January 14, 2019 11:13 am at 11:13 am #1661916
How close is your family to your cousins?January 14, 2019 12:06 pm at 12:06 pm #1662101
Interesting question that is difficult to answer.
Would you ask the same about siblings, or parents? Is the closeness in relation to who?
How would you even measure degrees of closeness?January 14, 2019 12:07 pm at 12:07 pm #1662105
My parents are close to their siblings but their kids aka my cousins aren’t interested in us.
I mean cuz we’re religious and all and obviously insane weirdos.January 14, 2019 2:16 pm at 2:16 pm #1662141
It ranges from between a few miles away to several thousand.January 14, 2019 2:16 pm at 2:16 pm #1662160
Depends on which cousins. There are some cousins they have never met.January 14, 2019 3:55 pm at 3:55 pm #1662224
I keep in touch with some of my cousins via Facebook. Others, I call every once in a while to catch up. Some other of my cousins are simply not interested in keeping in touch at all, so I don’t bother.January 14, 2019 3:55 pm at 3:55 pm #1662225
1. A cousin is someone with whom you have a common ancestor. Unless you hold ourself out to be descended from a bunch of apes, we are all cousins.
2. Closeness to cousins depends largely on geography.January 14, 2019 3:55 pm at 3:55 pm #1662228
There is an underlying reason why this question . Please be a bit more specific.January 14, 2019 4:12 pm at 4:12 pm #1662246
I am closer with my third cousins than first or second cousins
Our grandchildren are all close with their first cousins because they spend the entire summer and almost every yuntif at our home…Camp CTLJanuary 14, 2019 4:12 pm at 4:12 pm #1662248
Akuperma, if we were descended from apes, we would have even more cousins.January 15, 2019 8:26 am at 8:26 am #1662739
NDG: In the sense of a) we speak almost every day b) we’re in touch often c) we’re in touch occasionally d) we’re in touch rather infrequently e) we’re nebech never in touch.
lot112: Why haven’t they met or otherwise communicated?
takah: Perhaps they mistakenly assume the same, that you’re uninterested. Perhaps an occasional phone call will rekindle interest.
akuperman: You don’t think you can be close to cousins who are geographically far but emotionally close?
CTL: Why not your 1st and 2nd cousins as well?January 15, 2019 10:44 am at 10:44 am #1662748
I am the youngest child in my family, my parents were the youngest in their families as well.
I have no first cousins left alive at this point
There are a few second cousins surviving, the youngest of whom is more than 20 years older than I am and we were never close due to the age gap. I am close with some of their children.
I have about a dozen third cousins on my paternal side who are within 5 years of my age and all live within a 90 minute drive. We are very close, talk every week and see each other many times each year.January 15, 2019 10:46 am at 10:46 am #1662752
Joseph, I have tried. The uninterested ones don’t reply to VMs I’ve left, or emails, or messages on Facebook. One of my cousins even flew to Israel for 10 days, and never attempted to reach out to me while she was here. (And yes, she knows I live in Israel.)January 29, 2019 8:52 am at 8:52 am #1670376
We make it a point to have a cousins reunion every year (15-18 adults, plus our kids).
Every few years we have a full family reunion- my mother and her cousins down to their great grandchildren.January 29, 2019 11:39 am at 11:39 am #1670507
CTL; How were/are your young grandchildren entertained at Camp CTL all summer long?January 30, 2019 8:53 am at 8:53 am #1670900
In the morning the older boys/girls learn with the younger ones for a while. We have a built in swimming pool, tennis and basketball court and baseball/soccer layout for sports. We do arts and crafts, Mrs. CTL has taught most of them to play piano and I play and can teach clarinet and saxophone. We take them to area parks and attractions and sailing on Long Island Sound. The kids spend time learning to cook and I teach home repair skills.
They each are given a small patch in our vegetable gardens to plant and care for. They go for hikes and bike rides on our 4 town trail.
Mostly they use their imagination to keep busy with each other, they don’t need the over-programming of school and camp. Nothing wrong with hanging out under a tree and reading a book, jumping rope, playing with a toy or doll, shooting baskets, playing with the dogs and just being a kid.January 30, 2019 9:19 am at 9:19 am #1670908
CTL; Sounds very interesting. How do you and Mrs. CTL balance your work requirements vs. your camp responsibilities?January 30, 2019 12:20 pm at 12:20 pm #1671019
Mrs. CTL is mostly retired (due to medical reasons) but was a realtor/designer/builder. Her office is in an outbuilding on our property. If she has a construction project going on the grandchildren (as our kids) love to be on the building site helping and learning. Last summer our eldest grandson learned to drive small excavators and pickup trucks at a senior housing development we were doing.
I own my law firm, my children and some spouses are associates and taking over much of the workload as I near retirement. I have an office in the home as well. Unless I have to be in court, I can work remotely and take off lots of time in the summer.
Not only are all our grandchildren here for the summer, but many of my siblings grandchildren are also in the compound for the summer. Mrs. CTL’s sisters live within a block distance and tend to be here most days.
It’s almost like having our own bungalow colony without having to drive to the country.
Mrs. CTL and I made this decision many decades ago, to keep adding on to the house and amenities to keep the family together. We don’t go away on vacations, the kids and grandchildren are not shipped off to camp and we don’t pay dues to a swim or beach club. In all it has been much cheaper and we feel the children have been much safer than if in the care of strangers.
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