January 14, 2011 12:28 am at 12:28 am #728649SG StudiosMember
“40 days before man is created it is announced who his mate will be” – Even if she doesn’t look like him. Have faith in G-d, he brought to this engagement, he’ll continue to watch you & protect with your future husband, and this stupidity is beyond imature. Mazel Tov!January 14, 2011 1:26 am at 1:26 am #728650AnonyMissParticipant
SG Studios I agree with what you said that a person’s shidduch is not based upon looks. But, I do NOT agree whatsoever with your calling the question a stupidity and immature. Just because you can’t relate to her feelings does not give you a right to talk down upon her feelings. There are REAL people behind these screen-names and just because you are not talking to someone’s face doesn’t mean that you don’t need to talk respectfully.January 14, 2011 1:35 am at 1:35 am #728651yentishParticipant
I read a few other comments that have been posted since my first post and pretty much everyone is echoing the same idea. Its unfortunate that you heard this your whole life, and are therefore attributing a great amount of importance to it. Although, I do give you credit for sharing this openly with your chosson, that shows that you can discuss issues which bother you (even if they may sound silly to others) and that’s very important in a marriage. Food for thought: Don’t you know any sefardim married to ashkenazim? Tall people married to short people? etc. I think if you would rack your brain enough you could think of several examples of wonderful marriages where the two parties do not look alike. And if you really can’t think of anyone, then just realize that chances are that the issues these couples face, or that any couple faces for that matter, has very little to do with their physical appearances being different, and more likely has to do with differences in personality/outlook on life/goals in life/hashkafa etc.January 14, 2011 11:12 am at 11:12 am #728652Shticky GuyParticipant
Well, I have a nose and Eeees has a nose…
… Wolf; you admit to having a nose. I know Kapusta has a nose. Hmmm!! Gets me thinking…!January 14, 2011 5:22 pm at 5:22 pm #728653WolfishMusingsParticipant
Well, as per my username, my nose is more like a snout…
The WolfJanuary 16, 2011 3:33 pm at 3:33 pm #728655Shticky GuyParticipant
Is it like that at all times, or only when there’s a new moon…???
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