January 23, 2020 4:18 pm at 4:18 pm #1825527JosephParticipant
How does kissing a boo-boo make it feel better?
Even your own!January 23, 2020 5:33 pm at 5:33 pm #1825567
Children like it because it shows you care and makes them feel good.January 23, 2020 8:48 pm at 8:48 pm #1825584GadolhadorahParticipant
Reb Yosef should know better. Chazal bring down that inyanim such as hiding a tooth under the pillow for the tooth fairy is akin to avodah zorah and apikorsus since there is no “tooth malach” designated to exchange used teeth for a Sachar in olem hazeh.
Likewise, we are not allowed to “kiss” a cut, scar or laceration since doing so might put your lips in contact with blood in contradiction of the issur on such in parshas Ra’eh where it is written:
רַ֣ק חֲזַ֗ק לְבִלְתִּי֙ אֲכֹ֣ל הַדָּ֔ם כִּ֥י הַדָּ֖ם ה֣וּא הַנָּ֑פֶשׁ וְלֹא־תֹאכַ֥ל הַנֶּ֖פֶשׁ עִם־הַבָּשָֽׂר׃January 23, 2020 8:48 pm at 8:48 pm #1825586Sam KleinParticipant
It’s a feeling of chizzuk the child gets when you kiss it but it’s all in the corrupted human beings psychological mind and it’s really all false.
But let’s face it everyone needs chizzuk in live even a tzaddik can always use some chizzukJanuary 24, 2020 8:52 am at 8:52 am #1825623klugeryidParticipant
Wow a corpus of ignorant people
Human alone is only a דרבנן
Kissing a child’s cut would be permitted if it’s not for sure you will ingest blood
Sam Klien you really overstepped it here
ישקני מנשיקות פיהו
And many other times in פסוקים הלכה חזל where kissing is mandatory /laudable/beneficial
You with your own ideas end up calling חזל corrupt.
For shame!!January 24, 2020 8:57 am at 8:57 am #1825645
GH, human blood ifrom which you don’t directly benefit , should be ok.January 24, 2020 8:58 am at 8:58 am #1825647
GH, Look up the Rambam Hilchas Maacholas Assuras (6.2) ihuman blood is only assur miderabon when it separates so you are not mechaven to directly benefit fron it.January 24, 2020 8:59 am at 8:59 am #1825671MilhouseParticipant
GHT, human blood is not forbidden min hatorah, and is forbidden miderabanan only because of mar’is ha’ayin. So there’s no room for gezeros.January 24, 2020 8:59 am at 8:59 am #1825672MilhouseParticipant
The power of suggestion. You tell the child the kiss will make it will feel better, so it does.January 24, 2020 9:00 am at 9:00 am #1825678JosephParticipant
Does the kiss just make it feel better or does it actually help heal the wound?January 24, 2020 2:31 pm at 2:31 pm #1825744
Human blood is assur rabinically when it separates itself from the wound as stated above because it looks like any other blood, so as long as it is on the body it is mutar. The Rambam above says, that one can swallow blood from the mouth.January 24, 2020 2:32 pm at 2:32 pm #1825784funnyboneParticipant
Does trolling make people feel better? Is it apikorsus to say that people feel better after they troll?January 25, 2020 7:52 pm at 7:52 pm #1825818GadolhadorahParticipant
Is it apikorsus to say that people feel better after they troll?
Quite to the contrary. Ask our resident trolls. They just feel morally superior although not always “better”.January 25, 2020 7:57 pm at 7:57 pm #1825829takahmamashParticipant
If it bothers you that much put a band-aid on the boo boo first, then kiss it. My kids used to want the band-aid more than anything else.January 25, 2020 8:03 pm at 8:03 pm #1825832Mashgiach ChoshuvParticipant
i didn’t see anywhere that someone wanted to kiss the “boo boo” while it was still bleeding, and no, kissing a bleeding boo boo makes you a vampire not a Tzaddik.
first you clean up the mess and make sure the bleeding stops, bandage it if necessary and then you can kiss next to the boo boo.
it seems some of the writers were never parents. same as a candy makes a child forget his hurt and pain, a kiss will do the same. often the crying comes from the pain of a hurt heart NOT a hurt finger or “boo boo”. kissing the area (no, you don’t need to kiss the actual exact bloody spot – a kiss close by will also work). a kiss allows the child to feel loved, to feel that you are sharing his pain, and the calm in his heart will also heal the physical pain. a kiss can do wonders and miracles, don’t underestimate the power of a kiss.
and by the way, you can read up studies of this, but making someone feel loved, caring for them, visiting them, singing to them, all these things help a person heal much faster. so yes, a kiss has the power to heal.
so all of you, start kissing your children more, it can do them wonders and miracles and give you loads of extra nachas.January 25, 2020 10:59 pm at 10:59 pm #1825975silentmoisheParticipant
Saliva contains many compounds that are antibacterial or promote healing
So kissing a boo-boo actually does help in the healing process
A mother’s instinct is second to none!January 26, 2020 11:40 pm at 11:40 pm #1826275unomminParticipant
Kissing a boo boo is directly derived from the mitzveh of metzitza b’peh. It’s so obvious that I do not understand why people don’t see it. But moreso, if one questions the value of it, they are defacto questioning our mesorah because this is handed down and is one of the healing properties of chazal as part of the mitzvah of milah.February 3, 2020 6:13 pm at 6:13 pm #1828569hujuParticipant
Joseph: You need some better boo-boos to kiss. That will give you the answer you seek.February 3, 2020 9:35 pm at 9:35 pm #1828630
unommin, there is a big discussion for the necessity to squeeze the blood out only through the mouth or an intermidiary device like a straw can be used. See the Sefer Avraham Hakohen. Rav Shamshon Rafael Hirsch said that they are infecting because their mouth is tomei. Very nice, as you are justifying and explaining the use of the mouth. Some used a sponge.
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