February 13, 2011 5:17 pm at 5:17 pm #594964
How much do you pay your babysitter, a high school girl in Brooklyn?February 13, 2011 5:19 pm at 5:19 pm #739924popa_bar_abbaParticipant
How much do you pay for a babysitter?
It depends what you are buying. If you are going to own her in fee simple, I would say somewhere in the 100,000 range.February 13, 2011 6:11 pm at 6:11 pm #739925popa_bar_abbaParticipant
Poppa bar: What are you talking about?
Did I write that? What am I talking about?February 13, 2011 6:20 pm at 6:20 pm #739926RezdyMember
yeh i think popa_bar_abba is somewhere along the right lines!February 13, 2011 6:35 pm at 6:35 pm #739927
Basically YOU pay what SHE asks or you find someone else. It is not up to YOU to set the price, it is up to YOU to find someone you trust and someone the kids like. That is the most important high priority. After that if you can’t afford the price you should truly consider going out less often, rather than complain about how much your babysitter charges.
It is a foolish concept to hire a sitter “every” Motzei Shabbos to go out with your friends whether it is to dinner, or to dinner and a movie or whatever and yet constantly complain how much the sitter cost. I find it utterly amusing how people try to cut corners and be “financially responsible” when it comes time to pay someone else, yet they can spend whatever they choose on the night out.
If you only go out once in a while the cost of a good reliable babysitter won’t break your budget. If you go out all the time, then you can afford to pay the price as well.
Ask yourselves this “how much is peace of mind worth to you?” But of course, this is only MHO.February 13, 2011 6:37 pm at 6:37 pm #739928
Did I write that? What am I talking about?
No, that must have been mod 80.February 13, 2011 6:38 pm at 6:38 pm #739929
well, it might be worth my while just to buy the babysitter and have her whenever I need JKFebruary 13, 2011 6:41 pm at 6:41 pm #739930yoyo56Member
the normal rate is ten dollars it aslo depends on how many children you have are they well behaved did u put the children to sleep or did the baysitter have to do all the changing and getting ready
it realy depends u must take everything into perspective when paying
i normaly babysit for someone they pay me 8 but once one of their children was very cranky and he was cring that he throw up and i killed it up so therefore the paid me more
the more u pay the happier the person will walk out and will want to return
the best is 10 less than 8 is being cheapFebruary 13, 2011 6:48 pm at 6:48 pm #739931
Basically YOU pay what SHE asks or you find someone else.
In my experience, they don’t ask, so you have to know what the going rate is and offer it on your own.February 13, 2011 6:52 pm at 6:52 pm #739932
MOMof4, that’s called a live-in. Go for it!February 13, 2011 7:12 pm at 7:12 pm #739933
MOMof4, that’s called a live-in. Go for it!
Are you sponsoring? I’ll take one also! 🙂
By the way, it’s actually called a shifcha c’naanis.February 13, 2011 7:27 pm at 7:27 pm #739934
Daas Yochid, if they are “shy” ask them what they normally get paid and they will answer you.February 13, 2011 7:37 pm at 7:37 pm #739935chayav inish livisumayParticipant
i think that children are getting to greedy!!! give her 5 bucks an hour and she should be happy. in the alter hime if somone needed a babysitter some kid in the shtetle would do it for free. nowadays there is no chessed. everything boils down to “how much will you pay”?? this is the hashchasa of the dorFebruary 13, 2011 8:53 pm at 8:53 pm #739936essy8Member
chayav inish: you cannot put pressure on others and be cheap and call it chessed. high school girls are often loaded with responsibilites from school and home and are cutting into their studying/free time to help you. and i believe it is a chessed even though they are paid. aside from that, many of them are saving for seminary/camp/for after they get married (yes i actually know girls who babysit for my kids in all three of these situations.)
Baruch Hashem, many girls are raised these days with a sense of modesty and refinement that does not allow them to “name a price”. i often have to really push and they wont even tell me how much they usually get. “whatever you want to pay is fine! really!!” I think the fair thing is to ask around before you hire so you don’t inadvertently make a chillul Hashem or a bad impression, esp. if you are a kollel familyFebruary 13, 2011 9:15 pm at 9:15 pm #739937essy8Member
it bugs me when people think kids and young adults are around to serve adults. no one wants to watch someone else’s kids, esp after school and home obligations. even if they are getting paid. it is a big favor. you can’t compare the “alter hime” to life now days and decided to criticize other frum yidden (even if they are teenagers.) — unless you were advised to do so by a rav?February 13, 2011 9:29 pm at 9:29 pm #739938
aries- I am happy to pay for a babysitter that’s reliable and will take good care of my kiddies. I was just curious what the going rate was. When I used to babysit I got paid $5 an hour no matter how cranky/how many kids there were. It’s just uncomfortable for me to ask her since she’s a friends sister.February 13, 2011 11:07 pm at 11:07 pm #739939
Then you should ask your friend how much her sister charches. If your friend woes it it is a. Favor if. HR sister. Does it it is business.February 13, 2011 11:18 pm at 11:18 pm #739940whatelseisleftMember
If you think its uncomfortable to ask your friends sister, who many times you have known her since she was very young, just imagine how uncomfortable it is for a 14-19 year old kid to ask. You hardly know the person and you just know that at the end of the night they’ll ask. You have alot of thoughts going though your head “Is 7 1/2 too little, the kids are loud and cranky and won’t go to sleep” “Is 10 too much?, i don’t know their economic situation, I don’t want it too be too difficult.” A large part of the night you are thinking about this and are very nervous. You decided finally a number or give a range, they make a strange sound and you begin to feel guilty that you are asking too much.
