December 11, 2016 2:58 am at 2:58 am #618809
Any good lounges in queens or nearby for a date? A place to play board-games.December 11, 2016 3:08 am at 3:08 am #1198691LightbriteParticipant
I was about to suggest a good futonDecember 11, 2016 3:17 am at 3:17 am #1198692
You play games on dates? That sounds like so much fun! Can you talk to the guys I go out with?December 11, 2016 3:29 am at 3:29 am #1198693tzniusMember
The boys that i know that live their you dont want to be around so dont go there.December 11, 2016 3:43 am at 3:43 am #1198694
don’t go where?December 11, 2016 8:00 am at 8:00 am #1198695
(It sounded like she was assuming BigGolem to be
a girl and telling “her” not to go to Queens.)December 11, 2016 8:11 am at 8:11 am #1198696
I don’t know if board games are a good idea on a date.
The ones that are more about interaction generally aren’t good for
2 people, and the thinky ones aren’t good for personal interaction
(also, if one player is obviously better than the other, the experience probably won’t be a pleasant one for the latter, and games designed specifically for 2 players tend to be confrontational, which might not fit the atmosphere of a date).
Additionally, your date may not like games in general or the one(s)
you’ve picked out specifically. If you’ve had good experiences with bringing games on dates, though, let us know.December 11, 2016 10:33 am at 10:33 am #1198697
By the way, what games did you have in mind?December 11, 2016 1:59 pm at 1:59 pm #1198698
It may just be a change of pace, something different than a regular hotel date, something that says you have advanced a little beyond that and feel comfortable enough with each other to play a game. I would chose the game wisely, though, to avoid what Comlink-X said.December 11, 2016 3:46 pm at 3:46 pm #1198699tzniusMember
Dont go to Queens lounge to hang out with guys.December 11, 2016 7:31 pm at 7:31 pm #1198700
Comlink – good points. Do you think it’s a problem for a girl to beat a boy at a game on a date? I did that once when I was 20 and my mother mussared me for it. L’maaseh, he shmeared me the second round, so I suspected he may have let me win the first time anyhow.December 11, 2016 8:55 pm at 8:55 pm #1198701
Comlink – even though your points are valid, the maaleh of games is that it gives you something fun to do so the date isn’t too boring.
I agree with you that it can be a problem of not allowing for personal interaction, and I do remember having this problem once (and I’ve only played games on dates 2x that I can remember). I remember feeling like there was no point to the date at all.
There are two ways to avoid that problem:
1. Only play games for a short time at the beginning of the date as a warm-up. Alternatively, in the middle of the date, if no one has anything to say or it’s just getting boring, you can pull out the games just for a short time. The second time I played a game on a date, he did it this way (the first way), and it worked really well.
2. You can try to find a game that involves conversation. I’m not sure how many games there are like this, but I’m sure there must be some. You are the game expert – do you know of any? I actully recently saw a game that is meant for dates. It has questions to find out about the other person.
Boggle and chess are probably bad ideas (especially boggle).December 12, 2016 12:41 am at 12:41 am #1198702
BigGolem is a guy.
