April 29, 2013 8:14 pm at 8:14 pm #609173
Do you get nervous before speaking publicly?
I used to, but now I get much less nervous. The rocks turned into butterflies.April 29, 2013 8:23 pm at 8:23 pm #950289popa_bar_abbaParticipant
I get nervous, but it’s the audience I’m worried about. I’ll be fine–they’re the ones who have to listen to me.
Very nerve-wracking indeed.April 30, 2013 2:34 pm at 2:34 pm #950290lovebeingjewishParticipant
i get SO NERVOUS! My heart beats so fast, i shake, my voice is shakey like i am out of breath! but i also get nervous if i get called to the Torah, or if ppl introduce themselves in a circle and then its my turn, or in a meeting, or sheva brachos when im asked to speak..anytime im in these positions! but its only when im put on the spot. When i volunteer to speak without being formally called on, i dont really get nervous..
its so distressing! anyone have any tips! it seems impossible to avoid these types of situations!April 30, 2013 3:50 pm at 3:50 pm #950291
lol Popa that’s actually a pretty good way to distract oneself.
lovebeingjewish: I don’t love speaking either, because I am always scared of being boring or saying something wrong. Over time, I realized that everyone makes mistakes, and I don’t think less of them for it, it’s only embarrassing when it’s me making the mistake.
Also, I try to think about the people and not about myself. BUt it’s harder than it sounds.
Really, practice makes perfect.April 30, 2013 4:06 pm at 4:06 pm #950292Bored214Participant
I once heard a top speaker, who’s been speaking publicly for years, he once commented that his worst speeches are the ones he wasnt nervous for. I think it’s something to do with the nerves creating adrenaline and once you’re on stage and you begin talking, the words begin to flow and the nerves will transform into confidence and you’ll do great.
I’ve spoken publicly a couple of times and yes i was so nervous i couldnt eat for hours beforehand but i know that once i actually start talking the nerves usualy start to go. I dont think the nerves are such a bad thing.April 30, 2013 4:10 pm at 4:10 pm #950293Torah4MeParticipant
Homeopathic Remedy Gelsemium works a treatApril 30, 2013 4:48 pm at 4:48 pm #950294ToiParticipant
im chilled before i speak. and quite hammered. its a mitzvah.April 30, 2013 5:45 pm at 5:45 pm #950295
I’m terrified of speaking in public, in any setting. The first time I subbed for a third-grade class was when I realized that being a Rabbi or a teacher was not for me. Nope.April 30, 2013 7:18 pm at 7:18 pm #950296
Toi: Sounds like that’s your favorite mitzva. Doesn’t it say ?? ?????… never mind that was ?? ?????.
Sam2: Lol. I once subbed a class and decided that if I have to be a teacher, it won’t be in elementary school. 🙂April 30, 2013 7:58 pm at 7:58 pm #950297popa_bar_abbaParticipant
Also, being drunk helps big time.April 30, 2013 11:31 pm at 11:31 pm #950298writersoulParticipant
I love public speaking! (Which is, as I discovered to my chagrin, not the same as Public Speaking, the class. BIGGEST waste of time ever.) I actually just spoke on Shabbos. I used to be really shy, and even now I’m not the most explosively friendly person, but being the oldest of a bunch of siblings who are even shyer than you doesn’t really give you a lot of room to be shy. Since I got over it, I’ve discovered that it’s really fun. I’ve given divrei Torah and speeches at simchos, and I’m in my school debate club.
I don’t feel nervous until I stand up. Then I agree with what Bored said- it’s the nervousness that pushes the words out and makes it flow.May 3, 2013 2:34 am at 2:34 am #950299ultimateskierMember
writersoul- i beg to differ, public speaking is NOT a waste of time of a class. there is sooo much to know about speaking and there is no way to even dream up half of what goes into it. I never thought i was a bad speaker till i took public speaking and woah i now notice sooooooooooo much more the things speakers do which are really not so great. can’t say im an incredible speaker yet but i improved a ton from taking that class and think everyone whether theyre going to be public speakers or not should take such a class- just general communication skills, you know?May 3, 2013 6:03 pm at 6:03 pm #950300writersoulParticipant
Well, different people have different tastes in classes… two people could even take the same class and have totally different impressions :).
It just didn’t really work for me.May 3, 2013 8:37 pm at 8:37 pm #950301
Oh No Sam2! I just noticed your subtitle! Will you ever forgive me?!May 3, 2013 9:20 pm at 9:20 pm #950302
yeah Syag, why did you do thatMay 3, 2013 9:36 pm at 9:36 pm #950303
talk about riot inciting – this was truly a riot!May 3, 2013 10:23 pm at 10:23 pm #950304
Syag: Oh, I just noticed. I finally have a subtitle. Yay! Can I ask where it came from, what it refers to, and how you did it?May 3, 2013 10:36 pm at 10:36 pm #950305
You would have to read the thread about friends finding out your identity (don’t worry, it’s a quick read). I used your name to make a point because you seemed like such an even keeled person who wouldn’t be bothered by being mentioned.May 3, 2013 10:39 pm at 10:39 pm #950306May 3, 2013 11:04 pm at 11:04 pm #950307
Syag: Ah. I see. No worries. It’s amusing. I noticed that it just got longer though. 73, am I in a race with Popa and crazybrit now?May 3, 2013 11:22 pm at 11:22 pm #950308
say something funny that I can add and then you probably will be.
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