Is it bad to say 'guys' when referring to girls?

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  • #604181
    brotherofurs
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    i have a habit and i’ve heard a lot of frum ppl disapprove..

    #886797
    choppy
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    Guys are guys and girls are girls. Men are men and women are women.

    #886798
    more
    Member

    it’s like saying “That swamp was Man made”. Who says a man made it?? perhaps a woman made it… Man is short for human.

    You can tell them that saying “guys” is just the modernised way of saying “man”

    If they are not content with that tell them you will start calling them all Humans instead of guys.. perhaps they’ll prefer that instead..

    #886799
    YW Band
    Member

    I hear many girls when speaking to a group of friends will say “guys”. I don’t see any problem with it or any hava amena for it to be wrong. It reminds me of how the shvartzas call themselves “niger”, despite the fact they hate if people call them by it. However, it is purely assur for one to call a name to someone who doesn’t like it!

    #886800
    shlishi
    Member

    more: Where are you that it wasn’t Shabbos 15 hours ago, that you could post? Australia?

    #886801

    As being a girl, I DO ussually refer to my friends as guyz, guyz meaning a group of people together…though if you are amle its a little interesting to refer to a group of girls as “guyz” and why would you need to refer to a group of girls anyway if your not with them? the only place i use guyz is when i say something like “guyz , im bored” or “guyz , lets go on a walk”

    #886802
    YW Moderator-42
    Moderator

    Shlishi, let’s not get into that discussion again please.

    #886808

    It’s called a guy because there was once a person named Guy and a kid made a puppet show and one of the puppets was supposed to be Guy and the puppet looked like a slob. So when you call people guys you’re calling them slobs.

    #886809
    bbubbee
    Participant

    Yes I think that it is very wrong to refer to someone you do not know as “GUYS” I work in a retail store & when I answer the phone, to “hey do you guys have……..” I usually hang up on them. In todays day & age when Chutzpa rules, it seems OK to do that. But by our Torah Standards, we have to have Kovod Habriyos and speak to people, especially if you do not know them, with proper respect. Do you think that a Rosh Hayeshiva would speak like that, or even a Rav. We are all Princes or Princess of our “TATTY, the KING” we have to be careful to great someone who is also Nivre BZtelem Elokim with the proper respect.

    #886810
    AlefBais
    Participant

    Bbubbee, I’m lucky you are not my Bbubbee……. I c/wouldn’t stand your opinions.

    #886811
    SayIDidIt™
    Participant

    What about the word “gal” or “gals”? It is instead of “guy” or “guys”. Is there something wrong with it?

    SiDi™

    #886812
    shlishi
    Member

    Gal is, in fact, the correct female correlation to the male term of guy.

    #886813

    when I answer the phone, to “hey do you guys have……..” I usually hang up on them. In todays day & age when Chutzpa rules, it seems OK to do that.

    Even in today’s day and age, it’s rude to hang up on somebody,

    and if I were your boss, I’d probably fire you for it.

    #886814

    agree with daas yochid about hanging up. totally rude. and with being called guys, and yes, i’m a girl, i agree with shopping. its just the term you use when referring to a group. nothing bad. i use it all the time and so do my friends.

    #886815
    Sam2
    Participant

    bbubbe: Have you ever thought that maybe the definition of Chutzpah and rudeness changes with time? What was acceptable years ago might not be now and vice versa?

    #886816
    SayIDidIt™
    Participant

    shlishi, I know but heard girls get offended when called gals.

    SiDi™

    #886817
    shlishi
    Member

    Those are the ones who wanna show off their manhood. (So they call each other guys.)

    #886818
    oomis
    Participant

    I try not to say “guys,” but rather, “people or folks.”

    #886819
    WIY
    Member

    Very simple, if you are a guy talking to guys you say “you guys” and if you are a guy talking to girls you say “you girls” it is weird for a guy to address girls and say “you guys.”

    For a girl speaking to guys or girls she can use guys as it has become common for girls to address a group of girls as “you guys.”

    #886820
    557
    Participant

    I work in a retail store & when I answer the phone, to “hey do you guys have……..” I usually hang up on them.

    If your boss didn’t give you permission to hang up, you are stealing from your employer, which is an issur d’oreisa.

    #886821
    golden mom
    Member

    i had a teacher in high school who said it was not proper to even say guys about a male

    #886822
    choppy
    Participant

    She probably meant it isn’t proper for girls to talk about “guys” since it indicates a degree of camaraderie with the guys.

    #886823
    postsemgirl
    Member

    My brother in law told me that girls have an inferiority complex because we call each other guys. oh well

    #886824
    Shticky Guy
    Participant

    Listen guys, in my opinion you gotta move with the times.

    So I’ll refer to you ALL as guys. Each and every one of you guys are great posters and I will respect your right to call us all guys whatever anyone says.

    As for the gals…

    #886825
    brotherofurs
    Participant

    Shopping: I’m a girl, and usually refer to my campers (who are girls) as “guys” but i know some of my co-counselors learned not to at school, so i got nervous. But i think i got some reassurance 🙂

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