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Say someones offers you–as they did me–chocolate coconut cake. But after taking a piece, you realize the cake actually would taste better without the coconut. Do you say something? If so, how would you phrase it? Or do you just smile and say “thank you for the delicious piece of cake”?
It depends if you are the baker’s assistant, the baker’s husband, the baker’s neighbor or the baker’s customer.
Lanky sometimes it’s better to not say anything at all
Did the other person ask for your feedback?
‘Al taam ve’al reyach’ and all that. you’d prefer less coconut, the next guy prefers double the coconut and 1/2 the chocolate. Smile and say thanks!! Now that changes if the person is working onthe recipe and is asking every taster for feedback so that they can tweak it- if asked, phrase it nicely… “love it the way it is, and maybe it would be worth a try to see if less cocolnt would also be good” vehameivin yavin.
The thing with social behaviors is that you can not script them all in one paragraph. It varies from culture to culture, and within each culture it varies within groups and depends on the setting and on the reason qnd motivation of the recipient, which takes great skill to decipher.
This is why, those who don’t burden themselves with getting to understand social behavior have so much extra brain space to learn other stuff. But on the flip side, being autistic is not easy either.
Halevi omygosh are you thinking for yourself. How could you come to those conclusions without someone else walking you through them and telling you how to think. Wow. See you do have your own brain happy to see that
I think you could say it, wisely ofc. people like to here opinions. Unless the person is emotionally unbalanced.
Of course I agree. That’s why I have my own oppinions as well. But it’s funny how people are allowed to have their opinions about everything else but the second people have an a difference of oppinon about cultural or Torah context suddenly it’s all sheeple speak.
It’s just a glearing contradiction don’t you thinkIf i or anybody is capable of using thier brain and inherint wisdom about all other subjects why doesn’t it translate as well to the subjects we discuss most here. Living breathing hypocrisy lol
If you say things that are foundational in the torah, it’s different. You understand why.
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