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  • #611205
    OURtorah
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    hi guys!

    Ive been using the CR for a few monthes now and I love it! I love trying to picture the type of amazing people you each are, with your beautiful insights and your wonderful advice!

    I see many of you are friends and I feel kinda left out! How can I join!!???

    #1032746
    the-art-of-moi
    Participant

    Awwwww, OURtorah I’m so sorry you’ve been feeling left out! I’d love to become more friendly with you… I just don’t know too much about you because you don’t post too often, so it’s a bit hard. But based on the facts that- 1. You are Jewish

    and 2. a thread you started a while ago about achdus

    I can see that you are a very nice and spirituality growth oriented person, so I am pleased to consider you my friend.

    #1032747
    SanityIsOverrated
    Participant

    I have no idea how the friend thing works. I’m only here for a few months myself. I love people, we could be friends:)

    #1032748
    oomis
    Participant

    We can all be CR friends, but by virtue of the very real wisdom of remaining anonymous here on-line, it is difficult to find a way to be friends outside of the CR. I discovered completely by accident that one of the posters here was in fact a long ago dear friend with whom I had lost touch. We reconnected because of the CR (and because of a chessed that she was extending, which is so like her), but it was all Hashgocha Protis, and certainly not typical.

    For many reasons, it is better that in general, we maintain our anonymity. Discussions sometimes get heated or a little personal, and it is better that we really do not know to whom we are speaking at those times.

    #1032749
    TheGoq
    Participant

    OURtorah welcome!!!! we all want to be your friend just post on whatever threads appeal to you let us get to know real ourtorah and we will be friends before you know it

    #1032750

    Welcome!!! Its harder to see posters who dont post often, I have bad memory and it only permits me to remember the members I see everyday or just stick out but post often. Ussually If I suddenly find someone I suppose they are new…turns out most are a few years old and they just dont post….

    We’ll try to put you in, you have to start recognizing the faces here everyday also. Maybe its a good thing you arent fruends with us, dont get me wrong! We all want to make more friends and you seem cute, but most of the people who do have friends here are going through something tough, thats why they come here daily. If we dont see you alot and youre not venting, that should mean that you have a life unlike many of us and that (I hope) nothing major is going on in your life-count youself lucky!

    Anyway you seem real cute!!!! Id be happy to be your friend!!!!!! I think I also saw your achdus thread, and it was very nice….just jump in with us and soon you’ll get everything going on!!!!

    #1032751
    keepitcoming
    Member

    just post alot- ppl get to know u.. but if it takes up too much of ur time and u see urself wasting hours and hours… leave it and go make real reality friends

    #1032752
    streekgeek
    Participant

    OURTorah – It would be weird to welcome you cuz you’ve been a member longer than me, but your welcome to be my friend! I can’t seem to ever have enough anyways…the more the merrier πŸ˜‰

    #1032753
    Torah613Torah
    Participant

    It would be quite dangerous to make friends on the CR. Don’t you have friends in real life? For every post you make, call someone once and soon you’ll be too busy for the CR!

    #1032756
    OURtorah
    Participant

    shopping- its very true! baruch Hashem I keep busy with other things and I have lots of family and friends to talk to in real life. But for me, I wasnt really raised as frum as I am now and I am living in a community, which is beautiful and Jewish, but it isnt the surroundings I would like to be! and until I get married (Iy”H) I can’t really go anywhere hehe.

    So I love coming here, because I know there are other people like minded to me somewhere in this world who have amazing insights and things to say! It’s sorta like a community that I love being a part of!!

    #1032757
    Bookworm120
    Participant

    Welcome OURTorah! πŸ™‚ I’m fairly new here too. While oomis is right and anonymity is crucial, what worked for me when it came to building rapports with my fellow CR users was just posting on threads that suit your interest. It’s one way to make yourself known here. Just remember – this is the worldwide web. Be safe and have fun!

    #1032758

    ahem! OUR torah, I am here to offer my assistance!

