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February 3, 2015 3:21 pm at 3:21 pm #614800the plumberMember
Purim night i went to get somehting in the hallway, and i there where 3 second graders having one of the saddest arguments i have ever heard. this is how it went,kid 1″ no my shalach manos has (blank) candy, its the best” kid 2″ no mine is, my shaloch manos was the talk of_____(place had seuda) and we had people linkng up on the porch!” kid 3 starts crying saying”my shaloch manos doesnt have anything special”
Is this really what purim has come to? Kids argue who has a more wealthy father? Any thoughts? Does this trouble anyone else?
February 3, 2015 3:39 pm at 3:39 pm #1057256The little I knowParticipantAn even greater fear is that our children may believe that the mitzvah of mishloach manos is donating money to a yeshiva or other organization instead of sending 2 manos to anyone. Mishloach manos is a mitzvah with specific interpersonal goals. Even the greatest yeshiva or organization, as worthy a charitable cause as they may be, cannot substitute for the mitzvah. Has our community commercialism obscured the mitzvos?
February 3, 2015 5:06 pm at 5:06 pm #1057257Rema711MemberThe little I know that’s what happened to challoween
February 3, 2015 5:16 pm at 5:16 pm #1057258Yayin Yashan B’Kli ChadashParticipantA more creative mother, not wealthy father. And even though this is almost a carbon copy of the drinking thread, it’ll never become as popular, simply die to the fact that its not controversial enough. There is a limited amount of damage fancy mishloach manos can do, and the issue is not really a Purim issue, its a general “keeping up with the Cohens” issue.
February 3, 2015 5:29 pm at 5:29 pm #1057259WolfishMusingsParticipantYour first mistake was forgetting after the first sentence that these are second graders. You can’t expect seven year olds to have the concerns you’re expressing. When adults do it, it’s sad. When seven year olds do it, they’re being kids.
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February 3, 2015 5:39 pm at 5:39 pm #1057260Rema711MemberYYBC u meant to say keeping up with the Katz
February 3, 2015 6:05 pm at 6:05 pm #1057262the plumberMemberThe point im actually trying to bring out is that everyone hocks about drinking on purim. There are similarly big issues with other mitzvos on purim and keeping up with the jones’s (not katz’s or cohen’s).
Everyone has to remember that theyre mitzvos you just do them.
February 3, 2015 6:25 pm at 6:25 pm #1057263Rema711Memberthe plumber we have an oral law that explains WHY we do the mitzvahs
February 3, 2015 11:10 pm at 11:10 pm #1057264the plumberMemberRema
Low and behold, that SAME oral law tells us to get blind drunk on purim.
This thread is copy and pasted from a post anti-drinking on purim.
For some reason people seem to agree with that poster but disagree with me…
February 4, 2015 12:14 am at 12:14 am #1057265Rema711Memberthe plumber oral law my friend
February 4, 2015 3:14 am at 3:14 am #1057266Yayin Yashan B’Kli ChadashParticipantThey disagree because the shulchan aruch and poskim talk about pitfalls of drinking, but not the pitfalls of mishloach manos. It may not be recommended to overdo it, but its definitely not an aveirah, nor does it directly cause any. (For the record, I do drink on Purim.)
February 4, 2015 3:18 am at 3:18 am #1057267Rema711MemberYYBC good for u
February 4, 2015 4:46 am at 4:46 am #1057268the plumberMemberYybc
The mussar seforim talk about the pitfalls of jealousy.
They both have downsides.
(For the record i give shalach manos on purim)
February 5, 2015 1:26 am at 1:26 am #1057270Rebbe YidParticipantPlumber
it’s funny that you misquote the rema to a guy whose screenname is rema
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