My religious wife is divorcing me. I’m a Jew but not religious. Little background… the Beis Din we went to encouraged, but didn’t order me, to give wife a Get. Wife won’t mediate a divorce and is going the more expensive no-fault route. Wife’s lawyer is dragging out the divorce and wants me to write out & have a Get executed before he will move the civil divorce along and break the logjam. Can I tell my lawyer to offer my wife only 25% of the marital assets in exchange for writing out the Get? Would my wife be halachically required to take the 25%? If the choice is 50% and no Get; vs. 25% and a Get, is she halachically required to take the 25%? Before any holy rollers get upset at my position, please remember my wife is abandoning the marriage without any justification, imho. Thanks
Lenny, how does her lawyer’s dragging out the civil divorce hurt you (which you seem to indicate is his goal of dragging it out)?
Speak to an impartial Rabbi who is experienced in the area of Jewish marital and divorce law. Questions of this nature are absolutely commonplace, and highly specific. Due to the many variables, no two cases are the same. Pay no attention to any of the general guidelines or anecdotes which may be put forward in this forum; they are notoriously easy to take out of context.
You’d be best advised to find a Rabbi who is the same type of religious as your wife (Orthodox, Mizrachi etc) who would be willing to advise you. An online forum is not the best place to seek answers to sensitive and highly complicated questions
Lenny is financially hurt it increases his legal expenses
You have brought up your divorce many times before, You did not listen to advice before that didnt agree 100% with your world view. Just give her the get and move on with your life. She is not coming back and no reason to try to destroy each other especially if you have kids
ZD is completely on target.