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Can I just say, here I am?
I would like to do this because what if I were able to make just one SHidduch?
My idea is that since I live in such and such an area, I know some singles. If I start telling people that I am a Shadchan, I will get some people will tell me about singles.
Then I would be in contact with a Shadchan from another part of the same metro area.
Is this being too naive that is, I don’t want to waste my time.
Is there any merit to trying or should it be done some other way?
IMO you dont one day just decide to “be” a shadchan. you can set people up that you think would make a good match and get them to go out. eventually once you make a few shidduchim, your name will get out that you have experiance with people and you will have a title as “the shadchan.” as for not wasting your time, making shidduchim is extremely time consuming and more often then not yields disappointing results. (im speaking from experiance…) remember, chazal say that making a shidduch is as hard as the splitting of the sea. but for the one time that you succeed, its 100% worth it!! there is nothing like the nachas of watching two people that you thought of start building their home. HATZLACHA!
What about looking into saw you at Sinai? We know of someone who became involved in shidduchim through that route.
Another idea is to try to attend shidduch meetings, and present the men or women who you would like to help. Make sure you’ve asked them if they want you to do that. No shidduch meeting in your area? Organize one via your shul, community, whatever.
It’s a lot of word of mouth and keeping your ears open. No, I’m not A Shaddchun, but I am a woman who almost always is listening for possible matches for those I know.
I know people who are not “officially” shadchanim but get involved in it and have had good results. If you let people know that you’re willing to keep them in mind for shidduchim most people will be only to happy to send you their info.
Hatzlacha
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