    #1032759

    Chaval, but you’ll LOVE seminary then, the surrodings will be better…but for all I know you already passed seminary…

    #1032760

    “For many reasons, it is better that in general, we maintain our anonymity. Discussions sometimes get heated or a little personal, and it is better that we really do not know to whom we are speaking at those times.”

    I agree that maintaining anonymity is very important. However, precisely because discussions often get heated, I wish that we would all take it upon ourselves to imagine, each time we reply to an anonymous poster, that we are speaking to a friend, relative, rebbe, or someone we know personally. Maybe that would help to dissipate some of the vitriol that shows up here all too often.

    #1032761
    the-art-of-moi
    Participant

    OURtorah-

    Hey, that sounds cool! We’re all part of a secret society. The code to enter our hallows is known only to the most priveleged of peoples- the screen names on the cr… OK, excuse me while I run off to write a chapter book!

    #1032762
    OURtorah
    Participant

    thanks again everyone! as of right now im currently in midterms, so i cant seem to post alot, but im going to try to more cuz i do feel i want to add!!! thanks for the advice all πŸ™‚ im looking forward to being ur friends!!

    shopping- yes πŸ™ unfortunatly its over! it was beyond amazing thoguh Baruch Hashem! plus one step closer to meeting my basheret, and finnaly getting to live a life I want IyH!

    #1032763

    Awesome, so you are saying soon there will be a Mazel Tov??? (Hint, hint) many people e stay for a second year and even become a madricha, some even for a third and they take online colledge or university….

    maybe you could try that?

    #1032764

    shopping 613. Nope! still looking. I’m going in Aug next yr I”H

    #1032765

    Chaval..oh well, there will be a Mazel Tov one day!.Cool! Im glad! You’ll be much happier!!!

    #1032766
    keepitcoming
    Member

    ive stayed on in isreal– anyone could .. these days its more common for girls to stay without family

    #1032767
    LevAryeh
    Member

    If you want to make friends online, open a facebook.

    #1032768
    keepitcoming
    Member

    he/she means they want2 be included in the back and forth between users

    #1032769
    the-art-of-moi
    Participant

    LAB-

    I believe the correct way to say that would be-

    If you want to make friends online, open a facebook account.

    #1032770
    OURtorah
    Participant

    LAB- exactly what keepitcoming said! Im not looking for “real” friends online. I’m looking to be part of this community where people support each other through thick and thin! Its so cool! everyone might even be next doors neighbours and not even know!!!

    no facebook….bad for the neshama!!!

    #1032771
    LevAryeh
    Member

    the-art-of-moi – Colloquially both work.

    #1032772

    “no facebook….bad for the neshama!!!”

    There are Facebook groups for divrei Torah, for cholim, for tzedakah, for countless community initiatives. Used appropriately, Facebook can be very good for the neshama.

    #1032773
    LevAryeh
    Member

    Used appropriately, Facebook can be very good for the neshama.

    So can the CR.

    #1032774
    oomis
    Participant

    JewishFeminist – you are quite right. We should all strive to remember that Derech Eretz Kadma L’Torah, and the best way to make ourselves heard, is to speak with Derech Eretz, even when we disagree with someone’s opinion. Imagining that the person to whom we are responding might be our Rov, rebbie, best friend, parent, sibling, is a good way to approach this.

    #1032775
    OURtorah
    Participant

    jeiwsh feminist- you are totally right πŸ™‚ sorry if i offended anyone there! There r countless amazing things that can happen anywhere, you just have to have the proper attitude and intentions!

    #1032776
    Redleg
    Participant

    How to make friends in the CR:

    Be opinionated, unreasonable, condescending, snarky, insulting and hostile. Works for me.

    #1032777
    OURtorah
    Participant

    Im officially not posting anymore! I wanted to thank all the posters here who helped me thru a pretty challenging time in my life. And showing me that there is a community of people who give time to help people anonymously. Hatzlacha with everything you do!

    Thank you also to the mods πŸ™‚ u guys run an awesome show here!

    Have a gut gebenched yur and a shana tova!!!

    #1032778

    I will miss you Good LUCK!

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