Is it bad to say 'guys' when referring to girls?
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July 20, 2012 10:25 pm at 10:25 pm #604181brotherofursParticipant
i have a habit and i’ve heard a lot of frum ppl disapprove..July 20, 2012 11:44 pm at 11:44 pm #886797choppyParticipant
Guys are guys and girls are girls. Men are men and women are women.July 21, 2012 11:45 am at 11:45 am #886798moreMember
it’s like saying “That swamp was Man made”. Who says a man made it?? perhaps a woman made it… Man is short for human.
You can tell them that saying “guys” is just the modernised way of saying “man”
If they are not content with that tell them you will start calling them all Humans instead of guys.. perhaps they’ll prefer that instead..July 22, 2012 3:00 am at 3:00 am #886799YW BandMember
I hear many girls when speaking to a group of friends will say “guys”. I don’t see any problem with it or any hava amena for it to be wrong. It reminds me of how the shvartzas call themselves “niger”, despite the fact they hate if people call them by it. However, it is purely assur for one to call a name to someone who doesn’t like it!July 22, 2012 3:09 am at 3:09 am #886800
more: Where are you that it wasn’t Shabbos 15 hours ago, that you could post? Australia?July 22, 2012 6:22 am at 6:22 am #886801Shopping613 🌠Participant
As being a girl, I DO ussually refer to my friends as guyz, guyz meaning a group of people together…though if you are amle its a little interesting to refer to a group of girls as “guyz” and why would you need to refer to a group of girls anyway if your not with them? the only place i use guyz is when i say something like “guyz , im bored” or “guyz , lets go on a walk”July 22, 2012 7:49 am at 7:49 am #886802YW Moderator-42Moderator
Shlishi, let’s not get into that discussion again please.July 22, 2012 2:16 pm at 2:16 pm #886808Doodle-Man™Member
It’s called a guy because there was once a person named Guy and a kid made a puppet show and one of the puppets was supposed to be Guy and the puppet looked like a slob. So when you call people guys you’re calling them slobs.July 22, 2012 2:16 pm at 2:16 pm #886809bbubbeeParticipant
Yes I think that it is very wrong to refer to someone you do not know as “GUYS” I work in a retail store & when I answer the phone, to “hey do you guys have……..” I usually hang up on them. In todays day & age when Chutzpa rules, it seems OK to do that. But by our Torah Standards, we have to have Kovod Habriyos and speak to people, especially if you do not know them, with proper respect. Do you think that a Rosh Hayeshiva would speak like that, or even a Rav. We are all Princes or Princess of our “TATTY, the KING” we have to be careful to great someone who is also Nivre BZtelem Elokim with the proper respect.July 22, 2012 5:06 pm at 5:06 pm #886810AlefBaisParticipant
Bbubbee, I’m lucky you are not my Bbubbee……. I c/wouldn’t stand your opinions.July 22, 2012 7:17 pm at 7:17 pm #886811SayIDidIt™Participant
What about the word “gal” or “gals”? It is instead of “guy” or “guys”. Is there something wrong with it?
SiDi™July 22, 2012 7:24 pm at 7:24 pm #886812
Gal is, in fact, the correct female correlation to the male term of guy.July 22, 2012 7:42 pm at 7:42 pm #886813☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
when I answer the phone, to “hey do you guys have……..” I usually hang up on them. In todays day & age when Chutzpa rules, it seems OK to do that.
Even in today’s day and age, it’s rude to hang up on somebody,
and if I were your boss, I’d probably fire you for it.July 22, 2012 8:05 pm at 8:05 pm #886814yummy cupcakeMember
agree with daas yochid about hanging up. totally rude. and with being called guys, and yes, i’m a girl, i agree with shopping. its just the term you use when referring to a group. nothing bad. i use it all the time and so do my friends.July 22, 2012 8:05 pm at 8:05 pm #886815Sam2Participant
bbubbe: Have you ever thought that maybe the definition of Chutzpah and rudeness changes with time? What was acceptable years ago might not be now and vice versa?July 22, 2012 10:11 pm at 10:11 pm #886816SayIDidIt™Participant
shlishi, I know but heard girls get offended when called gals.
SiDi™July 22, 2012 10:27 pm at 10:27 pm #886817
Those are the ones who wanna show off their manhood. (So they call each other guys.)July 22, 2012 10:44 pm at 10:44 pm #886818oomisParticipant
I try not to say “guys,” but rather, “people or folks.”July 22, 2012 11:34 pm at 11:34 pm #886819WIYMember
Very simple, if you are a guy talking to guys you say “you guys” and if you are a guy talking to girls you say “you girls” it is weird for a guy to address girls and say “you guys.”
For a girl speaking to guys or girls she can use guys as it has become common for girls to address a group of girls as “you guys.”July 22, 2012 11:37 pm at 11:37 pm #886820557Participant
I work in a retail store & when I answer the phone, to “hey do you guys have……..” I usually hang up on them.
If your boss didn’t give you permission to hang up, you are stealing from your employer, which is an issur d’oreisa.July 23, 2012 3:07 am at 3:07 am #886821golden momMember
i had a teacher in high school who said it was not proper to even say guys about a maleJuly 23, 2012 3:22 am at 3:22 am #886822choppyParticipant
She probably meant it isn’t proper for girls to talk about “guys” since it indicates a degree of camaraderie with the guys.July 23, 2012 4:57 am at 4:57 am #886823postsemgirlMember
My brother in law told me that girls have an inferiority complex because we call each other guys. oh wellJuly 23, 2012 5:50 am at 5:50 am #886824Shticky GuyParticipant
Listen guys, in my opinion you gotta move with the times.
So I’ll refer to you ALL as guys. Each and every one of you guys are great posters and I will respect your right to call us all guys whatever anyone says.
As for the gals…July 23, 2012 10:11 pm at 10:11 pm #886825brotherofursParticipant
Shopping: I’m a girl, and usually refer to my campers (who are girls) as “guys” but i know some of my co-counselors learned not to at school, so i got nervous. But i think i got some reassurance 🙂
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