And I don’t know about where you live but personally ( and many of my friend do similar), on my own, with out my parents advising me either way,decide ” tonight, i see that they need it more then me, going though a rough time, bla bla, i won’t accept the money and will do it as a chessed”, that doesn’t always turn out that well either, with all of you guys complaining you would be surprised how many people get ANGRY and demand i take the $ i refuse to.February 14, 2011 4:15 am at 4:15 am #739941
firstly I apologize I was typing on my phone. Could you tell????
If you don’t want to ask the sitter ask the sister. She might be coming to you as a favor but she is not babysitting as a favor. She is babysitting to make money. So be honest with your friend and tell her you really appreciate that her sister is coming and you want her to be happy coming to you so please either find out or tell her not to be ashamed to tell you directly what she wants to get paid.
As far as chesed is concerned, it is chesed hours when kids go after school to help kolel couples who can’t afford help. But it is not chessed when kids babysit so you can go to the movies or to eat out with friends.February 14, 2011 4:21 am at 4:21 am #739942bygirl93Member
I dont know about most girls but i just take what i get- if they ask me i say i don’t name a price they should give me what they feel comfortable with- i have someone sometimes she pays me 5$ and hour sometimes she pays me 10- it depends on each persons financial situation i have a couple of ppl i dont charge at all and i dont let them give me money- and i just chalk it up as chesed hours- which as anyone in high school knows- most people go well over the 30 required hours! and some ppl i have a credit thing going sometimes the pay me a 20 for a half hour but then dont pay me the next two times etc. it all depends on how well u know the person ur babysitting for- i dont babysit for strangers- and if u dont want to give a babysitter 10$ and hour i dont blame u but if the kids are up and they put them to bed ect. then they def. dont deserve 5$ id say a sleeping kid or two six or seven dollars- if they had to take care of htem 8 or nine and if it was a whole day thing- set a price for the whole day before hand ssay- if u babysit from 10 to 5 ill pay u 50$ theyll usually agree-even though its 7 hours- most girls would b happy to make 50$ in a day and wont count out the hours to b exact! hope it helps u see it from our perspective! oh and ya if u r one of those who go out once a week withur friends- then obviously u can afford to pay 10- even if u r a kollel couple- who paid for your bugaboo? oh and the going out was on ur parents credit card? maybe next time ask ur parents for cash?- sry i dont mean it to sound mean but its ok to take from ur parents for ur own enjoyment but not to pay someone wat they deserve?February 14, 2011 4:32 am at 4:32 am #739943
Daas Yochid, if they are “shy” ask them what they normally get paid and they will answer you.
The response is sometimes “I don’t know, whatever”.February 14, 2011 4:35 am at 4:35 am #739944
but its ok to take from ur parents for ur own enjoyment but not to pay someone wat they deserve?
Maybe the parents paid for dinner but not the babysitter?February 14, 2011 4:51 am at 4:51 am #739945
bygirl93, points taken, you see you have to put everything into perspective. Even if you are a Kollel couple yet you flaunt your expensive sheitel and your expensive jewelry and you go out with your friends thanks to your parents’ credit card (as was so aptly pointed out) you just can’t claim poverty or a need for chessed when it comes to paying others. Fair is fair.February 14, 2011 9:22 am at 9:22 am #739946PosterMember
This is one thing that is cheap in Eretz Yisroel. Babysitters range from 15-20 shekel an hour. (About $4-$6). Since the teenagers finish school at 1:00 they are bored. Their parents WANT them to babysit to make money and to do something constructive with their afternoon/ evening.
If you go to Shefa in teh afternoon it is loaded with babysitters!February 14, 2011 3:30 pm at 3:30 pm #739947pumperMember
I completely agree with you!
No one is forcing you to go out. if you can’t afford the going rate either stay home or take the kids with you (which seems to be the new fashion at many weddings that I attended recently.)
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