The “wanna be a wonk” post got me thinking, if you weren’t frum, what would you have like to do with your life? What profession? What hobby?
I don’t think along those lines.
I have never had the desire to not be frum. But were I to contemplate it, I would probably have been a singer in those days when I could still sing well. I have no regrets about my life. I always wanted to be a wife and mother, and then B”EH a grandmother, and those goals were more than met happily. Having a little money to spend would have been nice, but I don’t view my life as lacking just because I never really had much in the way of material wealth. Being “sameach b’chelko” doesn’t just refer to money. (I do wish I could have afforded to go to E”Y when it was physically easier for me to do so).
…the very best, like no one ever was.
Oomis: I very much liked your comment. I think when we rise above our desires to be committed to our frumkeit, it makes our frumkeit even more meaningful. There have been times in my life where I felt I didn’t want to be frum but never took any step in that direction, and also never regretted not having pursued any of the other areas that are not consistent with frumkeit, and with that decision not to pursue those areas, I felt more committed.
Who says a wonk cant be frum?
for a while, i kept on measuring myself based on others, and my perceived feelings bout how they felt about me. then , after help from reading rabbi twerski’s books, and speaking with people, i realized that the only person i want to ever be, is myself
I choose you, Sam2.