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I really hope this isnt a joke. I mamish have no time…but I couldnt help but want to help you after reading a few of your posts Im no psychologist or therapist, or even old wise man, but what i can tell you is like this. First of all you gotta be yourself, and no matter how zany, nerdy or weird you are people will like you if you are you.(and plus trying to be someone else wont make you truthfully happy) As long as your not a seriously (like its written all over your face every second of the day) depressed, annoying, mean, easily angered person I Dont see why people would want to stay away from you. If your an overall really nice guy, but just look like a nerd in the way you dress or act.. sooo what???? the people who wouldnt want to be friends with you are people you dont want to be friends with, ( waaaay to superficial). Also you gotta realize that REAL relationships with people dont just happen you have to work on them! as “nerdy” as that sounds. If you see someone you once had a nice chat with, and you think to yourself that you wouldnt mind being their friends..than go up to them, and ask them if they would want to chill with you. Also just a massive general thing to know is WHEN YOU GIVE YOU GET. try being EXTRA nice to people go out of your way for them( dont get stepped all over) but just try to be nice. do chasadim.. and yea most importantly DAVEN FOR SIYATA DISHMAYA. there are many people out there who are in need of a friend… they are in the same situation as you!! your not alone bro

What’s wrong with being a nerd?

First you’re a loser and now ur a nerd? I can’t tell if you are serious or ur just trying to play with us here on the cr.

If you are serious, i’m sorry for you. like someone suggested on the other thread, make friends here on the cr. that should help somewhat. also there really is nothing wrong with seeing a therapist. you’d be surprised how many ppl go to a therapist. there’s nothing to be ashamed of.

also don’t be so sure others see you as you describe urself. u might be pleasantly surprised at how others think of you.

hatzlacha and keep in touch with us here.

Don’t accept the label. Only you can say what you are. If you don’t want to be a nerd, then you are not a nerd!

umm, peerimsameach, I think you responded using the wrong screen name.

Now THIS is amusing…

Why do you think you’re a nerd on the surface? Has someone told you that?

If you figured it out (either by observing the dress of others compared to yours or their speech, etc) then you’re not as much of a nerd as you think. Nerdiness, in my opinion, is by definition, someone who doesn’t fit in. If you can see where you don’t, then you are more socially aware than you think.

How are you different? It sounds like you do not embrace this “differentness”. How would you want to be more similar to others? Dressing similarly is as easy as shopping in trendy stores where you think the salespeople are “with it” and asking them to help you put outfits together. There are plenty of places that do this. If you need suggestions, just ask. I actually once approached another parent in one of my kids classes and told her I loved the way she dresses. I asked her if she could help me choose better clothing. She was SOOOOO complimented and happy to help. I wasn’t even friends with her. She was just a nice person. Socially, verbally, you might need more guidance. Carrying on conversations can be hard when you don’t know how to do it. It also takes sensitivity to those around you and the ability to read body language to tell you who’s open to talking, how long to talk, what subjects interest people. This is something you would be best off learning in a social skills group. I highly recommend it.

IS this a joke??

WHo wrote this thread, I scream or peerimsameach?

If it’s a joke, it’s ugly and wasting people’s time.

genevas zman. Not a joke.

Lol!! Im so not a nerd!! Becpome frenz with me and ppl will think ur the cooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooolest!!

I don’t usually respond to posts often but I felt that maybe it can be helpful.

First of all I don’t intend to be hurtful in anyway and if anything I say may hurt you then please forgive me.

One needs to look into themselves and write down the reasons that one thinks he/she is a nerd and try to see if it is a valid reason or just some perceived notion based on x amount of times that people have told him/her or made him/her feel like he/she is a nerd etc…. (Also alot of this might have to do with ones upbringing schooling etc…. so it can really take time to figure these things out.)

Once one has the reasons that he/she thinks that he/she is a nerd, he should go through them and see if there are things that he/she can change. For example if one tends to be forgetful and puts his glasses on top of their head and forgets that he/she put them there and then looks for them for an hour and finally finds them, one can think to themselves” Boy am I slow…. I am such a scatter brain… etc…. etc….all these are negative feelings which lead a person to have negative thoughts and low self esteem which eventually leads to being anti social and then leads to depression G-d forbid. but if one learns to do things to help oneself not get into this situation it will help him/her reverse this effect and to build a better self image etc…

One has to believe in themselves in order to succeed so after he/she devises some sort of plan to change what can be changed and to accept that which is hard to change I believe that he/she will be more ready to believe in themselves.

I am sure that I barely covered this in depth as there is a lot more out there and there are a lot more possibilities of what the problem might be related to. Usually these issues are related to low self esteem and reading books on how to develop better self esteem will be helpful.

Last but not least one needs to ask Hashem to help him/her see the truth, to be happy with who they are and to be able to change the things that can be changed and to accept the things that cant be changed.

lol ohh man.. i just realized all the confusion. ha let me clarify….

basically (k it was dumb, i’ll admit) i thought that “coffee addict” was talking to ME. trust me, i am NOT that ice cream dude. far from it, actually.

sorry for all the confusion- that was pretty funny!

Funny thing but I actually believe Peerimsameach.

I don’t think this was a troll thread, at least not to the extent it was taken.

yitayningwut- Yo thanks for the backup… But i don’t need it Who cares what people think of you in the cr….

kodos to you Duggie!!

I think ice cream is still here as more and more_2…but that’s just my personal opinion…