This week’s question:
Is it true that a child can’t be good at both school and home? Do the glowing PTA reports exonerate him somewhat?
For the response, see this week’s printed edition.
I read it last night. One of the roundtablers analyzed that the father seems to be MIA for the kids at home discipline.
If we take our parenting roles as serious as any other job responsibility, same way the rabbayim/teachers do….
He could be good, both in & out of school.
Depends on the chinuch at home which seems to be lacking.
Kids change their behavior based on their environment.
If at school he fears the discipline system he will behave,
If at home their the discipline system is lacking or nonexistent,
that is the problem.
The problem could also be in the reward system or lack of positive attention, or acknowledgment, from his parents, or family.
You need both, a sound disciplinary, and reward system,
plus Siyata Dishmaya, to raise healthy stable children.
I don’t get the paper so please let us know B’kitzur.
Every child needs an outlet, yet he still needs structure and rules at home as well as in school. So what is different in school than in the home that he feels he can be disruptive and wild at home. Are the parents not consistent? Do they not follow through with consequences and rewards? Is there something in the home environment ticking or setting him off that does not exist in school?
There are a lot of variables that have to be investigated to actually know for sure what is going on.