November 6, 2013 11:36 pm at 11:36 pm #611205
Ive been using the CR for a few monthes now and I love it! I love trying to picture the type of amazing people you each are, with your beautiful insights and your wonderful advice!
I see many of you are friends and I feel kinda left out! How can I join!!???November 7, 2013 12:02 am at 12:02 am #1032746
Awwwww, OURtorah I’m so sorry you’ve been feeling left out! I’d love to become more friendly with you… I just don’t know too much about you because you don’t post too often, so it’s a bit hard. But based on the facts that- 1. You are Jewish
and 2. a thread you started a while ago about achdus
I can see that you are a very nice and spirituality growth oriented person, so I am pleased to consider you my friend.November 7, 2013 12:10 am at 12:10 am #1032747SanityIsOverratedParticipant
I have no idea how the friend thing works. I’m only here for a few months myself. I love people, we could be friends:)November 7, 2013 12:43 am at 12:43 am #1032748oomisParticipant
We can all be CR friends, but by virtue of the very real wisdom of remaining anonymous here on-line, it is difficult to find a way to be friends outside of the CR. I discovered completely by accident that one of the posters here was in fact a long ago dear friend with whom I had lost touch. We reconnected because of the CR (and because of a chessed that she was extending, which is so like her), but it was all Hashgocha Protis, and certainly not typical.
For many reasons, it is better that in general, we maintain our anonymity. Discussions sometimes get heated or a little personal, and it is better that we really do not know to whom we are speaking at those times.November 7, 2013 12:49 am at 12:49 am #1032749TheGoqParticipant
OURtorah welcome!!!! we all want to be your friend just post on whatever threads appeal to you let us get to know real ourtorah and we will be friends before you know itNovember 7, 2013 4:29 am at 4:29 am #1032750
Welcome!!! Its harder to see posters who dont post often, I have bad memory and it only permits me to remember the members I see everyday or just stick out but post often. Ussually If I suddenly find someone I suppose they are new…turns out most are a few years old and they just dont post….
We’ll try to put you in, you have to start recognizing the faces here everyday also. Maybe its a good thing you arent fruends with us, dont get me wrong! We all want to make more friends and you seem cute, but most of the people who do have friends here are going through something tough, thats why they come here daily. If we dont see you alot and youre not venting, that should mean that you have a life unlike many of us and that (I hope) nothing major is going on in your life-count youself lucky!
Anyway you seem real cute!!!! Id be happy to be your friend!!!!!! I think I also saw your achdus thread, and it was very nice….just jump in with us and soon you’ll get everything going on!!!!November 7, 2013 4:43 pm at 4:43 pm #1032751
just post alot- ppl get to know u.. but if it takes up too much of ur time and u see urself wasting hours and hours… leave it and go make real reality friendsNovember 7, 2013 4:50 pm at 4:50 pm #1032752streekgeekParticipant
OURTorah – It would be weird to welcome you cuz you’ve been a member longer than me, but your welcome to be my friend! I can’t seem to ever have enough anyways…the more the merrier 😉November 7, 2013 6:52 pm at 6:52 pm #1032753Torah613TorahParticipant
It would be quite dangerous to make friends on the CR. Don’t you have friends in real life? For every post you make, call someone once and soon you’ll be too busy for the CR!November 7, 2013 10:47 pm at 10:47 pm #1032756
shopping- its very true! baruch Hashem I keep busy with other things and I have lots of family and friends to talk to in real life. But for me, I wasnt really raised as frum as I am now and I am living in a community, which is beautiful and Jewish, but it isnt the surroundings I would like to be! and until I get married (Iy”H) I can’t really go anywhere hehe.
So I love coming here, because I know there are other people like minded to me somewhere in this world who have amazing insights and things to say! It’s sorta like a community that I love being a part of!!November 7, 2013 11:07 pm at 11:07 pm #1032757Bookworm120Participant
Welcome OURTorah! 🙂 I’m fairly new here too. While oomis is right and anonymity is crucial, what worked for me when it came to building rapports with my fellow CR users was just posting on threads that suit your interest. It’s one way to make yourself known here. Just remember – this is the worldwide web. Be safe and have fun!November 10, 2013 12:24 pm at 12:24 pm #1032758no longer need seminaryMember
ahem! OUR torah, I am here to offer my assistance!November 10, 2013 2:20 pm at 2:20 pm #1032759
Chaval, but you’ll LOVE seminary then, the surrodings will be better…but for all I know you already passed seminary…November 10, 2013 6:05 pm at 6:05 pm #1032760jewishfeminist02Member
“For many reasons, it is better that in general, we maintain our anonymity. Discussions sometimes get heated or a little personal, and it is better that we really do not know to whom we are speaking at those times.”
