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July 14, 2013 2:45 pm at 2:45 pm #610051not so yishivishMember
I am a bochur entering “the parasha” and I would like to know
what is the opinion of all the esteemed members of the coffee room regarding yeshiva bochurim having iPhones and other smartphones. Obviously with proper internet filtering, but having access to emails apps etc.
Additionally what type of impression does this make for shidduchim.
July 14, 2013 3:02 pm at 3:02 pm #965423ToiParticipantits lichatchila mamesh. in fact, several of the biggest RY in america have said its a choivah to have one. Shadchanim in particular are impressed; it shows you are wordly and frum too! best of luck!
July 14, 2013 3:46 pm at 3:46 pm #965424writersoulParticipantIf it’s important to you to have an iPhone, then the kind of person who thinks it’s an aveirah and that you shouldn’t have one is probably not the one for you.
If you don’t care, or you know in your heart or whatever that you really shouldn’t have one but the yetzer hara is too strong or something like that, then by all means get rid of it. IF YOU WANT. Not for shidduchim. Why make a fake persona to attract someone who, if they are attracted to your fake persona and not the real you, is not necessarily your type anyway?
Any flaws in the theory? Please let me know before I hit shidduchim with a loud crash.
July 14, 2013 4:07 pm at 4:07 pm #965425WIYMemberNot so yeshivish
If its filtered its not so bad. But make sure it’s a proper filter and not some lame filter that is easily bypassed. Truth be told a bachur or yungerman who isn’t working really has no need for an iPhone but we live in a world where people like to have things that they don’t need. Either way I am sure that if you choose to pass on having a smartphone until you actually need one it will certainly be a zechus for you to find a good zivug and bekarov. Hatzlacha and may things go easy for you.
July 14, 2013 4:08 pm at 4:08 pm #965426Torah613TorahParticipantYou should be asking what impression it makes on the girls.
According to the girls on inshidduchim.com, it is a major red flag.
July 14, 2013 4:35 pm at 4:35 pm #965427WIYMemberTorah
And why is it ok for girls to have smartphones? I see many teenaged girls with smartphones. They need it vee ah luch in kup.
July 14, 2013 4:35 pm at 4:35 pm #965428jbaldy22Memberinshidduchim.com is hilarious
July 14, 2013 10:30 pm at 10:30 pm #965429ObstacleIllusionParticipantThe phone, i or otherwise, should not make an appearance on a date. It makes a rude impression. Borrow a watch to keep track of time.
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