To lilmod ulelamaid- if a guy can’t handle a girl beating him at a silly boardgame, he’s not mature enough to be there.December 12, 2016 1:08 am at 1:08 am #1198703
Biggolem – thanks! Yeah, I don’t think I’d want to marry someone who can’t handle it if I beat him.December 12, 2016 1:39 am at 1:39 am #1198704
I’m surprised that so many here have a low opinion of playing boardgames. If you’ve gone out five times or so, how’s it different from dave and busters or bowling or archery? If you’re the guy and she beats you handily, it’s an opportunity to show you’re a good sport, and praise her for her skill.December 12, 2016 3:09 am at 3:09 am #1198705
Most board games involve thinking so you can’t talk. With bowling, it’s easier to talk.December 12, 2016 3:31 am at 3:31 am #1198706
So you both think and don’t talk for a bit. Sky won’t fall in.December 12, 2016 3:34 am at 3:34 am #1198707
Of course it an’t just with boardgames. If a guy is threatened by a girl besting him in bowling, archery, or whatever, big red flag there.December 12, 2016 3:56 am at 3:56 am #1198708ahronParticipant
i think playing some board games like scattergories or tabboo is a good ideaDecember 12, 2016 4:11 am at 4:11 am #1198709
BG- like I said previously, if it’s only for part of the date, I think it’s fine.December 12, 2016 4:46 am at 4:46 am #1198710
It’s probably best to play boardgames after a few dates, so it feels more like your playing with a friend than a stranger.December 12, 2016 5:13 am at 5:13 am #1198711
That makes sense. Although I did find it to be a good warm-up at the beginning of a first date.December 12, 2016 7:23 am at 7:23 am #1198712
Sometimes changing the setting a bit by playing a game can be very revealing as to a person’s character. I remember a date I had once in a game place, and the guy was trying very hard to win and show off how smart he was. It told me a lot about his character.December 12, 2016 1:05 pm at 1:05 pm #1198713
Do you think it’s a problem for a girl to beat a boy at a game on a date?
…so I suspected he may have let me win the first time anyhow.
It shouldn’t be. (And that feeling is not one you want to give someone.)
This issue can be avoided with a cooperative game (a what?),
to the extent that one person cares more about the other’s
experience than about winning the game itself.
I’m surprised that so many here have a low opinion of playing boardgames. If you’ve gone out five times or so, how’s it different from dave and busters or bowling or archery?
I have a classroom speech from a sem teacher in which she says
that while Dave & Busters dates are accepted as essential, many
girls have told her they came back wondering what the point was…
(I have a high opinion of playing games in general, by the way.)
You can try to find a game that involves conversation. …there must be some… do you know of any? I actually recently saw a game that is meant for dates. It has questions to find out about the other person.
I wonder if I can guess what you saw. Pocket Ungame: Couples Edition (or some other version of The Ungame, called Tell It Like it IS in some editions)? The Jewish dating game, Perfect Matches? (I’d like to know more about that one, but my already-married brother won’t let me check out his opened-but-unused copy.)
That sort of thing is more conversation crutch than game, though.
Games in which you try to get another person to guess what you’re
hinting at might be fun to do as an activity (although they’re
usually designed for multiple teams of multiple people).
This includes things like Password, “$(amounts vary) Pyramid,” Taboo, Articulate!, etc. Probably the most modern one is Codenames or Codenames: Pictures, which include a 2-player cooperative mode. In them, there’s a grid of words (or pictures) on the table. One player tries to give one-word clues that apply to as many of them that are “yours” as possible while avoiding those that aren’t yours (especially the instant-loss one).
If taking turns adding to a story sounds good to you, you have
these options that I am aware of: 1. The competitive Once Upon a Time,
in which you try to get fairy-tale story element cards out of
your hand by using them in the story (or if the other person
mentions them, which passes the telling to you), then end the
story in a particular way. 2. Rory’s Story Cubes, which are a
bunch of dice with symbols on them that suggest story elements.
They can be used in a number of ways.December 12, 2016 2:34 pm at 2:34 pm #1198714
I’ve heard of Perfect Matches. Anyone use it? Know where I could get it?December 12, 2016 2:49 pm at 2:49 pm #1198715
I once played a game on a date and we were each trying to let the other win.December 12, 2016 4:22 pm at 4:22 pm #1198716
“The boys that i know that live their you dont want to be around so dont go there.”
I suppose there are no bad guys wherever you live.
I know plenty of wonderful people from Queens.December 12, 2016 4:39 pm at 4:39 pm #1198717apushatayidParticipant
court street in downtown brooklyn (plenty of street parking) the brooklyn strategist.December 12, 2016 4:41 pm at 4:41 pm #1198718
Lets get back to the first question. I need a place open late in/around Queens, where we could play some boardgames.December 12, 2016 5:10 pm at 5:10 pm #1198719
I live in/around Queens.
