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February 27, 2020 3:05 pm at 3:05 pm #1836076Pro schnappsParticipant
my friend took a narcissism test and she scored a 22. it said normal is between 12 and 15. celebrities usually score around 18. she got a 22. #sendhelpFebruary 27, 2020 3:40 pm at 3:40 pm #1836087meir GParticipant
a few points;
narcassists dont think they need help they just dont want YOU to think theyre narcassitic
on a plane to a chasuna in chicago i noticed a velts pyschologist ( frum) and i asked him what treatment model can help a narcassist i suggested DBT, GESTALT… his answer was ” A STICK”
like all personality disorders its gehenom in the old days we called people like this ” a shvere mentch”
the challenge is that after nodding to your logical explanations ” THEY JUST DONT GET IT” and 30 min later its like you never discussed anything
hopefully your friend is not this bad and the first step is understanding the concept of “reciprocity” that life is a 2 way street and to get you need to give .
ps DBT can help – each of us need to look deep inside and root out even small bits of this bad midohFebruary 27, 2020 3:40 pm at 3:40 pm #1836088Reb EliezerParticipant
The Bina Leitim says איזהו עשיר השמח בחלקו if we make others happy, we make ourselves happy and will feel rich.February 27, 2020 7:34 pm at 7:34 pm #1836167pro geshmake yiddenParticipant
What’s dbt? A mussar Sefer?February 27, 2020 8:39 pm at 8:39 pm #1836186Reb EliezerParticipant
What about the mirror image where you put yourself in the others place? How would you feel if this was done to you?February 28, 2020 10:43 am at 10:43 am #1836256☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
on a plane to a chasuna in chicago
Sounds like an Abie Rotenberg songFebruary 28, 2020 1:57 pm at 1:57 pm #1836280maskildoreshParticipant
Please remember that not every arrogant, difficult, and self-centered person is a narcissist.
There’s a trend to jump to the label today. Especially if you or someone you love is involved in a difficult situation in marriage or another difficult interpersonal situation. There are a lot of difficult people who cause there pain who are not narcissistic, and don’t necessarily deserve to be labeled as such. Even if he or she is causing you pain!March 1, 2020 10:24 pm at 10:24 pm #1836710chashParticipant
ha. is she a good friend? then probably not narcissistic.
btw, you shouldnt take random tests,[was it administered, or she found it somewhere, like a book or online?]
I have tried, when i was younger to take online iq tests, i varied from over 147 to 93. um, i stuck with the 147.March 2, 2020 7:57 am at 7:57 am #1836775ToiParticipant
Meh, I just took the same test and got a 26. And I’m pretty amazing, so I don’t think you need to worry.March 3, 2020 12:37 am at 12:37 am #1837198pro geshmake yiddenParticipant
I love that song about the Atheist convention in laMarch 11, 2020 4:08 pm at 4:08 pm #1839180flowersParticipant
I’m wondering why you think the label “narcissist” is worse than being called an “arrogant, difficult, and self-centered person”?March 11, 2020 8:36 pm at 8:36 pm #1839222SpeltchallahParticipant
It seems the label of narcissist is used as a way of saying there’s no way for this person to change.
As Opposed to someone who is arrogant, difficult, and self-centered there is hope for them to see the error of their ways.March 12, 2020 11:53 am at 11:53 am #1839409Pros and ConsParticipant
Firstly assuming you’re friends with a yid, why are you saying lashon hara with no toeles?
And if your friend is an akum, what does that say about you?
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