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I ran into someone today and they asked me how I’m doing i said I’m doing good ty , their response was just good? not great? not terrific? excuse me but only i know how im doing if i say good then just take it at that, maybe u have the kind of life where u feel terrific non stop dont judge me because i feel just good. Excuse me for answering your question honestly.
It’s good to feel good.
I hear what’s bothering you but the truth is that you have to give the impression to the outside world that things are good. Some just told me that the first step to feeling good about yourself and happy is to PRETEND that you are to. it really helps.
surely you meant “well”…because “doing good” makes no sense
yeah, I hate those type of people that analyse everything you say and asks you a million questions about what you answered
Perhaps the person was part of the grammar police and was simply berating you for saying “good” instead of “well”.
adorable, about the pretending to be happy thing, are you sure about that? It hasn’t really worked for me.
haifagirl?
pacman- why do you want haifagirl here?
middle- I think it works for me not sure though I’m doing it just for about a few days but there is a chazal that the outside affects in insides so it must be true
Adorable, if it’s a Chazal, then your’e definitely right. I wonder though how long it takes for the outside to affect the inside..I mean, I’ve been doing this for more than just a few years, now.
The Goq
I don’t know what is going on in your personal life, but there are plenty of ways to feel more upbeat. Whenever I feel down I think of how fortunate I am to have all the blessings Hashem gave me. Nebach I saw a teenage boy who was blind. I Baruch Hashem have my eyesight. We complain about inconveniences and make a big fuss about nothing. Just look at crippled kids and blind kids and it will make you appreciate your blessings.
Another thing to think about is how fortunate you are that Hashem created you as a Jew. You have a holy Neshama that can cling to its creator and have a close relationship to its creator and to do His holy mitzvos.
Middlepath
The outside can only influence the inside when the inside isn’t resisting and the inside wants what the outside is doing, it just isn’t “holding” there yet but is trying to feel like what you are doing on the outside.
Mitch shelo lishma bah lishma is only effective if your intention is on the bah lishmah. If you don’t contemplate and work internally to get to the lishmah it wont happen.
coffee addict- u must be a guy…
I dont know if this is what the person meant but they might have wanted you to say Baruch Hashem and acknowledge where that blessing is coming from. I have a teacher in HS who was very into this and it was amazing to see how she followed through. She never said good, fine….she always says Thank you hashem I’m doing great or something like that. YOu dont have to be “gush” forth like she does but just realize that all the good in your life comes from Someone and its not just random. Same for the hard times.
happy to hear you’re doing well, Goq! B’H! 🙂
always- very practical. LOL
Goq
Thanks! Im glad you are doing well! BH!
Nobody has a right to mock you for answering “good” although it doesn’t sound like you were mocked but rather cticized.
like those people who ask how are you and then run away without even hearing the answer.
Tell them that Good is better than Dead.
tracht,
how did you guess?
coffee- guys dont like when you analyze things.
The person meant absolutely nothing! I know a few of such people. They stick their hands into their pocket, grab a handful of words, and toss it — before running off and forgetting about the whole incident. The person enjoys the feeling of saying, “Be happy”. That’s all there is to it. When I hear that kind of talk, I just smile back as if he said something worthy of a half smile, and move on.
Think of it as the verbal equivalent to a wack on the back accompanied by, “Haya doin!?”
Adorable- We know them well…. huh?
meaning? Im confused? are you being sarcastic?
No just that sometimes the gals know the guys better then themselves….
we are the third opinion and can be the outsider
It was really his problem, you said good, (which, the last time I checked meant good,) and he understood it to mean just OK. Now you can ask him why he is “just OK”. Good/B”H are both great answers.
Just well?!?! not terrific or amazing!!….sheesh 🙂
Not bad. Thanks for asking.
Fine B”H Goq, thanks for asking.
Haven’t seen coffee add round these parts in forever. But checked in to agree with his comment from ages ago. Yes adorable, (come to think of it, where has adorable gone?) guys don’t like analyzing things (usually). But here’s a message for all those analyzing ladies out there–
Analyze to your heart’s content all the things in your own life that you love to analyze. But leave your friends and neighbors alone. Don’t analyze every word they say and every move they make and every breath they take. Please.
End of rant.
Thank you.
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