Why is there such a strong stigma and push against women’s “Mezumenets”? The Shulchan Aruch clearly says it’s allowed. The Rosh said that it’s a Safek Mitzvah D’Oraisa. So why is everyone against it? If there aren’t three men at the meal why do so many people think there’s something wrong with it?
The Biur Halacha (199:Nashim) brings the Vilna Gaon who says that the Halcha is like the Rosh that they are obligated,but ends of saying we don’t do it(not noheg).
While in camp I was learning Mesechet Arachin. A sugya was “Hakol Chayav BiZimun: Lerabos es HaEesha”. From all Halachick fronts woman are chiyav in zimun (the only question would be whether it would be Dirabanan or not). Even if “people” are doing it for the wrong reasons (and one would need a considerable amount of gayvah to claim he knew exactly why “people” were doing it) they still need to do it. Just as if one person wanted to put on Teffilan because it’s healthy (which it is, actually), he would still need to do it, even though he would be putting it on for the wrong reason.