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when women watch the kids it’s being a mother, and when men do it’s babysitting?
For the same reason that when a women gets a job it is a “second income”.
Because when men do it its about “surviving” the afternoon without mommy.
deiyezooger hit that nail right on the head.
Because it is a mother’s natural job, and not a father’s.
It’s because babies like their mother more
I don’t think the entire collective of babies have only one shared mother.
And you can’t answer your own questions. It makes it seem like you were asking rhetorically.
“Because it is a mother’s natural job, and not a father’s.”
That was the point that I was trying to make with my comparison to the “second income”.
if fathers spend as much time with the baby as mothers do then they are not sexond class caretakers or babysitters. the baby would be just a close to the father as to the mother.
think about the stay at home dads
Exactly. Earning an income is the husband’s natural job, and not the mother’s.
Fathers can give the baby a bottle, same as non-nursing mothers (or even nursing mothers who want their baby to be able to take a bottle) do.
Mothers have an innate ability to care for a baby’s physical and emotional needs in a way far superior to the that of the father.
It is my belief that a good deal of feminism has seeped into frum culture to the point where many of us begin to question the distinct roles and nature of men and women/mothers and fathers that are really quite obvious.
I think of myself as a good father, my kids love when I play with them, tell them stories, help them with their homework, take them to the grocery, but when they are down (hurt, not feeling well etc their first choice will be mommy.
I agree with those posters above who said that its because its the mother natural job and she is therefor better at it- she can sense somethings that the father would not pick up. I personally know that my mother would pick up way faster than my father when I’m going through something.
” she can sense somethings that the father would not pick up.”
Like a dirty diper!! We fathers are capable of playing with a todler and enjoy his compeny while the odor is so bad that the carbon monoxite detecter should realy go off…
And btw that dosn’t make us bad fathers, we are good fathers but we are not mothers.
(That does not mean mothers are superior, it means mothers were created to do some things, while the fathers have another role.)
Because they lose their patience faster, they can do a babysitting ‘stint’ but cant do it for an ongoing period of time. (it’s not worth it for us either!)
I think the most important question we need to ask ourselves that came out of this thread is:
Was Poppa’s usage of “How come” grammatically correct in this situation? Should he have used “Why”? These are questions every mother and father must ask (in no particular order) him and herself at least once in a lifetime- preferable her or his own.
popa- what made you think of this thread?
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