September 9, 2013 3:54 am at 3:54 am #610547cinderellaParticipant
I need to make someone dislike me. I don’t know how. Anyone have any subtle yet effective ideas to end a friendship?September 9, 2013 4:09 am at 4:09 am #974824TheGoqParticipant
Either lend or borrow money.September 9, 2013 4:17 am at 4:17 am #974825live rightMember
how about just be honest with this person instead of hurting lots of feelings and making big messes. ive been in this situation so many times I cant count. its hard, but you have to take that step and speak your mind.
you haven’t been so explicit about why you wish to end this relationship, so here I am assuming you are having a similar experience to what ive been through. feel free to correct me.September 9, 2013 5:10 am at 5:10 am #974826Shopping613 🌠Participant
Why? Is it too emotionally or physically draining? Cuz the girl is just plain annoying? Or cuz she’s sinking and youre trying not to with her…..?
Maybe she needs you and you shouldnt end it in the 1st place…….September 9, 2013 5:27 am at 5:27 am #974827SanityIsOverratedParticipant
Eat garlic?September 9, 2013 7:47 am at 7:47 am #974828jewishfeminist02Member
Troll?September 9, 2013 9:49 am at 9:49 am #974829mazaltovMember
PLEASE be honest. However hard it is you will be happier in the end.September 9, 2013 12:46 pm at 12:46 pm #974830ED IT ORParticipant
Well Cindrella if you go bye carriage to the ball and leave as the servant it could help?September 9, 2013 1:30 pm at 1:30 pm #974831eclipseMember
Smell. Who can stand that?September 9, 2013 1:33 pm at 1:33 pm #974832eclipseMember
And general rule: Never flirt or “play” with the vulnerable. Then you won’t have to make yourself unlikeable post-facto.September 9, 2013 3:16 pm at 3:16 pm #974833WIYMember
Lend them money you won’t ever see them again 🙂September 9, 2013 3:36 pm at 3:36 pm #974834ED IT ORParticipant
Lend them money you won’t ever see them again 🙂
i can improve on that:September 9, 2013 4:06 pm at 4:06 pm #974836ToiParticipant
keep your finger shoved up your nose. and dont shower. i wouldnt like you at all.September 9, 2013 4:09 pm at 4:09 pm #974837popa_bar_abbaParticipant
Kill themSeptember 9, 2013 4:15 pm at 4:15 pm #974838RedlegParticipant
I’ll solve your problem. I dislike you. Oh! you mean someone in particular.September 9, 2013 4:50 pm at 4:50 pm #974839miritchkaMember
Start backing off. Be friendly but dont share information with them. Depending on how close you were with them, they should get the hint.
I do that with nosy neighbors. Cool friendship I call it.September 9, 2013 5:10 pm at 5:10 pm #974840SanityIsOverratedParticipant
Popa- She wanted something subtle. . .September 9, 2013 7:10 pm at 7:10 pm #974841oomisParticipant
You shouldn’t. If you want someone to be less involved in your life, then just don’t be available. But don’t be obnoxious about it, either. You should never burn a bridge behind you. This person’s child could be redt to your own, someday.September 10, 2013 12:28 am at 12:28 am #974842WIYMember
I should mention don’t do any aveiros in the process. Ie don’t spread rumors about her behind her back or embarrass her in public…
Btw I was thinking a good idea would be to get into arguments with her. Like if you know she has certain opinions take the opposite side and argue strongly for that side always and say stuff like “it’s stupid irrational and immature to think otherwise” and similar things. Eventually she will get fed up with you. She may even start to really dislike you.September 13, 2013 9:25 pm at 9:25 pm #974843cinderellaParticipant
See the thing is I can’t be honest with her. It would crush her. So I’m just being distant. Like avoiding her calls and taking forever to answer her texts… In a very nice way of course. Eventually she’ll begin to think that I’m not worth that much effort on her part.
Hopefully this will work. Thank (most of) you for your suggestions.September 15, 2013 1:24 pm at 1:24 pm #974844SaysMeMember
cinderella- sounds like what ur doing is the best way for this particular situation then. When u do take her calls, dont gush about having not spoken to her in so long, and dont do so long or in depth convos?
On the other hand, i dont know why you are trying to cut her off, but make sure its a valid neccesary reason? Esp right after yom kippur. Try to view things from her shoes if its of that sort.
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