December 3, 2017 10:09 pm at 10:09 pm #1417519
If the husband is always hot; he needs to sleep with the windows open even in mid-February. Meanwhile, the wife is always cold; she needs the windows shuttered even in mid-August — with the air conditioner off! And both are simply at great physical discomfort if they defer to the their spouse and accept the other way.
What can they do?
Sure, there’s a Halacha that during the winter if anyone wants the windows closed they get their way; while in the summer if anyone wants the windows open they get their way. But in this case doing that for the entire season will cause one spouse or the other to almost be unable to sleep and remain greatly discomforted every day.December 3, 2017 10:48 pm at 10:48 pm #1417546
Windows closed, husband outside.December 3, 2017 11:20 pm at 11:20 pm #1417550
Windows closedDecember 3, 2017 11:20 pm at 11:20 pm #1417551
Why should we mix in to other peoples shalom bayis?! Let the coupke work out their issues on their own!December 3, 2017 11:21 pm at 11:21 pm #1417553
Not so sure the Halocha is that clean on “windows closed wins.”. I like it cold and someone used that line on me even though there were plenty of places in the room that were not next to the window and we’re plenty warm. I remember looking it up and it wasn’t as clear as you represent.December 3, 2017 11:44 pm at 11:44 pm #1417559
Windows closed, husband outside, in the winter.
Windows open, wife in the attic, in the summer.December 4, 2017 12:10 am at 12:10 am #1417563
Microwavable blanket for her, frozen blanket for him.December 4, 2017 12:10 am at 12:10 am #1417568
This is an open and shut case…December 4, 2017 2:51 pm at 2:51 pm #1417888
My parents survived a decades long marriage with open windows all winter long. My mother learned to sleep with multiple blankets and not go into my father’s study from November through April.December 4, 2017 2:52 pm at 2:52 pm #1417875
I didn’t intend this question as a joke. While they description might have been slightly exaggerated, it was only by a bit. The point is the couple are really of very different tempatures.
I was wondering if there were any ideas that could be helpful. Maybe something as simple as him having a portable fan all year and she a portable heater.December 4, 2017 2:53 pm at 2:53 pm #1417881
separate bedroomsDecember 4, 2017 3:27 pm at 3:27 pm #1417923
What should I do?December 4, 2017 3:33 pm at 3:33 pm #1417937
LF, here’s what you do:
Put your blanket in the freezer, then put the freezer in the microwave. Should come out just right.December 4, 2017 5:25 pm at 5:25 pm #1418323
Yserbius123 answered the OP’s question.
Do what Yserbius123’s parents did.December 4, 2017 11:26 pm at 11:26 pm #1418502
I like Yseribus’ solution.December 5, 2017 12:10 am at 12:10 am #1418533
Microwavable and freezable blankets are more effective than regular blankets.December 6, 2017 8:29 pm at 8:29 pm #1421574
☢️ 🚭 ☣️ Rand0m3x 🧠🕴️🎲Participant
The answer is simple – the warmth in a room can be increased for one
of the occupants by having them put on or go under more layers, but
the cold in a room cannot easily be increased in such a manner.
Thus, logic dictates that the room be kept at the cooler temperature.March 6, 2018 11:08 am at 11:08 am #1482032
The solution to obtaining warmth is buying an electric heated blanket or electric heated throw.
These reasonbly priced appliances have warmed up my life
And made me want to tell everyone to buy one.
Before I got them i was shivering in bed even under several blankets.
But now I enjoy the gentle warm under this soft heated blanket all winter.
Anytime your sitting someplace and feel cold just wrap yourself in a heated throw and feel the instant warmth.
Energy use is minimal no need to turn up the thermostat and heating bills.March 6, 2018 5:10 pm at 5:10 pm #1483039
ad dlo yadaParticipant
Windows Open!!! The wife can get nice and warm next to a working oven and stove in the kitchen WHERE SHE BELONGSMarch 6, 2018 5:22 pm at 5:22 pm #1483103
I am fully maskim to ad dlo yada’s comment. People should just do their jobs in their places, where they belong.March 6, 2018 5:24 pm at 5:24 pm #1483105
It is nice to agree with yourself, is it not?March 6, 2018 7:56 pm at 7:56 pm #1483122
The guy has a great anniversary present
A nice warm sweaterMarch 6, 2018 8:16 pm at 8:16 pm #1483139
“It is nice to agree with yourself, is it not?”
If there is anonymity then there is anonymity.
If there is not, YWN might as well say so.March 6, 2018 8:19 pm at 8:19 pm #1483145
Men should not purchase clothes for their wives. If they pick out the wrong size, it’s an insult.March 6, 2018 8:43 pm at 8:43 pm #1483156
When did YWN promise anonymity?March 6, 2018 8:44 pm at 8:44 pm #1483158
There is as much anonymity as a user desires.March 6, 2018 10:29 pm at 10:29 pm #1483171
How about looking at one of her clothing and determine the sizeMarch 7, 2018 1:50 am at 1:50 am #1483218
Increasing blankets does not work. My ex was the one who wanted the windows opened even in the NY (this was before I made aliya) winters. Even sweaters and an electric blanket did not helped. Finally we went to separate bedrooms and then to separate lives (this was only the tip of the iceberg, pun intended).March 7, 2018 9:13 pm at 9:13 pm #1484502
Let her put on a sweater and go bake me cookies in a matza oven. She’ll be warm, and I’ll have my cookies.March 8, 2018 6:30 am at 6:30 am #1484622
☢️ 🚭 ☣️ Rand0m3x 🧠🕴️🎲Participant
Linking multiple fully anonymous identities does not compromise anonymity.August 8, 2018 11:11 pm at 11:11 pm #1571209
Dog houses are quite cheap. They come with a blanket and a food bowlAugust 9, 2018 1:34 am at 1:34 am #1571259
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