How do you manage?
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September 17, 2013 12:44 am at 12:44 am #610668
These past weeks were extremely draining, some days I literally feel like a zombie getting through the day. I need something to distract my mind and get me to focus on my life. How do you manage through chaos called life?September 17, 2013 12:45 am at 12:45 am #975759
What exactly is the problem?September 17, 2013 12:59 am at 12:59 am #975760Sam2Participant
The CR.September 17, 2013 1:02 am at 1:02 am #975761
Everything, I’m a complete mess. I’m the type of person who seems like they have everything under control. My problem is when things swing out of my bounds and into others I lose control of them. Basically decisions are/were made without my input and it drives me insane. On the outside I’m trying/pretending to keep my composure.
I sound like a control-freak but I’m not. I’m not dealing and I think I’m getting depressed.September 17, 2013 1:04 am at 1:04 am #975762
You do sound very frustrated, overwhelmed and depressed.
Did these decisions impact your everyday life, or your long-term goals?September 17, 2013 1:10 am at 1:10 am #975763
Both, how would I know if I’m really depressed, I try to keep my mind off of these things and distract myself with stupidity. It’s not working. Why is life so crazy?September 17, 2013 2:35 am at 2:35 am #975765TorahrocksMember
I think many people might feel upset if things they thought they had under control were to suddenly swing out of control.
I do not think it’s just you.September 17, 2013 3:28 am at 3:28 am #975766sharpMember
This is a very busy and often stressful time of year with a lot happening at once. Hopefully it’s only temporary and things will get back to normal for you. Good luck 🙂September 17, 2013 5:08 am at 5:08 am #975767iknoMember
popup, i completely understand you, but, like sharp said its a hard time of the year…. the people who are doin stuff without your permission, its probably not coming from a bad place. i dont know what you work/ do… but being that it is the beginning of the year they are probably anxious teo prove themselves and show their value. so just be very open to it and compliment them very often because otherwise it will just turn into open resentment…
hatzlacha in everything you do! hope it all works out okSeptember 17, 2013 12:28 pm at 12:28 pm #975768notasheepMember
I know how you feel, I don’t feel like I’m coping at the moment,and I keep losing my patience with my 2 year old cause she is testing me to the limitSeptember 17, 2013 12:42 pm at 12:42 pm #975769
popup: Avoiding your feelings and trying to ignore them or cover them up with other things in your life, only makes them come out in other ways. If you have a Rav, mentor, therapist, friend, anyone you can talk about it with non-judgmentally, that might help you feel better.
If you are truly upset about something specific, perhaps ask advice on how to tell the people who upset you about how you feel without being confrontational. People don’t generally mean to be hurtful, they just don’t realize how their actions impact others, and will generally feel bad if they realize how much it hurt you, even if they can’t do anything about it.September 18, 2013 2:34 am at 2:34 am #975770sailorMemberSeptember 18, 2013 9:49 pm at 9:49 pm #975771
very poetic, we all need those new beginnings. Chag SameachSeptember 22, 2013 10:57 pm at 10:57 pm #975772
Torah613: thanks, I know people wouldn’t and don’t do things intentionally,
I’m pretending to avoid my feelings I’m in touch with them and when I am it’s painful “…If you asked me how I’m doing I’d say I’m doing just fine I’d lie and say that…” it’s prob unhealthy and I can’t think of a better way I guess somedays you need to just escape and sulk(it’s unfortunate ’cause it’s sukkos)September 22, 2013 11:51 pm at 11:51 pm #975773🍫Syag LchochmaParticipant
This thread spent a bit of time right above the one titled “sometimes you just need to cry”. Everytime I saw the two together I felt like they belonged that way.
I sympathize completely. I don’t feel it at these times, I happen to be one of the crazy ones who loves three day Yom Tovim and having everything flying but I have times. Sometimes the pain (of whatever hurts) is so intense so I listen to hour after hour of shiurim. It gives me distraction but also chizuk. I do hide my pain, but not to everyone. I don’t always have the strength to say it outloud but I make sure someone knows where I’m holding.
As far as the general chaos of life, I don’t fight it, I just make sure it’s all contained and everyone is getting what they need.
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