If you don’t mind babysitting my kids you’re more than welcome to play boardgames in my dining room. Help yourself to anything the fridge, there’s even some leftover chulent in there.December 12, 2016 6:05 pm at 6:05 pm #1198720
Meno- im actually serious hereDecember 12, 2016 7:35 pm at 7:35 pm #1198721apushatayidParticipant
the brooklyn strategist. less than 20 minutes from queens in downtown brooklyn on court street.December 12, 2016 8:30 pm at 8:30 pm #1198722
BigGolem – One of the two times in my life that I played games on a date was actually in Queens. I think we were in some kind of Cafe, but I don’t remember what or where it was.December 12, 2016 9:00 pm at 9:00 pm #1198723
maybe try one of the hotels near LaGuardia?December 13, 2016 3:18 am at 3:18 am #1198724
lilmod ulelamaid- that’s too badDecember 13, 2016 3:32 am at 3:32 am #1198725
sorry, but there was nothing unique about it, so I’m sure you can easily find another place like that. I think it was just some ordinary cafe. I think it was probably on Main Street because I remember that he didn’t have a car (I guess he was too tznius for that – actually, not).
If you live in Queens, shouldn’t you be able to find out about Cafes or lounges there? Of if it’s the girl who lives in Queens and not you, can you ask her?
Sorry I can’t be more helpful.December 13, 2016 11:07 am at 11:07 am #1198726
(Note: Codenames probably isn’t good for dates.)
You can get Perfect Matches from the PerfectMatchesGame website
(and probably in some Judaica stores).
Do you think a low-key restaurants would have
an issue with you playing a board game there?
I looked up this Brooklyn Strategist place.
Hours: Sun – Mon 11am – 8pm / Tue – Sat 11am – 11pm
Cost: $10-per-person to come in and play for 4 hours.
Address: 333 Court Street
What kind of games do you have in mind? I’m curious.December 13, 2016 2:05 pm at 2:05 pm #1198727
Randomex: “You can get Perfect Matches from the PerfectMatchesGame website”
That’s the game I was talking about before and couldn’t remember what it was called! Thank you! Why wouldn’t your brother let you look at it?
I just saw your post with all the game suggestions. I knew you would have good ideas.December 13, 2016 3:37 pm at 3:37 pm #1198728
Anyone ever play The UnGame?
My wife made me play it when we were dating.
I don’t remember much about it, just that it is not a game at all.
It was torture.December 13, 2016 8:28 pm at 8:28 pm #1198729
Randomex- the Brooklyn Strategist sounds very similar to the Uncommons in manhattan, which i’ve been to. Very small, crowded place.
Some simple card games, word games, nothing too competitive.
Sounds like a spacious starbucks is the best place.
A married friend told me to be cautious of PerfectMatches.December 13, 2016 8:28 pm at 8:28 pm #1198730
Meno- the Ungame sounds like torture.December 13, 2016 11:43 pm at 11:43 pm #1198731
Note: If a game is produced by Yidden, there may be a halachic problem with saying anything online that may cause less people to buy the game.
Meno, what’s the ungame? It sounds familiar. Is it also similar to Perfect Matches – asking each other questions?December 13, 2016 11:44 pm at 11:44 pm #1198732
“Anyone ever play The UnGame?
My wife made me play it when we were dating.
I don’t remember much about it, just that it is not a game at all.
It was torture.”
Good thing you kept going out anyhow.December 14, 2016 2:35 am at 2:35 am #1198733
Big Golem – did you figure out what to do yet?
btw, I’m very impressed that you put so much thought into your dates.December 14, 2016 2:50 am at 2:50 am #1198734ahronParticipant
try tabooDecember 14, 2016 3:40 am at 3:40 am #1198735
lilmod ulelamaid- those be kind words.
I can’t begin to describe how much effort I put in. Or how many miles I’ve driven.December 14, 2016 3:57 pm at 3:57 pm #1198737
In your experience guys dont put in effort?December 14, 2016 5:10 pm at 5:10 pm #1198738
It depends. Not always.
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