Life as the son of a Child Molester: My story
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September 6, 2011 11:02 am at 11:02 am #819792jooxiMember
I have never posted here before but felt behooved.
Middlepath, Happiest, you are two of the strongest individuals I have ever read about. I cannot being to tell you how impressed I am with both of you.
Middle, the right girl will see the sterling soul you so obviously possess and not care about things beyond your control. I don’t know if this is up your alley, but have you considered a site like Frumster or Saw You at Sinai? You may get less questions about your family there.
Happiest, what good boy would let this be an issue? There are so many things we do wrong that can be considered when considering a person. Surely, where you are the victim, and have obviously grown so much and become a better person from it, this should be held against you? Just the opposite!
I wish you both only bracha and every happiness from now on.September 6, 2011 5:41 pm at 5:41 pm #819793
Welcome back, halelujah, and thank you! I too am so inspired by everyone’s willingness to help each other. It’s such a great thing.
jooxi, thank you, and welcome! I haven’t really considered that yet.
And I’m wondering: forthebest, Climbing Mountains, and allie, how are things going by all of you?September 6, 2011 6:27 pm at 6:27 pm #819794everythingisforthebestMember
Hi middlepath, I know I havent posted in awhile. While Ive definitely been keeping up with the posts, I just didn’t contribute. It’s actually a little funny (or should I say hasgacha?) that you asked about me today, because before I logged onto yeshivaworld, I saw that my therapist emailed me. I stopped seeing her these past few weeks when she went on vacation and then I did, then I started work etc. She emailed me thinking that I wanted to stop seeing her and didn’t feel comfortable telling her that in person-which really is not the case. Sometimes when I see her I feel as though nothing is really happening, I’m just talking and she’s listening but I dont know-is that what’s supposed to happen?I guess I’m confused about the ultimate goal with all this..September 6, 2011 6:52 pm at 6:52 pm #819795am yisrael chaiParticipant
“Sometimes when I see her I feel as though nothing is really happening, I’m just talking and she’s listening but I dont know-is that what’s supposed to happen?I guess I’m confused about the ultimate goal with all this..”
It might be VERY beneficial to both you and your therapist if you express these exact concerns with her. You are bringing up two very important points.
Can you do that?September 6, 2011 7:15 pm at 7:15 pm #819796aries2756Participant
everything, can you do a little accounting for yourself and evaluate where you you think you are right now to where you were 6 months ago, and how seeing this therapist has helped? Then ask the therapist the same question. “I was surprised by our email and it made me think. What do you feel I have accomplished in the past 6 months since I have been coming here?”
If you both recognize the same accomplishments then you are on the same page. If you are not on the same page then that is some you should be discussing.September 6, 2011 7:35 pm at 7:35 pm #819797
forthebest, happy to hear from you. ayc’s and aries’ advice is perfect. Wishing you the best.October 23, 2011 9:38 pm at 9:38 pm #819798
It’s been quite a while since this thread has seen some posts, so I thought I’d bring it up to see how everyone here who have opened up a little about their own situations are doing now. I had a few difficult episodes over the chag, but thankfully nothing too bad. I hope that no recent posts means that everyone’s been doing well!October 24, 2011 3:01 am at 3:01 am #819799miritchkaMember
MiddlePath: every time i see your posts i feel compelled to read them. Not just because they are interesting and deep, but because i am in awe of how you came through all this…best of luck to you..October 24, 2011 7:10 pm at 7:10 pm #819800
Thanks so much, miritchka. I enjoy reading your posts as well.
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