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Basically I want to know if I’m responsible for someone doing something bad which in a way i helped happen? (By driving them.) I feel like it’s my fault and if i would have know i would have held my ground and refused. Also, i know that the parents would not be happy if they knew what happened.
If you drove the getaway car for a murder, you should probably feel bad. If you drove a kid to get cigarettes, get over it. But don’t do it again.
It sounds like you didn’t know what you were doing. It was a shogeg. Tell the person you wouldn’t have done it if you knew and how much it upset you. Then relax, Hashem forgives us.
Superstar: You can hate the sins but love the sinner.
so mayb dont be frenz w them…??
so x be frends w them!!!
It is difficult when we find someone that we trusted doing things we don’t necessarily approve of. The knee-jerk reaction is to explain to them that this is wrong, assuming they’ll show some regret for their behavior, but this really doesn’t work. Most people by the time they hit their mid-teens know what is right and wrong, particularly in religious areas. They don’t need someone to tell them and they won’t apologize for their behavior because it won’t make them feel good. It isn’t simple to separate person from actions, if you feel you can maintain a level of friendship with them without being negatively affected then you can respect your beliefs and retain the friendship. To end a friendship, because a friend is perhaps doing something you don’t agree with is a loss for many reasons.
Ok, now it’s time to tell us what happened.
OOPS! Sorry PBA… they give me one job, and I mess it up… :/
Ehhemmm…Ms/Mr. Superstar,
We are all wondering what happened. We can only offer more specific advice if you tell us people of internet – “cloud people,” if you will – precisely what transpired and what has you so distraught. Of course, it’s not our immature curiosity that makes us wonder, but rather our burning desire to help another Yid in need… right guys? 😉
Good luck!
I second PBA – what was the issue?
Ask for forgiveness. Find new friends.
guilty
you should probably talk to him and give some strong tochacha
The level of your guilt depends on how easy it would gave been for your friend to get an alternative ride.
Just don’t do it again or you and your friends will do stupid, irreversable things before you know it.
explode your car,but.
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