July 18, 2011 6:36 am at 6:36 am #598035fix-it-upMember
Is there any obligation of this if your parents arent religious?July 18, 2011 2:40 pm at 2:40 pm #786719Sender AvMember
simply…yes. You will be getting some more detailed posts from other posters.(I dont have the energy for it right now).July 18, 2011 3:41 pm at 3:41 pm #786720Derech HaMelechMember
Well that’s what the posuk says
??? ?? ???? ??? ??? ??????July 18, 2011 5:07 pm at 5:07 pm #786721adorableParticipant
yes. but if they tell you to do something that is against the torah or halacha then no.
are you new here?July 18, 2011 5:46 pm at 5:46 pm #786722MiddlePathParticipant
adorable, if they tell you to do something against the torah, you have no requirement to respect them anymore? I find that hard to believe. Maybe you meant you just shouldn’t listen to them for that particular thing.July 18, 2011 5:53 pm at 5:53 pm #786723dvorakMember
There’s a widespread misconception about what “kibbud av va’em” means. It means you must respect your parents. It does NOT mean you have to run your life the way they want you to. You are under no obligation to listen to them if they tell to marry X or follow Rav Y. However, even when making divergent choices, you still must accord them the proper respect. Even if they ask you to do an aveira (in which case you are FORBIDDEN to do as they say), you still have to act respectfully.July 18, 2011 5:54 pm at 5:54 pm #786724BrokerParticipant
Middle path is right!
Your obligated to decline any aveiro they ask you to do.
Thats why the mitzvah of Kibbud Av is near the mitzvah of Shmiras Shabbos in the Aseres Hadibros. A sign that if they ask you to trnasgress on Shabbos, you have to refues.July 18, 2011 6:24 pm at 6:24 pm #786725fix-it-upMember
adorable-yes i am new here.
I’m not quite sure you have to respect someone that denies Hashem…July 18, 2011 7:17 pm at 7:17 pm #786726oomisParticipant
Yes, you must always show kibud av v’em, except in response to a specific request to do something against halacha. After refusing to do what they wanted, you must still show them kibud for other things. Parents are in a special category. They gave us our lives. By the way, the halacha is to honor them, but it actually says nothing about LOVING them, as contrasted with the Shema, in which we are commanded to love Hashem with all our hearts, souls, and capabilities.July 18, 2011 7:24 pm at 7:24 pm #786727adorableParticipant
middle- that is what I meant.
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