February 10, 2011 10:01 pm at 10:01 pm #594919
I’m nearly turning 18, and I’m a bit nervous. Y’know, we’ll be leaving HS soon and then life’ll be soooo different!!! I’m terrified of the big wide world out there! Is there reason for my being so edgy, or is it an exciting leap?February 10, 2011 10:23 pm at 10:23 pm #739179WolfishMusingsParticipant
Is there reason for my being so edgy, or is it an exciting leap?
Any major change in life results in some apprehension. It’s perfectly normal.
The WolfFebruary 10, 2011 10:27 pm at 10:27 pm #739180yossi z.Member
No it is an exciting leap. Though after a while the newness wears off and you settle into it. I do opine that the leap/excitedness has to do more with switching out of high school rather than turning 18, but yes, turning 18 is an exciting period in and of itself also (I am 19 and graduated high school at 16 turning 17 hence my opinion).
Congratulations (yeah I know a bit early) and I am sure you will do great!
😀 Zuberman! 😀February 10, 2011 10:37 pm at 10:37 pm #739181
I really know how you are feeling! I’m turning 18 in less then 2 months! That same question has been playing in my head as well. It is also different for a girl then a boy. A boy is in yeshiva and when he graduates just moves on to beis medrash, which doesn’t seem as big of a jump. For a girl on the other hand, Senior year is scary! It’s all about which sem you’re applying to, where you are gonna get in, and then leaving everything you are used to, to go to Israel. (or sems other places) But there is a major fear of the unknown! I know the feeling and am a bit scared myself! I feel like this just happened so fast!
>O<613February 10, 2011 10:39 pm at 10:39 pm #739182amichaiParticipant
those are really terrific years! lots of excitement. yet very normal to feel slightly apprehensive, live with the motto of making every day of your seminary year count. look for hashgocha pratis in all you do. hatzlocha!February 10, 2011 11:04 pm at 11:04 pm #739183
“those are really terrific years!”
Oh, my. If THESE are terrific, I’m absolutely terrified of the future!! Just kidding. It’s just that it irkes me a bit when people say that the teenage yrs are so rosy. They’re really challenging and sometimes can get real rough.
Candy: thanks 4 understanding! Turning 18 NEXT WEEK. WHEW!!!February 10, 2011 11:05 pm at 11:05 pm #739184mikehall12382Member
enjoy it….you’ll look back fondly on those yearsFebruary 10, 2011 11:54 pm at 11:54 pm #739185cofeefanMember
just wait till you turn 20 then 30 then 40 etc;)
i felt the same way at 18 as you are feeling! but then when i reached 20 i felt like i was really leaving my teenage years behind and it’s weird to be a “real adult” now lol! (oh my i sound like i am sooooo old! 18, 20 even 21, 22 is still young!!)
enjoy every moment of every age! and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!February 10, 2011 11:58 pm at 11:58 pm #739186deiyezoogerMember
it’s scary only if your seventeen! wnen you are 39 then forty is scary…….. the point is the unknown is scary, once you get there its no big deal. got it? good.February 11, 2011 12:21 am at 12:21 am #739187aries2756Participant
MAZAL TOV! 18 is very exciting for many reasons but first understand that 18 is a very mazeldik number. It stands for “chai” so it will breathe new “life” into you.
The anxiety might come from “18 l’chupah” which is a challenging concept. Most 18 year olds are far from ready for a walk to the chupah, so maybe that’s where some of the anxiety comes from. It also represents a separation from childhood into a adulthood. A time when you are expected to be more responsible and accountable.
But it is also liberating, it is a time when you realize “hey, I’m an adult now! I made it! i am done with most of school. I am either heading to sem or coming home from sem, either way a huge accomplishment and now I have to really concentrate on MY future. I am really in charge of MY choices and need to make educated and smart ones. I now get to put into practice the things I was taught. I am now a role model for others to follow. The friends I choose will have a huge impact on who I will become. Each path I take will determine whether I succeed or not. So where do I go from here, who will I choose as MY role models? Up till this point you were spoon fed all the answers and now…..
Don’t be terrified because you are not being thrown into an abyss. Your parents, grandparents b”h if you are lucky to have them, are still there for you to answer your questions and guide you. But most likely they will take a step back and wait for your to ask for advice and not necessarily TELL you what to do every minute of the day. So enjoy your birthday and the new “challenges” that come along with it.February 11, 2011 12:25 am at 12:25 am #739188i am hereMember
it can be tough when coming out of high school and turning 18. life seems to come and stare you in the face at times when your out of school, it all works out. Its normal to be nervous no one knows whats there for them. njoy it especially in seminary. your still carefree. njoy and happy birthday to those who r turning 18. and to those who r having or had a birthday this year.February 11, 2011 1:10 am at 1:10 am #739189
wow well happy birthday observanteen and let me know how it feels to be 18! And thanks everyone else for the encouragement! I took from it also!
>O<613February 11, 2011 1:51 am at 1:51 am #739190eclipseMember
Most surprises in life ARE EXCITING!
You are in the PRIME OF YOUR LIFE,enjoy it as much as you can!
You all sound like the greatest kids — mature,smart,yearning to do what’s right….May Hashem bless you all with kol mishalos leebchem litovah!February 11, 2011 1:57 am at 1:57 am #739191yentingyentaParticipant
18 is was a great year for me. so great in fact, i refused to turn 19 and didnt tell anyone when my birthday was. now 20 on the other hand……. not sure if i want THAT one just yet.
and early happy birthday!February 11, 2011 3:00 am at 3:00 am #739192
wow thanks eclipse! that really means a lot to me!!! AMEN and now im really sad to see you leave! We really do need more people like you!
>O<613February 11, 2011 4:34 am at 4:34 am #739193
Boy, thanks everyone!! You really encouraged me. Eclipse: you’re the BEST!!! WHY are you leaving now?????:(
Aries: how should I know whom to choose as my role model? I’ve learnt this year that ppl are’nt necessarily what they seem to be.
i am here: lol!February 11, 2011 4:42 am at 4:42 am #739194kapustaParticipant
eclipse, can I take part in that bracha? I’ve got a little way till the social security checks start coming…
To everyone here turning 18 (or whatever age you might be turning), realize Hashem brought you to this point in your life and He will continue to help you with everything. Its only hard if you make it hard. I also went through the same thought process, but while its normal to be nervous, there is no need for it.
Hatzlacha!February 11, 2011 4:59 am at 4:59 am #739195aries2756Participant
observanteen, hang with the winners and keep your eye on the prize.February 11, 2011 5:09 am at 5:09 am #73919617wannabeParticipant
ever since I turned 18 I’m a 17wannabe hence my screenname sorry to be so discouraging its not really THAT bad!February 11, 2011 5:29 am at 5:29 am #739197
ever since I turned 18 I’m a 17wannabe.
I don’t think I’ll ever be a 17wannabe. This year’s been REALLLY tough!!! I’ll try my luck with #18 I guess….February 11, 2011 7:26 am at 7:26 am #739198IDKyetMember
it may seem hard now but at every point in life we ask ourselves how we thought the teens, 20s, 30s, etc was hard or busy… every point in life has its own good points, as well as some tough parts… hatzlocha with everything
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