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Do you think there’s a connection between being ultra kind and caring…and less attractive?Or only amongst non-Jews?
No such a connection. There are plenty of nice looking Jews and goyim who do chessed and vice-versa. Everyone has Bechira, no matter what they look like on the outside. This is your creative, writing mind playing tricks on you.
Yes, many times. Sometimes not though.
“Like people who can’t use beauty as a free pass in life have to be nice,sincerely nice?”
I disagree. I’m extremely beautiful, actually handsome and I’m very nice too boot!
Many people who are beautiful become extremely snobby and bigshoty. But many beautiful people remain really special inside!
I guess we have some of both!
I feel like with people who are super nice and ALSO beautifull- Its the beauty that gets the spotlight, and the kind deeds are unfortunately overshadowed, and unnoticed in comparison. Anyone notice this? I have, and its horrible..
eclipse; I can understand, Psychologically, where you’re coming from. But kindness (among all Human beings) comes from the heart, the soul, the Neshama. I know plenty of Beautiful, handsome people who are kind, to boot. On the other hand, (which might give a boost to an opposing theory, that the appearance of a person is a reflection of their soul.) I know quite a few people who are as mean and as sour in their deeds and actions as is reflected on their face.
I would say Sarah Imanu had very good midos despite her great beauty.
eclipse- yay someone gets me! It also scares me with the GUYS.. In shidduchim its not even considered shallow to be into looks.. Its like get with the times! U gotta hav a picture, they gotta know ur size… Does anyone have any depth??
When I was getting Divorced n stuff my ex wanted to try to figure out how he felt about me. He put together a list of pros and cons about me. It was entirely body parts.. lol!!?! It wouldntv been so horrofying if I thought that was my value, and if I didnt know how amazing my unique character is.
I dont understand why WOMAN are like this though.. obsessing and idolizing beauty as if it IS worth..
eclipse – “Health–and humble?”
Look you can state the truth and not be affected by it. Moshe Rabbeynu wrote “Moshe the Man was the most humble person of anyone in this world”. He wasn’t affected by writing this.
Also, how did I know you were going to write what you did after I commented?
s2021 -So did ur ex come out pro or con?
health- lol- As I said before.. He still thinks I belong with him.. guess that means I passed
s2021 – It’s funny that you wrote ur ex would come after anyone who married you; I once overheard my ex discussing taking a hit out on me.
What does this have to do with Mother Theresa?
I guess she was ugly.
perhaps mother T figured she had no chance on the runway in paris so she decided to be kind and giving to earn peoples likeness and approval….:))
as far as ex’s and hitmen…i would strongly advise a restraining order…but thats just me….i had an ex threaten to come after anyone i dated but bh i think hes back home, in the psycho ward where he belongs
cshap- aaaaaw he can be friends with my ex!! They can polish ther shotguns together.. and Health can fwd the invite to his ex if things get dull!!
okay but visiting hours are from 12-2…but best to call in advance to double check that he is taking his meds…
s2021- My ex-wife doesn’t need any cowboys helping her -she’s got the mob behind her!
s2021 & cshapiro -How did the two of you end up with such winners?
lol health…after him i became more selective hence the ‘i only date football player’ phase. bh no psychos since then…;))
health- lol
and Oy.. The perils of being young and trusting in todays shidduch market..
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So from these two gemarahs it seems that doing chesed and being attractive are part of the Jewish female genetics.
I don’t think it’s nice to discuss ex spouses here. Sorry to ruin the fun. I don’t know why some posts were approved.
(Am I being a goody goody?)
Cookie- It probly wasnt very nice.. but it was SO fun.. I wouldnt really talk about him at all in real life, and it felt really good to vent a lil..
What motivated mother Teresa? Was it her giving nature or her religious beliefs? She was a catholic nun after all…
She was not ugly. Have any of you ignoramuses ever seen a photograph of her as a young woman? Her skin was wrinkled, but that is what happens when you take someone from Eastern Europe and put them in a hot and sunny climate for decades.
Eclipse & s2021 – “No,you are probably right.
Cookie- It probly wasnt very nice.. but it was SO fun.. I wouldnt really talk about him at all in real life, and it felt really good to vent a lil..”
Stop feeling guilty -I don’t. She’s entitled to her opinion, but she isn’t a mod.
I will continue to post whatever I feel like posting and if it doesn’t pass the mods -ok that’s their perjorative. But my posts don’t have to meet anyone else’s approval!
Health- how can you be so certain that I’m not a mod?
I’m not here to tell you to stop talking. I can’t control anyone but myself.
I was just making you aware that what you were doing isn’t the nicest thing in the world, in case you didn’t realize it.
Sorry if you were offended.
Health- dont worry, we can all post whatever we want with the Mods permission, but we now have a “Touchy Subject Support Group” for those of us who need to vent about touchy subjects… ppl who r afraid of such subjects can simply not join! 🙂
smartcookie – “Health- how can you be so certain that I’m not a mod?”
If you were, we wouldn’t be having this convo now, you would have just deleted anything you didn’t like.
“I’m not here to tell you to stop talking. I can’t control anyone but myself.”
At least you realize that and maybe also you can control your husband & kids.
“I was just making you aware that what you were doing isn’t the nicest thing in the world, in case you didn’t realize it.”
Thanks for the realization, but when it comes to posting – I post and if it’s not up to par, the mods have the edit & delete buttons.
“Sorry if you were offended.”
I wasn’t, but it seems that eclipse & s2021 were.
no worries- def wasnt offended
Health- sometimes it’s not something a mod would delete because the content is fine. But the post doesn’t reflect well on the writer.
That was my point. It just wasn’t nice!
But please! Do as you feel is right!
Ok next please!
I will continue to post whatever I feel like posting and if it doesn’t pass the mods -ok that’s their perjorative. But my posts don’t have to meet anyone else’s approval!
Btw Health- that, to me, looked like you were offended. I didn’t see that coming from Eclipse and S2021 (and you’re a man!)
So, sorry if you were or weren’t offended!
SC – “Btw Health- that, to me, looked like you were offended”
That’s just making a statement on my posting, not answering to you.
“But the post doesn’t reflect well on the writer.
That was my point. It just wasn’t nice!”
Now it seems you are trying to offend me!
BTW -I’m not always a nice person; at least I’m real, not like a lot of people!
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