February 27, 2017 12:12 pm at 12:12 pm #619346
Does anyone have names of shadchanim who deal with perfect bochorim with all the many maailos? A boy who is a talmid chochom, has great yichus on all sides of the family, family is wealthy, the boy is tall, handsome, well posed, has many friends and admirers and has a life full of activities, hobbies and volunteer work?February 27, 2017 12:56 pm at 12:56 pm #1220514
I don’t know about shadchanim, but I know a girl who’s looking for a boy like that…. If you know a boy like that, you can be the shadchan. 🙂
Well actually, I’m not so sure that I want a boy who “has a life full of activities, hobbies, and volunteer work”, and you didn’t mention anything about middos which is kind of the most important thing. You also didn’t mention anything about personality traits.February 27, 2017 1:09 pm at 1:09 pm #1220515
Top notch middos and a very happy outgoing demeanor, full of love of life and a to-do person.
The problem is he’s so in demand that all the girls are chalishing to date him. He needs a shadchan who specializes in perfect shidduch candidates to connect him to the perfect girl.February 27, 2017 1:46 pm at 1:46 pm #1220516
I thought you were already marriedFebruary 27, 2017 2:03 pm at 2:03 pm #1220517
Who is talking about me?
(Though, thank you for seeing me as the epitome of perfection!)February 27, 2017 3:22 pm at 3:22 pm #1220518Avram in MDParticipant
If he’s so perfect, why is he not married yet?February 27, 2017 3:31 pm at 3:31 pm #1220519
He just got started in the parsha of shidduchim.February 27, 2017 3:35 pm at 3:35 pm #1220520
Maybe the perfect girl is not the best idea for himFebruary 27, 2017 4:22 pm at 4:22 pm #1220521BigGolemParticipant
A shadchan who specializes in perfection. Who only seeks to match the perfect with the perfect.
Does such a thing exist? Does our community produce this mentality? Shame.
How elitist and insulting to the rest of us.
40 days before these perfect people are born, are they matched only with each other?February 27, 2017 5:33 pm at 5:33 pm #1220522Avram in MDParticipant
How elitist and insulting to the rest of us.
Lol, are we going to have to define an extension to Poe’s Law, where, instead of being unable to distinguish between sincere extreme opinions and parody of those opinions, we’re unable to distinguish between true outrage and a parody of outrage to those opinions?February 27, 2017 6:07 pm at 6:07 pm #1220523BigGolemParticipant
Sarcasm doesn’t carry well in a text.
Let’s just say I expressed your sentiments in stronger words.February 27, 2017 7:15 pm at 7:15 pm #1220524
Yes of course. Just have him call Gabriel or Michael.February 28, 2017 12:13 am at 12:13 am #1220525
Well, then, it seems that I would be the perfect match for him since he’s perfect and I’m not.February 28, 2017 12:18 am at 12:18 am #1220526
Maybe, but then I just remembered this:February 28, 2017 12:33 am at 12:33 am #1220527
Well this is Joseph’s shidduch and he thinks that opposites attract….
In any case, if Joseph thinks that opposites attract, he can set the guy up with me, and if he thinks the guy needs a perfect girl, I know several perfect girls who are looking for a shidduch…February 28, 2017 12:33 am at 12:33 am #1220528
Btw Joseph, how do you know this guy? Is he your son or something? Nephew? Best friend’s son?February 28, 2017 12:42 am at 12:42 am #1220529
My talmid.February 28, 2017 12:52 am at 12:52 am #1220530
How is he your talmid? I always thought you work.
And is this whole thing a joke? The perfect boy would not need someone posting about him.February 28, 2017 1:03 am at 1:03 am #1220531
Baruch Hashem this is my first talmid to enter the shidduch parsha. So we’re a little new about handling such a perfect shidduch.February 28, 2017 1:06 am at 1:06 am #1220532
Are you serious or joking?February 28, 2017 1:12 am at 1:12 am #1220533
Have I ever kidded you?February 28, 2017 1:15 am at 1:15 am #1220534
probably. Around these parts, it can be really hard to know sometimes when people are kidding or not.February 28, 2017 1:17 am at 1:17 am #1220535
One clue that you are kidding is that it not possible for a 23 year old boy to already be a Talmid Chacham and yet have a life full of activities, hobbies and volunteer work. I’m not sure if that is possible for anyone, but certainly not at the age of 23.February 28, 2017 1:21 am at 1:21 am #1220536
btw, I don’t know how most girls feel, but personally I am always hesitant about dating a boy who does chessed round-the-clock.
And having a life full of activities, hobbies and volunteer work would probably entail the same problem (although I don’t believe that anyone has ever redt a boy with that description to me).
Which is that I am not really interested in a husband who is never home and never available for his family.February 28, 2017 2:17 am at 2:17 am #1220537
He’s mamish an illuy. Lhavdil elef havdolos, like the 19 year old who graduated from Harvard; that’s a rare occurrence, but it happens on very infrequent occasion. If I told you everything else he’s already accomplished in his young life you’d be sure I’m kidding you. But it is what it is. (Shteiging yom vlayla, etc.)
And his current life full of activities, hobbies and volunteer work is only in lieu of the fact he isn’t married and has the time on his hands as a single bochor. Farshteit zich once he’s married his wife and children will be the center of his life and activities, replacing the time fillers he has now that he does when he has down time.February 28, 2017 3:13 am at 3:13 am #1220538hujuParticipant
I thought all shadchans had only boys described by the opening poster.February 28, 2017 3:36 am at 3:36 am #1220539☢️ Rand0m3x 🎲Participant
I thought of that joke too. 🙂February 28, 2017 4:08 am at 4:08 am #1220540
What about Reb Shidduch? She’s looking for a learning boy. And if you make the shidduch, you can get the shidduch gelt.February 28, 2017 7:29 am at 7:29 am #1220541
“Surely there’s a girl somewhere in the wide world who is a pea in the same pod and of the same disposition as this [perfect] fellow and thus a suitable match for him.” (Joseph, modified to make it work in this thread)
Would the shadchan who matches angry singles also match perfect singles?February 28, 2017 10:49 pm at 10:49 pm #1220542
I figured out who this perfect boy is!!!
He must be Joseph’s son! That’s why it’s the first time that he has a “talmid” in the Parsha, and that’s why he only has one, and that’s why he’s responsible for his shidduchim even though he seems unsure how to go about it, and most importantly, that’s why he thinks he’s perfect!!!!!
You’re such a good father that you consider your son to be perfect!March 1, 2017 6:14 am at 6:14 am #1220543I. M. ShluffinParticipant
I’m not sure I could handle someone so perfect for a husband. I don’t think I’d enjoy being humbled by his presence all day long.March 1, 2017 2:12 pm at 2:12 pm #1220544
being humbled by his presence all day long
Joseph would call that a perfect marriageMarch 1, 2017 3:12 pm at 3:12 pm #1220545I. M. ShluffinParticipant
Great, so set me up.March 1, 2017 11:23 pm at 11:23 pm #1220546
Actually if he’s perfect then he shouldn’t make people feel bad. So if he makes people feel “humbled by his presence” it could only be in a positive way.March 3, 2017 2:41 pm at 2:41 pm #1220547A Woman Outside BrooklynParticipant
And I was silly enough to believe that only HKBH is perfect.March 3, 2017 4:25 pm at 4:25 pm #1220548
He is the perfect shidduch “candidate.”
Aka on Paper.
Who knows what happens when the man is in office.
I pray that he will be perfect for someone 🙂 for that even an imperfect person can become
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