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    young.adult.girl
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    I grew up in Lakewood in a chasidish home. I struggle with mental heath and am looking desperately to relocate to an out of town Orthodox or MO community out of town not in the tristate area but not too far from it. I’d prefer a place where cost of living is as low as possible and the community is warm and non judgmental and where there is mental health support from a psych standpoint although that is not the main issue because plenty of therapists do virtual meetings. Anyway, just wondering if anyone has any input please lmk

    #2251707
    AviraDeArah
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    Closest community outside of NY/NJ would be Philadelphia, but based on your description, I’d recommend Baltimore. There’s a lot of torah, lots of non judgemental people, and all the resources. Very warm place.

    But don’t use moving as an excuse to drop the keeping of mitzvos. I’m not saying that i think you are, but often when people want to move out of town, they want to be less religious.

    #2251796
    @fakenews
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    Baltimore is a great option.
    Very nonjudgmental, multiple different neighborhoods with many different types ranging from MO to Baltimore’s watered down versions of chasidish and yeshivish and virtually everything in between.
    There are many frum mental health professionals (including an aunt of mine), and if you reach out you are likely to find a mentor to take you under their wings and help you find your place.

    #2251808
    Kuvult
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    Baltimore is very non-judgemental. There are Shuls that have a range of people ranging from very MO, Yeshivish & Chasidish.
    All the Rabbanim (MO, Yeshivish & Chasidish) sit on the one & only Vaad Harabanim. They work together with mutual respect as one for the good of the entire Klal which shows the Kehilla openness, tolerance & Shalom with people who may not dress, look or live like you.

    #2251865
    young.adult.girl
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    Anyone have info on North Carolina communities?

    #2251884
    amiricanyeshivish
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    I would suggest to look into Silver Springs a suburb of Baltimore

    #2251882
    Gadolhadorah
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    Anyone have info on North Carolina communities?

    Call the Chabad center in Charlotte. R’ Groner can give you a good idea about whether it would be a good fit for your situation. As others have noted, there is a much more diverse range of options in Baltimore/Owings Mill

    #2251913
    GadolHadofi
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    AY,

    It’s actually “Silver Spring”, a Maryland suburb of Washington, D.C. that’s located 45 miles south of Baltimore.

    #2252141
    besalel
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    I do not believe there is much of Jewish life anywhere in NC. If you are willing to go as far our as NC I strongly suggest you look at Cleveland or Detroit. They both have robust a Jewish life; midwestern friendliness (non-judgment) and solid health professionals. You cannot beat the cost of living.

    #2252195
    Thoughtful Response
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    I am sorry to hear you are going through a hard time. Mental Health challengers are real and, I’m sorry to say, running away to a new town will not make things better. You need to address your issues with a good therapist and maybe some additional help. Moving is likely to increase your troubles, not make them go away. If you aren’t happy in Lakewood, I understand, and I would advise you consulting with friends and relatives to an area you can vacation at for a while. Moving without a solid plan won’t do you any good and moving and hoping to find a good therapist is not an option.

    I recommend you continue looking for a therapist that works for you. Move if you must, but only to a place where you already have connections and know people. Don’t make the problem worse.

    #2252196
    theroshyeshiva
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    There are many springs

    #2252792
    BaisIsThePlace
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    “I’m not saying that i think you are, but often when people want to move out of town, they want to be less religious.”

    Is it Adar already?

    #2252956
    GroinemHoniglekker
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    Jew in the City has an organization that can help and support you through this challenging time. Look it up here:
    https://jewinthecity. com/makom%20-landing/
    I wish you lots of Hatzlacha on your journey.

    #2256444
    huju
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    Chabad is likely the best place to start. They are non-judgmental, interested in keeping off-the-derech Jews on the derech, and very welcoming. The schluchim I have met are also very smart, very kind and ready to help any Jew in any way they can.

    #2256618
    CS
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    Sure Chabad would be happy to help! You can find places and numbers under Chabad dot org, more tools, Chabad locater.

    Ps. It’s motzei shabbos in my locality

    #2256619
    CS
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    I have two students this year from North Carolina

    #2256620
    CS
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    Actually maybe north virginia.

    #2256621
    CS
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    Whoops I was getting mixed up with North Dakota. I think my students do live in North Carolina. Sorry for the digression

    #2256495
    student4life
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    This is Cary/Morrisville area, about 15 minutes from Raleigh.

    The road near-by is called High House Road (Cary, NC). So you can look at prices for apartments near by.

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