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February 16, 2010 4:08 am at 4:08 am #591240tyMember
What’s the reason why people give mishloach manos to their whole block ???February 16, 2010 6:51 pm at 6:51 pm #931355aries2756Participant
So that no one feels left out or insulted!February 16, 2010 7:06 pm at 7:06 pm #931356dunnoMember
why not?February 16, 2010 7:49 pm at 7:49 pm #931357PosterMember
If you dont make your mishloach manos so major and dont spend a lot of money you wont mind giving your whole block. I wanted a red drink in my Mishloach manos this year. I decided on powerade, my neighbor suggested a bottle of cherry wine. I told her that I am not looking to break the bank, I dont think I need to give each person a bottle of wine. I would rather give more people and spend less, then spend more and cut down on my list.February 17, 2010 6:29 am at 6:29 am #931358potsandpansMember
ty…because pp get insulted! and if your trying to create achdus…not so smart to insult pp!February 18, 2010 4:01 am at 4:01 am #931359tyMember
the mitzav is only to give 2 peole ?February 18, 2010 10:54 am at 10:54 am #931360haifagirlParticipant
the mitzav is only to give 2 peole ?
Not quite sure what you are asking. The mitzvah is to give a gift of two food items to one person. Some confusion seems to exist because the mitzvah of matanos levyonim is to give tzedakah to two people.
(On the other hand, if you were trying to ask if the mitzvah is only to give to people, then the answer is yes. No mitzvah to give to pets.)February 18, 2010 4:00 pm at 4:00 pm #931361tomim tihyeMember
We give to our not-yet-frum and elderly neighbors ONLY!
If I happen to be speaking to frum, young neighbors/friends before Purim, I make sure to mention that we won’t be giving them (by now, most know), so no one feels left out.
This way, we can make the few(?) that we do give nicer than if we were giving 100 mishloach manos.
We try to add a new person every year- a non-frum neighbor we don’t know that well, usually.
There were small things that people did for my husband before he became frum- e.g. gave up a seat in a crowded shul on Yom Kippur, which made a roshem on him.
As for teachers: give ’em gelt! Their meager salaries don’t pay the bills, but if every kid gives $10 (or more!), that’s a piece of an overdue paycheck.February 18, 2010 4:41 pm at 4:41 pm #931362shindyMember
Don’t start a new minhag, it’s enough the parents give money on Chanuka, especially with this economy. If a family has quite a few children and lots of teachers that adds up to money that people may not be able to afford. How about a mishloach manos card, or simply a note wishing them a happy purim and thanking them for being such a great teacher?February 18, 2010 11:03 pm at 11:03 pm #931363tomim tihyeMember
Shindy- A note’s fine, but it seems to me that most parents give junk that teachers don’t appreciate. If they’re gonna spend $$ on chocolate, already give them a few dollars instead.February 19, 2010 12:25 am at 12:25 am #931364word of the wiseMember
as someone from a teachers house they really appreciate the money they get on purim even if its 10 dollarsFebruary 19, 2010 2:54 am at 2:54 am #931365shindyMember
One year I gave the teachers a certificate for a whole pizza pie at our local restaurant…they LOVED it!February 19, 2010 3:20 am at 3:20 am #931366mybatMember
Mmmmm pizza….. No good pizza here 🙁February 19, 2010 4:25 pm at 4:25 pm #931367aries2756Participant
Shindy, what you don’t seem to realize is that the teacher also spends money making small shaloch manos packages for each and every student who stops by. So it would be nice if there was one parent in charge of Chanuka and one parent in charge of Purim to collect even just a couple of dollars each kid and have that parent put it in an envelope from the class and deliver it in their own Shalach Manos. And for sure the Teachers are just as deserving as any of your friends or neighbors to receive whatever shaloch manos you prepare for them.February 20, 2013 2:40 am at 2:40 am #931368
I feel that the whole thing is over the top. Yesterday, I was buying mishoach manos for someone else in my program, i was REQUIRED to spend 20 shkalim, they wouldn’t let me get away with less. Halachically, one is required to give two items that are two different brachas. So, I got a mini bag of chips that was five shkalim, and i got 4 shkalim worth of dried fruit because this girl likes dried fruit, and i knew i would have to buy a nice bag, which ended up being four shkalim (if someone were giving me something, i don’t mind it being in a grocery store bag, just as long as it meets the halachic requirements), and my madricha told me i needed to spend another ten shek. i ended up getting her a gift card to an ice cream store, but still, I thought it was ridiculous. Now, I can’t give any to my other friends. That one cost me 25 shkalim.February 20, 2013 2:30 pm at 2:30 pm #931369takahmamashParticipant
I still have some of the delivery lists I made years ago, when my kids were young and we hadn’t yet made aliyah. Between the kid’s friends, their teachers, and the people we (my wife and I) wanted to give-there were 30 or 40 stops!
I’m glad this year we’ve cut it down to 4 – two people who run our makolet, the secretary of kupat cholim, and one elderly gentleman who I’ve become friendly with at our minyan. Makes things much easier and simpler.February 20, 2013 8:32 pm at 8:32 pm #931370
Thats amazing! I wish I could give to more people, but I have so many friends, and I might not even be able to see them all on Purim. Before I lost my treif phone at an inter-seminary choir competition, I had over 200 contacts in it- that would be a lot of people to give mishloach manos to!February 20, 2013 9:16 pm at 9:16 pm #931371haifagirlParticipant
Halachically, one is required to give two items that are two different brachas.
Ask your LOR. That is a common misconception. The halachah is actually two items, not two brachas. Since at least one should be baked, two cupcakes would do it.February 20, 2013 9:30 pm at 9:30 pm #931372yaakov doeParticipant
In Brooklyn it’s gotten totally out of hand so that Mortdechai and Esther wouldn’t know that what’s going on is shaloch monos. For stores to have hundreds of varieties of sugary candies and for people to load shopping carts with nosh is not what it’s about.
I assume the current practice is endorsed by the American Dental Society. If Bloomberg saw shaloch monos being givenm out he’d outlaw that instead of large soft drinks.
Stick to bottles of wine or scotch both of which are beneficial to health.February 20, 2013 9:35 pm at 9:35 pm #931373
Children can’t drink that stuff 😛February 20, 2013 10:31 pm at 10:31 pm #931374Torah613TorahParticipant
We give to everyone for 2 blocks!
Why not, if you don’t make them too expensive, and it’s a family activity, it’s fun. And you never know, there are some people who might not get Sh”m if you don’t give them.February 20, 2013 11:24 pm at 11:24 pm #931375ari-freeParticipant
If you are going to give mishloach manos to the entire block so that they don’t feel left out then you should first give matanos l’evyonim to all the poor so they don’t feel left out.February 20, 2013 11:45 pm at 11:45 pm #931376ThePurpleOneMember
my fam makes 70 family one and each kid makes 10-15.. i def agree that its a fam activity;) how much does everyones family make? not ur individual ones..February 20, 2013 11:50 pm at 11:50 pm #931377ThePurpleOneMember
btw every yr my fam makes sure 2 giv to certain ppl on my block who rlly need it.. for ex there are like 2 jewish men on my block who married spanish women and now have nonjewish kids.. so we always giv to them and they allwaayys appreciate!! huge kiddush hashem!!
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