1417546

    👑RebYidd23
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    Windows closed, husband outside.

    #1417550

    Lightbrite
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    Windows closed

    #1417551

    funnybone
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    Why should we mix in to other peoples shalom bayis?! Let the coupke work out their issues on their own!

    #1417553

    BaltimoreMaven
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    Not so sure the Halocha is that clean on “windows closed wins.”. I like it cold and someone used that line on me even though there were plenty of places in the room that were not next to the window and we’re plenty warm. I remember looking it up and it wasn’t as clear as you represent.

    #1417559

    Joseph
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    Windows closed, husband outside, in the winter.

    Windows open, wife in the attic, in the summer.

    #1417563

    👑RebYidd23
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    Microwavable blanket for her, frozen blanket for him.

    #1417568

    Non Political
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    This is an open and shut case…

    #1417888

    Yserbius123
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    My parents survived a decades long marriage with open windows all winter long. My mother learned to sleep with multiple blankets and not go into my father’s study from November through April.

    #1417875

    slominer
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    I didn’t intend this question as a joke. While they description might have been slightly exaggerated, it was only by a bit. The point is the couple are really of very different tempatures.

    I was wondering if there were any ideas that could be helpful. Maybe something as simple as him having a portable fan all year and she a portable heater.

    #1417881

    apushatayid
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    separate bedrooms

    #1417923

    Little Froggie
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    I’m hot.
    I’m cold.

    What should I do?

    #1417937

    Meno
    Participant

    LF, here’s what you do:

    Put your blanket in the freezer, then put the freezer in the microwave. Should come out just right.

    #1418323

    Joseph
    Participant

    Yserbius123 answered the OP’s question.

    Do what Yserbius123’s parents did.

    #1418502

    slominer
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    I like Yseribus’ solution.

    #1418533

    👑RebYidd23
    Participant

    Microwavable and freezable blankets are more effective than regular blankets.

    #1421574

    The answer is simple – the warmth in a room can be increased for one
    of the occupants by having them put on or go under more layers, but
    the cold in a room cannot easily be increased in such a manner.
    Thus, logic dictates that the room be kept at the cooler temperature.

    #1482032

    kitov
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    The solution to obtaining warmth is buying an electric heated blanket or electric heated throw.
    These reasonbly priced appliances have warmed up my life
    And made me want to tell everyone to buy one.
    Before I got them i was shivering in bed even under several blankets.
    But now I enjoy the gentle warm under this soft heated blanket all winter.
    Anytime your sitting someplace and feel cold just wrap yourself in a heated throw and feel the instant warmth.
    Energy use is minimal no need to turn up the thermostat and heating bills.

    #1483039

    ad dlo yada
    Participant

    Windows Open!!! The wife can get nice and warm next to a working oven and stove in the kitchen WHERE SHE BELONGS

    #1483103

    Out-of-towner
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    I am fully maskim to ad dlo yada’s comment. People should just do their jobs in their places, where they belong.

    #1483105

    YW Moderator-100
    Moderator

    It is nice to agree with yourself, is it not?

    #1483122

    ☕️coffee addict
    Participant

    The guy has a great anniversary present

    A nice warm sweater

    #1483139

    BaltimoreMaven
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    “It is nice to agree with yourself, is it not?”

    If there is anonymity then there is anonymity.
    If there is not, YWN might as well say so.

    #1483145

    👑RebYidd23
    Participant

    Men should not purchase clothes for their wives. If they pick out the wrong size, it’s an insult.

    #1483156

    👑RebYidd23
    Participant

    When did YWN promise anonymity?

    #1483158

    YW Moderator-100
    Moderator

    There is as much anonymity as a user desires.

    #1483171

    ☕️coffee addict
    Participant

    Ry23,

    How about looking at one of her clothing and determine the size

    #1483218

    Avi K
    Participant

    Increasing blankets does not work. My ex was the one who wanted the windows opened even in the NY (this was before I made aliya) winters. Even sweaters and an electric blanket did not helped. Finally we went to separate bedrooms and then to separate lives (this was only the tip of the iceberg, pun intended).

    #1484502

    Toi
    Participant

    Let her put on a sweater and go bake me cookies in a matza oven. She’ll be warm, and I’ll have my cookies.

    #1484622

    Linking multiple fully anonymous identities does not compromise anonymity.

    #1571209

    Takes2-2tango
    Participant

    Dog houses are quite cheap. They come with a blanket and a food bowl

    #1571259

    YW Moderator-100
    Moderator

    Linking multiple fully anonymous identities does not compromise anonymity.

    Quite true.

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