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February 17, 2017 2:28 am at 2:28 am #619276LightbriteParticipant
When a boy dates a girl, is it his job to act like a tzaddik?
Is anyone a tzaddik before marriage?
Does he feel pressure to show himself as being on a higher level spiritually or religiously?
Does a girl want a man who can grow with her or is it better to marry a tzaddik from the start?
February 17, 2017 5:31 am at 5:31 am #1217081YW Moderator-29 👨💻ModeratorJoseph, check the URL. I’m pretty sure it doesn’t say frumteens.
February 17, 2017 6:31 am at 6:31 am #1217082JosephParticipantRoger that. I’ll have tech come out to fix that.
February 17, 2017 7:36 am at 7:36 am #1217083Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantwhat?
February 17, 2017 9:43 am at 9:43 am #1217084MTABParticipantDidn’t you get the memo. You have to be a 90 year old tzadick while she goes to the mall and texts with her friends.
Listen, ignore their ridiculous demands and craziness and greed. You just try to be a good Jew and don’t try to be perfect. Hashem will send you a normal, reasonable shiduch. Make sure you don’t pass it by because she isn’t perfect enough in whatever way.
February 17, 2017 7:29 pm at 7:29 pm #1217085LightbriteParticipantDid they make fun of this thread?
What’s the favorable way to read that please?
February 17, 2017 7:40 pm at 7:40 pm #1217086JosephParticipantTwenty-nine is a meanie.
February 17, 2017 7:58 pm at 7:58 pm #1217087LightbriteParticipantCan you then just delete the thread please?
It was a serious question that reflected off of the OP on the other thread, which is also in this CR forum (Though now I know that Mods sometimes submit posts and threads that they personally may not find appealing for various reasons).
Thank you and Shabbat Shalom
February 17, 2017 8:34 pm at 8:34 pm #1217088LightbriteParticipantMTAB: Amen. Thank you! Dunno if you were talking to me specifically but I am going to take the bracha (though I am a woman/girl/something) and I appreciate your advice 🙂
February 17, 2017 9:02 pm at 9:02 pm #1217089JosephParticipantLB, sorry for the last less than serious posts. I actually was the first to respond to your OP. And it was a long, serious and beautiful reply that directly addressed exactly what your OP was asking for. But the M-d (as LF would put it), in her infinite wisdom, nixed it since writeup of the post originated off-site.
February 17, 2017 9:24 pm at 9:24 pm #1217090YW Moderator-29 👨💻ModeratorIf only. The only truth in the above post is that it was the first response to the Op
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February 18, 2017 11:43 pm at 11:43 pm #1217091Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantNow I’m really curious. What if you gave the source – would that make it okay? Or can you rewrite/summarize it in your own words? I would be very interested in knowing how people (male people in particular) feel about this. We already have one opinion above, and I would love to hear others.
February 19, 2017 1:10 am at 1:10 am #1217093LightbriteParticipantYays! I love when I’m wrong and there are all these details that I didn’t even think of to prove how much I needed to open my mind to other realities (such as Joseph responding and the post was deleted and so the Mod gave him a memo and I foolishly thought it was a hit to my ego when it really was Mod-29 talking to Joseph about something behind the scenes…)
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Thanks 🙂
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