Maasar Time to Make Shidduchim

divorced guy, that’s only going to work if people use a little saichel and have more realistic expectations. the shadchanim shouldn’t push shidduchim that don’t make sense, and the singles themselves (read: guys!!) should look in the mirror and adjust their requirements accordingly.

Divorced_Guy, I LOOOOOOOVE your idea! Getting people into it, thats a different story. Most singles and parents are crying that they’re not getting red enough Shidduchim, but themselves wouldnt do it for others even if they were offered payment!!!, so Kal V’ Chomer if theyre not offered payment. People HATE being involved in redding Shidduchim- it’s too time comnsuming, you risk making enemies by either being too pushy or not pushy enough, you get blamed for things…it’s a dirty job. That’s why we’re in the mess we’re in. If everyone would think of redding others Shidduchim, that WOULD be great. Aint gonna happen.

I think it should start with Rabbonim. If people would see that even Rabbonim realize how we so desperately need to red Shidduchim and are willing to invest some time, maybe it would have a ripple effect. Meantime many singles are alone and getting older each passing day, while most of the Klal sits with their hands folded.