Invited to the Wedding Feast, not the Ceremony-would you be offended?

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  • #1143018
    popa_bar_abba
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    at 15, 30, 45 and 00 I’ll be calling for a fresh glass of Whisky.

    Are you sure you’ll still be able to notice my picking my nose after all that? Maybe I better’d come early.

    #1143019
    Ex-CTLawyer
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    Popa

    If I keep a fresh glass of whisky in my hand and sip occasionally I’ll eat far less than if my hands are free.

    If you arrive early you will be more than welcome to choose your own seat at the tisch. Late arrivals will be kept in the lobby. That’s the Yekkah in me. If you’re not 20 minutes early you’re late.

    Remember, no gifts, just best wishes.

    #1143020
    nfgo3
    Member

    If you are not inviting me, I don’t care.

    #1143021
    yehudayona
    Participant

    I think it’s remarkable that you’re in touch with your third cousins. I have only a vague idea of who my second cousins are.

    #1143022
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    I totally want to come now. This sounds good.

    #1143023
    Ex-CTLawyer
    Participant

    yehudayona……..

    way back in 1918 my great-great grandfather’s children established a foundation and bought a cemetery for his descendants. More important than just providing burial was the twice monthly social gatherings.

    Some had moved to Brooklyn or CT or New Jersey back then. This kept the family together.

    We don’t meet twice a month anymore, we meet 4 times each year, in NYC, the suburbs, Florida and California and occasionally in Israel.

    It is always amazing to meet a 3rd or 4th cousin (or for my grandchildren a 5th or 6th cousin) and find there are similar traits, likes and dislikes that still exist.

    #1143024
    Ex-CTLawyer
    Participant

    Popa

    Since meeting and identifying fellow CR members would spoil the freedom we have to post. Just let me know your libation of choice and I’ll hoist one in your honor

    #1143025
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    CTLAWYER, we know the real reason you disinvited popa is because you’re afraid of how he’ll act, but trust me, I know popa better than you. He’s kidding; he’ll behave himself.

    #1143026
    The Queen
    Participant

    Sparkling grape juice.

    #1143027
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    I’ve been to two weddings so far of people I originally met on the CR. I did not drink heavily at either.

    #1143028
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    What do you consider “heavily”?

    #1143029
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    What do you consider “heavily”?

    Kallah k’mos shehi.

    #1143030
    squeak
    Participant

    “That’s the Yekkah in me. If you’re not 20 minutes early you’re late.”

    #1143031
    Ex-CTLawyer
    Participant

    squeak………….

    You arrive near the location 20 minutes early. You have time to park. Get out of the car leisurely. Check and adjust your clothing. Make sure you have everything your are supposed to bring with you. Turn your phone to vibrate so it will not disturb anyone. Approx 2 minutes before the stated time you approach the doors to the establishment. Then you have time to go hang your coat in the cloakroom and present yourself on time at the event.

    Never would you actually enter before the stated time, that is inconsiderate. Punctuality means Not 7:59, Not 8:01, but 8:00.

    Fashionably late is never in fashion, it’s just late.

    And the full quotation is “better late than never, BUT BETTER NEVER LATE.”

    #1143032
    Abba_S
    Participant

    Mazel Tov on the wedding. I don’t know how far it is from NYC but I assume it is at least 2-3 hours from NYC. I am also assuming it’s on a Sunday. I would not be offended in the least, who would want to get up for a 7 Am minyan on Sunday if there is even is one in order so that you can start your trip by 8 to get to the wedding on time. I would be thankful that you even consider us New Yorkers and provided a dinner where we could also celebrate the wedding joy with you.

    That being said there are people who may feel insulted that they weren’t invited to the actual wedding. In all probabilities even if they had been invited I believe the vast majority of New Yorkers would not attend especially if it was called for 10:30 AM.

    Weddings never seem to start on time so if it’s called for 10:30 it will start around 11:00. The wedding ceremony will take about a half hour and the dinner should take 2-3 hours. It’s over by 2 giving you an hour to change into another outfit, which is no big deal for us guys but maybe to short for the women. Also the caterer has to clean up which takes some time.

    By 3 you have to be on the way to NYC for the wedding banquet. By 6 your at the hall the women are in the hall fixing themselves up. By 6:30-7 the smorgasbord is being served, by 8:30 dinner is served. It probably is not going to be over before 12:00 so I would recommend that you sleep over rather than drive back that night as most accident happen between 12:00 and 3:00 in the morning.

    Please note I am not a wedding planer just giving you some good advice.

    #1143033
    Ex-CTLawyer
    Participant

    Abba_S

    Most people coming to the Chuppah and luncheon are not from NYC. We live 60 minutes drive on a Sunday morning from midtown Manhattan.

    The wedding will start on time (my maternal side is Yekkah). We expect to wind things up in CT by 2:30.

    The evening in NY starts at 7 cocktail hour/schmorg with 8PM dinner/dancing

    The cocktail hour can be that short as there is no time needed for Tisch/TaNayim/Badecken…it’s not a wedding but a feast celebrating a wedding.

    While you have made the assumption that the ladies will be making themselves ready in the hall, that is not the case. Mrs. CT Lawyer has taken over two beauty salons/spas for that purpose adjoining the venue.

    The evening will wrap up by midnight. Monday is a workday for many. We have reserved a block of hotel rooms and will not return to CT until Monday mid day.

    BUT…just so you know. we married off one daughter and 2 foster nieces from our home with Sunday brunch weddings and no one complained about going to a 7am minyan in order to travel. I go to a minyan before 7 every day, what’s the big deal? I don’t understand the sleep late on Sunday mishegas. I get up at 4:30 every day

    #1143034
    The Queen
    Participant

    “I don’t understand the sleep late on Sunday mishegas. I get up at 4:30 every day”

    I don’t understand the getting up at 4:30 any day (except for selichos) never mind every day. I dream of the day when I don’t have to wake up early for toddlers and can sleep late on Sunday again! It’s all about the circadian rhythm and whether you are naturally an owl or a lark. Neither is a mishegas, just how Hashem made you.

    #1143035
    Ex-CTLawyer
    Participant

    Queen………….

    Yes, it is all about rhythm and sleeping late on Sunday would disrupt that.

    I come from a family of early risers. This is ‘my time’ to read, learn, enjoy a cup of coffee out of doors in good weather or looking out at the woods and animals in bad weather.

    We have a home that is more than 200 years old. There are 5 fireplaces. This morning, I raked the coals and added logs to take a chill off from the overnight snow.

    I also let the four dogs out to run and play in the fenced yard.

    When they were young and at home, I would often make fresh cooked/baked breakfast for the children.

    #1143036
    B1g B0y
    Participant

    What does the dogs being young and at home have to do with making breakfast for the children?

    #1143037
    golfer
    Participant

    And Ah Freilichen Purim to you too, BB!

    #1143038
    Ex-CTLawyer
    Participant

    BB

    When the dogs age they like to sleep in………..

    Our 16 year old Dalmatian doesn’t rise before 9:30.

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