November 22, 2010 7:32 pm at 7:32 pm #593152rbMember
I was just wondering how much people give their son’s Rebbeim for Chanukah? Do you also give for Purim?
I have found that people tip their children’s camp JC $10 for a summer and feel comfortable giving the same amount to their son’s Rebbe who teaches him Torah the whole year!November 22, 2010 8:33 pm at 8:33 pm #712081artchillParticipant
How much do YOU get from your co-workers and boss around the holiday season?
You are paid by your company for doing the work you are hired to do. Perks and tips, etc. are nice but are NOT required. Same with teachers. The schools charge parents according to their ability for tuition. The school uses this money to fund the teacher SALARIES. Parental tips are nice but can’t be EXPECTED or DEMANDED by any rational teacher.
JC’s and waiters PRIMARY payment and income is NOT through their employer, rather it’s through tips. That’s why parents pay the tips.November 22, 2010 8:48 pm at 8:48 pm #712082deiyezoogerMember
Tips can’t be demanded but thats the norm and when the school hires a rebbe its mentioned when discussing the sallery so its somewhat expected. Still I believe its not how much you give but how you give e.i. a nice note e.t.c.November 22, 2010 8:55 pm at 8:55 pm #712084artchillParticipant
Rebbeim and teachers who went the extra mile for my kids were rewarded in kind. Tips and bonuses are meant to encourage outstanding effort from staff NOT to accept mediocrity. If any rebbe/teacher is insulted by this, let them speak to a regular employee at stam a company. Kids ‘es kumpt mir’ attitudes aren’t always taught at home.November 22, 2010 10:01 pm at 10:01 pm #712085bptParticipant
$50, but that covers Purim too. And only up till 8th grade. HS and beyond, my kids are self sufficent, so there really is no “extra mile”November 22, 2010 10:43 pm at 10:43 pm #712086apushatayidParticipant
“when the school hires a rebbe its mentioned when discussing the sallery so its somewhat expected”
They do? Expected by whom?November 22, 2010 10:54 pm at 10:54 pm #712087aries2756Participant
Usually the class mother collects money for the teachers and Rebbeim both at Chanuka and Purim. This is for a class/group gift. This eases the burden for those who can’t afford and the teacher/Rebbe gets a lump sum from everyone. Not everyone gives what is asked and some give more. Some give besides the group effort. Everyone tends to do what is comfortable for their own situation and what is nogeah between their child and his mechanchim. If one has a child who needs extra attention and that is noticed and responded to, then a parent might respond in a more generous manner to show appreciation at appropriate times. If a parent feels that no attention was paid to their child or a mechanech wasn’t especially caring toward their child their dissatisfaction might come out at this time as well. And if people are financially well off they may generously show their appreciation at times like Chanuka, Purim and Pesach knowing that the mechanchim are also on a strict budget necessitated by their salaries yet have the same expenses like everyone else.
So basically I would say to each their own.November 22, 2010 11:20 pm at 11:20 pm #712088popa_bar_abbaParticipant
You sound as if you are tipping because it is “required”, “expected”, or “part of the salary”.
Do you give your kids presents because they expect it?
Why don’t you give the Rebbi something because you appreciate him and recognize that he is being under-compensated for what he does? Doesn’t your son’s Rebbi deserve something in appreciation?November 23, 2010 1:41 am at 1:41 am #712089WIYMember
rb and any other parents who have kids in school
If you want to do something really nice and thoughtful, buy a card… and write a nice personal message to the Rebbi thanking him for all that he has done and will continue to do for your child and his classmates. I cant tell you precisely what to write but it should be from the heart and sincere. I guarantee you that if you do this it will be appreciated and will pay off nice dividends in the attention the Rebbi/Morah/teacher will give to your child’s development and progress.November 23, 2010 10:12 pm at 10:12 pm #712090rbMember
BP Totty- “HS and beyond, my kids are self sufficent, so there really is no “extra mile”
My husband is a Beis Medrash Rebbe and I can tell you that parents who still give Chanukah gifts are few and far between. When they do happen, they are very much appreciated. He puts hours into his boys- hours that are not included in his salary. When we receive a check our response is “While not neccesary, it is very much appreciated”. And you know what, it is appreciated. Someone is recognizing your efforts. And it is not always from the students that he puts the most into.
WIY- I don’t think that he ever received a card without some gift. It just doesn’t happen that way.November 25, 2010 4:39 am at 4:39 am #712091eclipseMember
a principal of a huge school once told me that sincere notes of appreciation mean the world to a rebbe or teacher…and evoke in them a desire to be kind to your child,too.
on a side note,after 2 checks FOR FIVE DOLLARS(j.c.tips) bounced(!!), I was so embarrassed, I decided…if I have so many tips to give I can’t even keep track…i’d rather give one normal size tip to the rebbe(who has to prepare even in the summer).November 25, 2010 5:19 am at 5:19 am #712092WIYMember
You tip $5 and with a bounced check?! Have you been out of your house recently? What the heck can you buy with $5?!November 25, 2010 5:25 am at 5:25 am #712093eclipseMember
each kid had about 45 j.c.’s..vos vilst du fun mein leben?November 25, 2010 6:01 am at 6:01 am #712094chesednameParticipant
a rebbi once told me, it means more to get a small amount a few times a year, then once a big check.
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