Logical Marriage

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    Lightbrite
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    Should choosing your spouse be a logical decision?

    It’s really difficult to approach shidduchim from the heart.

    I’ve learned that the head must decide first.

    Is there a point where most people are totally sure with their decision of who to marry before marriage?

    How do you get excited about marriage when it’s basically the biggest decision of your life?

    #1741547

    besod emuna
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    It’s like jumping into a cold pool. You gotta just do it. Otherwise you’ll stand on the side forever.

    #1741627

    Lightbrite
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    Thank you Besod Emuna 🙂

    #1749277

    Grey matter
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    After you jump and swim around a bit it’s exhilarating

    #1749279

    ☕️coffee addict
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    Good analogy besod

    #1798131

    Burnt Steak
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    My Grandma always tells me. You’ll know when it feels right. And how can you not get excited when you are getting a new best friend?

    #1798342

    The little I know
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    Hope is emotional, not logical. The development of a marriage occurs mostly afterward, not before. The play that occurs before is a charade, a game. No one is doing more than portraying the image intended for the other, and is not real. After the wedding, it is work to connect, bond, and generate the emotional relationship. It is a delicate time. Somehow, most of us navigate it. There are failures, and there are sometimes outsiders (including families) with either noble or evil intentions who try to interfere. It requires major effort to manage this connection plus a huge dose of Syatta Dishmaya.

    #1799229

    Avi K
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    Only if you are a Vulcan.

    #1799302

    DovidBT
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    Only if you are a Vulcan.

    But even Vulcans experience Pon farr every seven years.

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