April 25, 2013 11:46 pm at 11:46 pm #609153
Sometimes, like today, it would be nice to be more bored. To have nothing to do but go to the Botanical Gardens and write bad poetry and read books for fun and pleasure. To browse wikipedia and play games and space out and post crazy topics on Yeshiva World.
Bored214 seems to have succeeded: http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/now-im-reallyyy-bored
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Anyone have any ideas how to be more bored? Bored214?April 26, 2013 12:33 am at 12:33 am #948876mitzvahgirl613Participant
loll i should say i have a lot of experience in that particular situation!!! my advice to u is make a list to do 2 things in 2 hours(it doesnt have to be 1 thing an hour) then finish these 2 things and then u wont have anything to do and then youll be bored!! lolApril 26, 2013 3:11 pm at 3:11 pm #948877pou_bearMember
Come work at my office.April 26, 2013 4:06 pm at 4:06 pm #948878
Torah613 – I can so relate. Being bored almost sounds like a luxury at my stage in life. I was actually excited when I got the flu this year because I knew I had “permission” to sit in bed and do nothing. I didn’t get bored but I did feel bad for my husband.April 28, 2013 2:34 am at 2:34 am #948879
Syag: Lol. Sometimes I am bored but usually not for long. 🙂 Yet I still find the time to post, so I can’t be too busy.April 28, 2013 11:35 pm at 11:35 pm #948880147Participant
214 will never be boring in Dallas TX, because simply dialling area code 214, will invoke a ringing telephone in Dallas TX.April 28, 2013 11:40 pm at 11:40 pm #948881
147: If you dial 212 in 212 (Manhattan) you just get a wrong number message.
But I didn’t know that. Thank you.April 29, 2013 10:47 am at 10:47 am #948882
Torah613Torah – i’d love to be bored in that way – i’m bored because i’m stuck at home babysitting my kids, not able to do anything productive because my baby is unpredictable and kvetchy and as soon as i start doing anything productive he wants to be held and entertained….so yes here’s some ideas..have a baby who just wants to be held all day and then you can entertain yourself by holding him and playing games and posting crazy topics on yeshiva world while he sits on your lap 🙂April 29, 2013 2:50 pm at 2:50 pm #948883rationalfrummieMember
Boredom can either lead to behavior that’s comstructive, or destructive. If you’re at home with a baby, there are lots of things to do. Daven, learn, watch a movie, exercise, play with the baby, sing to the baby, write poetry, etc.April 29, 2013 4:03 pm at 4:03 pm #948884
yes that’s very rational of u frummie 🙂
So if i’m holding the baby i could daven but he takes the siddur away from me, i don’t watch movies, i cant do exercise if i’m holding him..i could try play with him but he just kvetches and sorry i’m just not really the type to write poetry (and that would be if i could hold a pen without him taking it away).
So yes my boredom is not really leading to anything destructive because i’m not doing anything essentially wrong, but it’s really not constructive at all for lack of choices and lack of energy to be bothered doing much…which was why i started the thread referred to above..April 29, 2013 4:25 pm at 4:25 pm #948885
Bored: you are so fortunate to be busy with home and children. Hashem should help you have the energy to enjoy every moment in life, in your home, and also in the outside world. I love babies but can just imagine how I’d go crazy doing that all day. 🙂
At least you know it’s temporary. They do grow up eventually. 🙂April 29, 2013 4:30 pm at 4:30 pm #948886akupermaParticipant
If you like being bored, ignore this website. Ignore the news. Ignore the internet. Probably skip learning Torah (especially if you are a Ben Torah).
Remember that it is a curse to wish someone to “live in interesting times”April 29, 2013 5:33 pm at 5:33 pm #948887
If you consider yourself babysitting when it’s your own children and they are making you “not able to do anything productive” then I would be happy to keep them for you 🙂 It takes a shift in perspective to realize that holding your kids is the productive part, and everything else is in the way. If you are able to make that shift, your life will be much easier, more pleasant and purposeful, and your kids won’t absorb your underlying feeling that they are, ch”v, in the way of your “real life”. It’s not always easy to come by but it is worth working on for your own well being as well as theirs.April 29, 2013 7:24 pm at 7:24 pm #948888
You’ve almost got it right syag! u read in between the lines and you picked up on some very good points. Don’t get me wrong, i love my kids and i wouldnt swap them for anything, and bh they are gorgeous really happy kids (once they get older) but for many reasons, which i cant be bothered going into in a public forum, it’s difficult to switch shift, number one reason i’m up to three years of lack of sleep (I havent had a normal night’s sleep for three years now) and I just don’t see too straight when i’m so tired. There’s a lot more that i could say on this topic but at the moment just thanks for the chizuk and i could probably use some more of that sort of chizuk 🙂April 29, 2013 11:00 pm at 11:00 pm #948889
You’re doing great Bored214! Keep it up! Hope you get some rest tonight!
(how’s that for chizuk?)April 30, 2013 1:38 am at 1:38 am #948890
I am so glad you understood that it was chizuk! I never doubted your love for them and I get the sleepless thing. My kids are awesome but lousy sleepers and I don’t think I slept through the night more than two or three consecutive days for 19 years. (Yes, I really do mean that)
I am sorry I can’t offer more without giving away all my trade secrets (No, I really do not mean that).
I went through a period like that and I worked hard to change my view because I felt like I was always frustrated at the wrong people and I knew they could sense it. It took work but brought me such tremendous menucha. It has been 20 years and I generally feel like the rest of life interferes with my time with my kids, as opposed to the other way around.
Here’s my own personal chizuk that I made up for myself. The reason it is sooo hard to be with your kids all day and feel useful is because it is such a TREMENDOUSLY HUGE mitzvah and tafkid that the yetzer horah works triple overtime to make you miserable. See, that’s how important you are, and that’s what you are up against! You are awesome, so kiss those pudgy cheeks and thank Gd it’s all temporary.
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