January 1, 2022 10:07 pm at 10:07 pm #2047071
How close are you to your siblings?
Is there a difference in your relationship with your brothers compared to your relationship with your sisters?
What’s your relationship with your brother-in-laws and sister-in-laws like? (Your siblings’ spouses or your spouse’s siblings.)January 1, 2022 11:08 pm at 11:08 pm #2047118bochurkeParticipant
Wow I really liked your question I’m closer with my brother than my sisters and with the sisters I’m closer to the unmarried one, brother in law is a delicate relationship in my case at least.January 1, 2022 11:09 pm at 11:09 pm #2047117Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipant
A wise older friend, while going out of state to fix his sister’s problems, told me: remember that your relationship with your siblings is longer than with your parents or your children! (is this discussed anywhere?)
Also, pandemic is a great way to make the little siblings under your control into friends and hevrusas between each other. Hopefully, it will serve them well in life.January 2, 2022 5:59 am at 5:59 am #2047164
Would it be fair to say that (more often) males are closer to their brothers and BILs than to their sisters and SILs whereas females tend to be closer to their sisters and SILs than to their brothers and BILs?January 2, 2022 9:18 am at 9:18 am #2047234CTLAWYERParticipant
I am close with all my siblings, but not their spouses. I am closest with my sister who is 5 years older than I am and we speak at least 5 times per week. I was in business with my eldest brother for almost 20 years, we seldom see each other (since Covid) but speak 3-4 times each week. I prefer not to speak to his wife and call him on his business line.
My children and their spouses are close. Most live in the compound or within a block or so. Most work in the CTL law firm. All of their children were ensconced in the compound during school shutdown for Covid and spend their summers in the compound with their first and second cousins.January 2, 2022 9:20 am at 9:20 am #2047229☕️coffee addictParticipant
It would be very weird if a male was closer to his SIL than his BIL (or even his brother)January 2, 2022 11:41 am at 11:41 am #2047284Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipant
Gemorah in Eruvin says that relationship with SIL is better than with DIL: when a family went to spent shabbos with the daughter’s family, we can presume they will stay there for the whole day, if they went to son’s family, they can come back abruptly due to some machlokes.January 2, 2022 2:33 pm at 2:33 pm #2047341
So we had this family schism some time back, now i don’t talk to anyone.
At simchos, the only one I’ll talk to is my sister, but if her son comes over I promptly walk away.
My biggest enemy is one BIL who i try to topple his business indirectly, ever since he took me to a din torah over the Yerusha.
Hope this helps.January 2, 2022 7:30 pm at 7:30 pm #2047468Reb EliezerParticipant
My sister in law (my wife’s a’h sister) continues calling me every Thursday as she did my wife.January 2, 2022 8:14 pm at 8:14 pm #2047489amomParticipant
Reb E- so nice.
I’m super close to my sisters (I speak to them a few times a day). I’m really good with my brothers wives (speak to them once in a while). I’ll have a geshmake conversations with my brothers (when I see them which isn’t too often). I have a polite formal relationship with my sisters husbands.
My husbands family is not so close-knit. We have a nice time when we see each other and we share in each others simchos but otherwise……January 2, 2022 11:35 pm at 11:35 pm #2047576yungermanSParticipant
Im a Yungerman and as we know were ALL BROTHERS AND SISTERS and related to each other-no matter how many generations back it goes- and i love every single brother and sister of mine especially those in the YWN coffee room. and have a mitzvah to love one another “vahavta lreiacha kamocha” although the letter writer is referring personally to our family brothers and sisters. I want to let you all know that here in the YWN coffee room we are all one big family and i love every single one of you.January 3, 2022 10:42 pm at 10:42 pm #2047902
Anyone become closer to their siblings in adulthood or later in life than they were during childhood or even young adulthood?January 4, 2022 9:35 am at 9:35 am #2047973WolfishMusingsParticipant
I have one sister and we’re very close.
The WolfJanuary 4, 2022 10:23 pm at 10:23 pm #2048177
Please define the meaning/definition of your close relationship.January 5, 2022 4:09 pm at 4:09 pm #2048436Josephs MotherParticipant
Now now, my little Joseph… we can’t be prying into other people’s personal lives again. I made you some meatloaf and green beans, they’re in the fridge. Feel free to come up from the basement when you’re hungry, sweetie.January 5, 2022 4:09 pm at 4:09 pm #2048439WolfishMusingsParticipant
Please define the meaning/definition of your close relationship.
Why? It’s “close” as I define it.
The WolfJanuary 5, 2022 5:55 pm at 5:55 pm #2048506
you made a username just to say that? How’d u get ur profile to say “sometime ago”?January 5, 2022 5:55 pm at 5:55 pm #2048507
I’m curious….Did you take him as a baby to the beis medrash to hear the talmidei chachamim talking, but stood outside the coffee room?
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