I agree that maintaining anonymity is very important. However, precisely because discussions often get heated, I wish that we would all take it upon ourselves to imagine, each time we reply to an anonymous poster, that we are speaking to a friend, relative, rebbe, or someone we know personally. Maybe that would help to dissipate some of the vitriol that shows up here all too often.November 10, 2013 6:17 pm at 6:17 pm #1032761
Hey, that sounds cool! We’re all part of a secret society. The code to enter our hallows is known only to the most priveleged of peoples- the screen names on the cr… OK, excuse me while I run off to write a chapter book!November 10, 2013 10:02 pm at 10:02 pm #1032762
thanks again everyone! as of right now im currently in midterms, so i cant seem to post alot, but im going to try to more cuz i do feel i want to add!!! thanks for the advice all 🙂 im looking forward to being ur friends!!
shopping- yes 🙁 unfortunatly its over! it was beyond amazing thoguh Baruch Hashem! plus one step closer to meeting my basheret, and finnaly getting to live a life I want IyH!November 11, 2013 5:33 am at 5:33 am #1032763
Awesome, so you are saying soon there will be a Mazel Tov??? (Hint, hint) many people e stay for a second year and even become a madricha, some even for a third and they take online colledge or university….
maybe you could try that?November 12, 2013 8:26 am at 8:26 am #1032764no longer need seminaryMember
shopping 613. Nope! still looking. I’m going in Aug next yr I”HNovember 12, 2013 1:44 pm at 1:44 pm #1032765
Chaval..oh well, there will be a Mazel Tov one day!.Cool! Im glad! You’ll be much happier!!!November 12, 2013 4:44 pm at 4:44 pm #1032766
ive stayed on in isreal– anyone could .. these days its more common for girls to stay without familyNovember 12, 2013 4:55 pm at 4:55 pm #1032767
If you want to make friends online, open a facebook.November 12, 2013 5:31 pm at 5:31 pm #1032768
he/she means they want2 be included in the back and forth between usersNovember 12, 2013 6:48 pm at 6:48 pm #1032769
I believe the correct way to say that would be-
If you want to make friends online, open a facebook account.November 12, 2013 9:51 pm at 9:51 pm #1032770
LAB- exactly what keepitcoming said! Im not looking for “real” friends online. I’m looking to be part of this community where people support each other through thick and thin! Its so cool! everyone might even be next doors neighbours and not even know!!!
no facebook….bad for the neshama!!!November 12, 2013 10:33 pm at 10:33 pm #1032771
the-art-of-moi – Colloquially both work.November 12, 2013 10:46 pm at 10:46 pm #1032772jewishfeminist02Member
“no facebook….bad for the neshama!!!”
There are Facebook groups for divrei Torah, for cholim, for tzedakah, for countless community initiatives. Used appropriately, Facebook can be very good for the neshama.November 12, 2013 10:50 pm at 10:50 pm #1032773
Used appropriately, Facebook can be very good for the neshama.
So can the CR.November 12, 2013 11:57 pm at 11:57 pm #1032774oomisParticipant
JewishFeminist – you are quite right. We should all strive to remember that Derech Eretz Kadma L’Torah, and the best way to make ourselves heard, is to speak with Derech Eretz, even when we disagree with someone’s opinion. Imagining that the person to whom we are responding might be our Rov, rebbie, best friend, parent, sibling, is a good way to approach this.November 13, 2013 12:04 am at 12:04 am #1032775
jeiwsh feminist- you are totally right 🙂 sorry if i offended anyone there! There r countless amazing things that can happen anywhere, you just have to have the proper attitude and intentions!November 14, 2013 11:28 am at 11:28 am #1032776RedlegParticipant
How to make friends in the CR:
Be opinionated, unreasonable, condescending, snarky, insulting and hostile. Works for me.September 22, 2014 4:30 am at 4:30 am #1032777
Im officially not posting anymore! I wanted to thank all the posters here who helped me thru a pretty challenging time in my life. And showing me that there is a community of people who give time to help people anonymously. Hatzlacha with everything you do!
Thank you also to the mods 🙂 u guys run an awesome show here!
Have a gut gebenched yur and a shana tova!!!September 22, 2014 2:36 pm at 2:36 pm #1032778
I will miss you Good LUCK!
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