Reb Yaakov Kaminetsky famously said not to give a name which would sound strange to the kids American friends. i.e. Give good Ivrith names from Tenach, and stay away fro archaic Jiddish names.
If anyone thinks this remark is too Zionistic:- Bear in mind that no-on would give an Archaic Aramaic name out of the Talmud, so certainly a Jiddish name shouldn’t get any preferential treatment over any Aramaic name.
The ilui neshomo which comes through having someone named after you is, I’m told, only if the name is precise.
So if the niftar was named Dovid and the baby is named Dovid Aharon after the niftar, the additional name given either because the niftar died young or for reasons of the parents personal preference, then it ruins the ilui neshomo aspect?
Giving every name anyone suggested and sounding like you’re reading the list of words that Reb Chaim said aren’t names every time you make a Mi Sheberach isn’t a solution either.
How many names did Reb Chaim pasken are not real names?
So I’m told.
My great grandmother was named Chulda. The name that every body gave to their kid was Ahuva Chulda .
My grandmother’s name was Kreindel
my sister and some of my cousins are named Atara (Hebrew for Kreindel)
She who carries the baby, suffers chevlei laydah etc.. gets to name the baby. Not the father and certainly not the grandparents. A woman who is a mentch will take everyones ideas into consideration. Ultimately a successful girl or boy will elevate even the most odd sounding name into the height of cool and sticky.
Not the father
Er, no, al pi halacha the father has naming rights.