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    This recent tragedy in Monsey, is just too much to bear for me. This past year has been filled with so many crazy tzarus. And now, this…And two bochurim being niftar in a van on the way to Yeshiva… This is just so hard. I’m scared of what the next day will bring c”v. I already davened that he should have an aliya, accepted upon myself to do something in his zechus, but still… It’s just unbearable. His parents davened on Rosh Hashana for a good year, just like me. They had no idea what lay in store for them. I’m terribly shaken.

    Any advice would be appreciated.


    It is really awful OT a seemingly unending stream of misery im afraid to look at the YWN home page, as far as advice all i can say is love life for you never know when it could end sounds grim i know but its all we can do is live life and try and move forward.

    am yisrael chai

    Observanteen,you have a wonderful and sensitive neshama, and you are responding to the tragedies by doing mitzvos in the niftarim’s zchus. This is highly commendable.

    You may wish to include the following in their zchuyos:

    To eradicate Fear from your heart as best you can and accept that Hashem has the ultimate control in life with emuna and confidence and love.


    observanteen, firstly, as ayc said, it is so nice of you to accept upon yourself to do something for someone else’s sake. We should all be like you. Secondly, also as ayc said, in order for us to get past tragedies like these we must realize and take to heart that G-d does only good, He is in full control, and everything that happens we must accept as G-d’s will. Once we can do that, things will be less burdensome for us. Of course, it is almost impossible to take our emotions out of the picture, but we must reassure ourselves and be confident that G-d always does what’s best. It’s times like these when we are tested to truly see if we have unshakable faith and confidence in G-d’s ways, and if we can make it through, and even learn and gain from these experiences, terrible though they may be, we will have become truly great and will have done all that G-d can ask of us. Perhaps when we are on that level, G-d hopefully won’t need to “test” us in our faith in Him through such tragedies, but rather through what we can openly see as blessing.


    I think that we need to find an area that we as a community are lacking and make 120% effort to improve to show the RBS”O that we heeding His messages (via the recent unimaginable tragedies) seriously. I think that we can all stand improvement in the area of adherence to Hilchos Shabbos. Maybe we could, as a small group here on the CR, take upon ourselves to learn 2 Halachos about Shmiras Shabbos daily and start a chain reaction for Teshuva in this area. I remember hearing that the Chafetz Chaim ZT”L wrote that it is almost impossible not to violate Hilchos Shabbos if we don’t seriously study the Halachos. Could we agree to take one Sefer, perhaps “The Shabbos Home” by Rabbi Simcha Bunim Cohen (Artscroll) and learn every day 2 Halachos without fail? If you agree, please ask others to respond to this CR thread and we can get this Teshuva movement going strong.

    ☕️coffee addict


    who said it has to be about Shabbos, I think it should be a strengthening of achdus.


    OT, I hear you loud and clear and feel it too. I believe we can’t count on others we can only rely on what each one of us individually can take upon ourselves. We each do chessed in our own ways. As you said, if you take something upon yourself then you are answering to Hashem’s message. if you can get others to join you, then you are truly answering Hashem’s message. That’s it, thats all you can do. You can only do a din v’chesbon and check what you can correct in yourself and then ask those who are closest to you to follow your lead. Or better yet, just let them know what you are doing and allow them to choose to follow your lead. Tizku L’mitzvos.


    How about both?

    Unite to learn hilchos Shabbos? It most certainly won’t hurt!


    Thanks a lot, everyone. Your comments mean a lot to me.

    AYC and MiddlePath: Thank you so much for the encouraging words and levelheaded advice. I greatly appreciate it.

    silentOne: I think it’s a great idea. Nevertheless, I think everyone knows in what area they need a tikkun.

    In the past few months, we’ve witnessed terrible tragedies with little children (Leiby, the two year old in lakewood, boy in New Square, boy in hurricane, and others). I thought that perhaps Hashem is taking them, because they are so pure and innocent, there’s no way anyone can say it happened because of this or that. It’s a wake-up call to all of us.

    May Hashem send Moshiach soon, and bring an end to these terrible tzarus.

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